I am a woman of age 27. I got ...

[Anonymous]

I am a woman of age 27. I got married three years back. Mine was an arranged marriage. Even before my wedding, I felt something odd to marry this guy. I sent many prayer requests to many people. Everyone prayed that my wedding has to happen without fail. And so, my wedding was over. We had many different opinions and even he didn't have any respect for me initially. Both regretted for marrying each other many times. Now, the problem is, we never had sex for all these 3 years. For the first one and a half years, we tried for just less than 10 times and it did not succeed. I quarreled with him to consult a doctor and after a very big fight that too after one and a half years, he consulted a doctor. My husband was prescribed some pills, then some gels and even some injections thrice a week. But nothing was fruitful. I never had sex before with anyone else. Now, I really want to live. Why is the sex denied to me even after marriage? My parents and even my sister advising me to stay like this without getting a divorce. They all say if sex happens at least once and if I got conceived, that's it-end of all problems. But I heard married couples used to have sex more than once in their lifetime. Then why is it supposed to be like this for me?

My husband is 30 now. Even at this age, he could not have sex with me. What about in the future? I don't know about his past in having sex with anyone. His testosterone level is less than the minimum range. My family members knew about this. But still they want me to be like a saint. I am not interested in anyone else. But I am afraid I might fall to some one else in the future for the sake of having sex. Why God is letting me sin by giving an impotent husband? Why God is pushing me to live with him by not getting divorce? I am going through this on my mind for so long time. But no answer for these questions. Please pray God to answer my questions. I am totally against to have an affair. I don't want to sin more and more. Then why it is denied even we are legally married? I am ready to divorce him not only for this reason, there are more. He used to ask forgiveness if something is wrong with him, but in the near future, if he gets better options, he used to mistreat me, disrespect me. I cannot take this from him. We quarreled a lot. But nothing changed. I tried to be patient so that his health problem would recover. But nothing happened. Why am I denied married sex at the age of 24 to 27? I never wanted sex from anyone else but him, only because we are married. That never happened. What is God's will for my future? I don't know. I am not even 1% willing to continue life with my husband. That 1% will go to 100% if God tells me to. Please pray to God for letting me know his plans for me. Please God I really want to live my life from this new year.

 

[godismystrength]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Nineteen51]

Pray this: I am God's child. I resist the devil. No weapon formed against me shall prosper.

I put on the whole armor of God. I take authority over this day, in Jesus name.

Let it be prosperous for me, and let me walk in your love, Lord.

 

[doot]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jvill]

I prayed for this in Jesus name.

 

[tina1]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[HeatherSmokey]

God, our help and assistance, who is just and merciful, and who hears the prayers of your people; look down upon me. a miserable sinner, have mercy upon me, and deliver me from the troubles that torment me, even though I might deserve them. Grant me, I pray, your divine helping grace; endow me with patience and strength to endure my tribulations with complete submission to your will. You know my misery and suffering and to you, my only hope and refuge, I flee for relief and comfort; trusting your infinite love and compassion, that in due time, when you know it is for the best, you will deliver me from my troubles, and turn my distress into comfort, and I will rejoice in your mercy, and exalt and praise your Holy Name, O Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, In Jesus Name Amen

 

FIRST OFF, I WANT TO MAKE IT CLEAR THAT THE LORD DOES HATE DIVORCE. THIS BEING SAID, THAT DOES NOT NECESSARLY MEAN YOU SHOULD STAY IN A LOVELESS, SEXLESS MARRIAGE.  THERFORE, I START BY PRAYING THAT GOD WILL REVEAL HIS WILL TO YOU AND THAT YOU WILL ACCEPT HIS WILL NO MATTER WHAT IT IS. NOW, I AM CATHOLIC. I NORMALLY DON'T MENTION THIS. AND I AM  VERY CAREFUL TO FOLLOW AND RESPECT THE RULES OF THIS SITE, FELLOWSHIP WITH AND PRAY FOR MY CHRISTIAN BROTHERS AND SISTERS, NEVER BREAK THE RULES THAT HAVE BEEN SET DOWN FOR ME TO USE THIS SITE.  HOWEVER, I THINK I SHOULD SAY OUR TEACHING ON THIS TOPIC -- IF EITHER SPOUSE IS UNABLE TO CONSUMATE THE MARITAL EMBRACE AS WELL AS IF EITHER SPOUSE LONG-TERM REFUSES TO BE INTIMATE WITH THE OTHER EVEN THOUGH HE OR SHE HAS THE PHYSICAL CAPACITY TO DO SO,THAT IS USUALLY GROUNDS FOR AN ANULMENT OF THE MARRIAGE. AN ANULMENT DOES  NOT MEAN A DIVORCE. IT MEANS THE MARRIAGE NEVER WAS VALID DUE TO WHATEVER CIRCUMSTANCES. IN YOUR CASE, SINCE YOUR HUSBAND'S IMPOTENCE WAS NOT DIVULGED BEFORE YOU GOT MARRIED, YOU REALLY WOULD HAVE GROUNDS IN MY FAITH. AND THE FACT THAT YOU WERE VIRTUALLY FORCED TO MARRY THIS MAN WOULD MAKE YOUR CASE EVEN STRONGER.

THIS BEING SAID, YOU MUST MAKE UP YOUR MIND WHAT TO DO. I ONLY GIVE YOU THE GUIDELINES OF MY CHURCH, AND I DO SO KNOWING THAT WE PROBABLY DO NOT SHARE THE SAME RELIGION. GOD HATES DIVORCE.  EVERYTHING THAT CAN BE DONE TO KEEP A MARRIAGE TOGETHER SHOULD BE DONE. PERHAPS YOU LOVE HIM AND ARE WILLING TO DO WITHOUT SEX FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. PERHAPS YOU DON'T LOVE HIM. PERHAPS YOU DO LOVE HIM, BUT YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED TO A MAN WHO CAN MAKE LOVE TO YOU. THAT IS NORMAL AND NATURAL. I WOULD ALSO LIKE TO AT THIS POINT REMIND YOU THAT THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE IN YOUR POSITION, PEOPLE THAT WANT SEXUAL INTIMACY BUT CAN NOT HAVE IT. I AM ONE OF THESE -- I AM 55 YEARS OLD AS OF YESTERDAY. WITH THE EXCEPTION OF ONE WEAK MOMENT THAT I DEEPLY REGRET AND HAVE REPENTED ABOUT, I HAVE NOT HAD SEX IN LIKE OVER TEN YEARS. I DON'T HAVE SEX BECAUSE I AM NOT MARRIED. OTHER PEOPLE MAYBE WANT TO HAVE SEX, BUT THEY ARE TOO SICK OR WHATEVER. GOD WILL GUIDE YOU. IF YOU ARE MARRIED TO A MAN EVEN FOR A SHORT TIME, AND THEN ALL OF THE SUDDEN HE BECOMES PARALYZED AND CAN NOT MAKE LOVE TO YOU, THAT WOULD BE A SIN TO LEAVE HIM. YOUR CASE -- LIKE I SAID, ARE DIFFERENT CIRCUMSTANCES HERE. I WOULD SUGGEST TALKING TO A GOOD MINISTER. I WOULD SUGGEST PRAYING AND REALLY LISTENING TO GOD'S ANSWER. IT IS A TOUGH THING YOU ARE FACING. YOU SAY THAT THERE ARE OTHER PROBLEMS AND THAT HE MISTREATS YOU. YOU NEED TO FACTOR THAT IN TO YOUR DECISION AS WELL. YOU NEED TO AVOID HAVING AN AFFAIR AT ALL COSTS. THAT IS A SIN. I KNOW YOU MUST BE VERY TEMPTED. PRAY TO GOD TO GIVE YOU THE STRENGTH NOT TO SUCCUMB TO THIS TEMPTATION. BELIEVE IT OR NOT, THIS ONE MISTAKE I MADE IN OVER TEN YEARS CAUSED ME NOTHING BUT EMOTIONAL PAIN AND DEPRESSION. I KNOW GOD HAS FORGIVEN ME. STILL, I MUST SAY THAT IT WAS NOT WORTH IT, NOT IN ANY WAY.

I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY. I AM GETTING THE IMPRESSION THAT THIS MARRIAGE WAS FORCED ON YOU AND NEVER WAS A REAL MARRIAGE IN ANY SENSE OF THE WORD. HOWEVER, I COULD BE WRONG, AGAIN, I STRONGLY SUGGEST YOU SPEAK WITH A MINISTER. GOD WILL GIVE YOU THE RIGHT ANSWER, I AM SURE. AND AS FAR AS MY CHURCH GUIDLINES GO -- I AM ABSOLUTELY RIGHT IN WHAT I AM TELLING YOU. HOWEVER, TO GET AN ANULMENT, YOU WOULD HAVE TO TAKE YOUR CASE IN FRONT OF A TRIBUNAL. THEY LOOK AT ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING BEFORE THEY WILL GRANT AN ANULMENT. DOCUMENTATION  MUST BE SUMBMITTED, AND OFTEN IT TAKES UP TO A YEAR TO DECIDE WHETHER OR NOT THE ANULMENT CAN BE GRANTED. DURING THAT TIME, YOU CAN REMARRY IF YOU ARE DIVORCED BUT YOU CAN ONLY LIVE AS BROTHER AND SISTER UNTIL THE ANULMENT GOES THROUGH. IF IT DOES NOT GO THROUGH, YOU ARE COMMITING SIN IF YOU HAVE SEX WITH YOUR SPOUSE!!!  ANYWAY, THE REASON I HAVE EXPLAINED ALL THIS IS BECAUSE WITH THE HELP OF A MINISTER OF YOUR FAITH AND WITH MUCH PRAYER THAT IS WHAT YOU WILL HAVE TO DO -- LOOK AT ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING. THE QUESTION YOU NEED TO ASK AND GET ANSWERED IS, "WAS THIS A VALID MARRIAGE TO BEGIN WITH?" FROM WHAT YOU HAVE WRITTEN, I AM INCLINED TO THINK THAT IT WASN'T. YOU WERE TRICKED. YOU WERE NOT TOLD THIS MAN WAS IMPOTENT AND, THEREFORE, YOU DID NOT MAKE AN INFORMED DECISION AS TO WHETHER OR NOT TO MARRY HIM. ALSO, IN MY MIND, AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE ALWAYS ENTAILS COERCION. ANYONE WHO IS COERCED INTO A MARRIAGE IS NOT IN A VALID MARRIAGE. I AM PRAYING VERY HARD FOR YOU.

FINALLY IN THIS REGARD, PLEASE DO NOT LET THESE PEOPLE WHO ARE TELLING YOU ALL THIS GARBAGE ABOUT HOW EVEN IF YOU CAN CONCEIVE ONE TIME, THEN YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY THE WAY YOU ARE.  IS EASY TO TALK THE TALK, BUT I WILL BET YOU NONE OF THEM IS WALKING THE WALK. PLUS THAT IS AN INSULT TO GOD'S TEACHING ABOUT SEX -- LOVEMAKING WITHIN MARRIAGE IS FOR PROCREATION, TRUE. BUT IT IS ALSO A BEAUTIFUL, PLEASURABLE THING THAT MARRIED PEOPLE SHARE THAT BONDS THEM TO ONE ANOTHER. ANYBODY WHO DOES NOT UNDERSTAND THIS SHOULD GO BACK AND READ THE BOOK OF GENESIS. I HOPE THIS HELPS. YOUR SISTER IN CHRIST, LAMB.

 

[sharonjoan]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

HI, AGAIN. I WANTED TO SEND YOU A PERSONAL MESSAGE, BUT I COULD NOT GET ACCESS TO YOUR FULL PROFILE OR TO MESSAGING. I SENT YOU A FRIENDSHIP REQUEST. YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT THE REQUEST OR I CAN'T SEND YOU ANY MESSAGES. YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN NOTIFIED THAT I SENT THE FRIENDSHIP REQUEST. AGAIN, GOD BLESS YOU DURING THIS TRYING TIME. YOUR SISTER IN CHRIST, LAMB.