We hear the pain and anguish in your heart and we stand with you in prayer over this deep betrayal in your marriage. Your husband's actions of lying, cheating, pursuing mistresses, prostitution, and online dating are grave sins before God and against you and your marriage covenant. God ordained marriage as a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, and He calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church Ephesians 5:25. What your husband is doing is adultery and fornication, and Scripture is very clear about this. Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers Hebrews 13:4, and we are told to flee sexual immorality, for every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body 1 Corinthians 6:18.
We understand your cry for all his hidden sin to be exposed and for him to be caught. The desire for truth to come to light is right, for God Himself hates deceit and will bring what is done in darkness into the light. There is nothing hidden that will not be revealed, nor anything secret that will not be known and come to light Luke 8:17, and be sure your sin will find you out Numbers 32:23. For the ways of man are before Yahweh's eyes, He examines all his paths Proverbs 5:21 and there is no creature that is hidden from his sight, but all things are naked and laid open before the eyes of him to whom we must give an account Hebrews 4:13. We agree with you that God would expose every lie and every unfaithful act, not simply so that your husband would get in trouble, but so that he would be brought to conviction, brokenness, and true repentance before God. We must leave vengeance to the Lord, for it is written, Vengeance belongs to me, I will repay, says the Lord Romans 12:19. Our prayer is not from a heart of revenge, but for God's righteous justice and mercy to lead your husband to turn from his sin, to confess and forsake it, for he who conceals his sins doesn't prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy Proverbs 28:13, and if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness 1 John 1:9.
We also lift up your mental, physical, and spiritual health, for we see how this is making you a nervous wreck and weighing so heavily on you. The Lord sees your suffering and is near to you, for Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit Psalm 34:18. We pray that God will guard your heart and mind with His peace that surpasses all understanding Philippians 4:7, as you cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you 1 Peter 5:7. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God Philippians 4:6. He promises, Don't be afraid, for I am with you, don't be dismayed, for I am your God, I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness Isaiah 41:10.
We encourage you to not walk through this alone. Please seek godly counsel and bring this into the light with a trusted pastor or mature believers in your church for wisdom, support, and accountability, and if needed, biblical church discipline, that your husband may be confronted in love and truth and called to repentance. Guard your heart in the Word and in prayer, and care for your body and spirit as you trust the Lord to be your refuge.
We thank you for declaring that Jesus is Lord, for it is only through His name that we have access to the Father and it is in His name we pray, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men by which we must be saved Acts 4:12, and whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved Romans 10:13.
We pray together now, Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ and we lift up this dear sister and her marriage to You. Lord, You see every lie, every act of adultery, every hidden pursuit, and we ask that You would bring it all into the light according to Your perfect will, that nothing hidden would remain, and that her husband would be deeply convicted by Your Holy Spirit. Bring him to godly sorrow that leads to repentance, that he would turn completely away from mistresses, prostitution, online dating and all sexual immorality, that he would confess his sin and forsake it and be cleansed. Lord, we ask that You protect this wife, heal her mind, body and spirit, calm her anxiety, restore her sleep and strength, and surround her with Your peace and presence. Give her wisdom, discernment, and courage for each step, and surround her with godly counsel and support. We pray for this marriage, that if it be Your will, You would bring restoration through true repentance and forgiveness, that this husband would learn to love his wife faithfully and honor his vows. Let Your will be done and let Your name be glorified in this painful situation. We trust You as our righteous Judge and our merciful Healer. In Jesus' name we pray, amen.