We hear the deep pain and weariness in your heart, dear sister, and we stand with you in this season of trial, lifting your burdens before the Lord who sees all things and is just in all His ways. The betrayal of trust within marriage is a grievous wound, and the weight of carrying a family alone while facing legal battles and financial insecurity is more than anyone should bear without divine intervention. You have poured yourself out for your children and your home, and the Lord does not overlook your sacrifices. Let us turn to Scripture to anchor our prayers and responses in His truth, for His Word is a lamp to our feet in these dark valleys.
The Bible speaks clearly about the responsibilities of a husband and the protection of the vulnerable. Ephesians 5:25-29 commands, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for her... Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly."* Your husband’s refusal to provide for your rights in the home and his deceit are not only unjust but a direct violation of God’s design for marriage. Proverbs 19:9 warns, *"A false witness shall not be unpunished. He who pours out lies shall perish."* Lies are an abomination to the Lord, and His justice will prevail. Do not lose heart, for the Lord is your advocate.
We also see in 1 Timothy 5:8, *"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."* Your husband’s neglect of his duties is a serious matter before God. While we pray for his repentance, we must also acknowledge that his actions have consequences, and you are not obligated to remain in a situation where you and your children are being harmed or abandoned. The Lord calls us to peace and safety, not to endure ongoing abuse or exploitation. If legal action is necessary to protect your rights and your children’s future, seek godly counsel and wisdom in navigating this process. The Lord can turn even the most unjust situations for your good (Romans 8:28), and we trust Him to provide justice and restoration.
As for your request for a "rich man" to provide a godly husband, we gently but firmly redirect your heart to seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, trusting that He will add all things to you as you align with His will (Matthew 6:33). Wealth is not the measure of a godly man—faithfulness, integrity, and a heart surrendered to Christ are. Pray instead for a husband after God’s own heart, one who will lead your family in truth and love, whether he is rich or poor in the eyes of the world. Proverbs 31:10-11 says, *"Who can find a worthy woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband trusts in her. He shall have no lack of gain."* A godly marriage is built on mutual trust, respect, and submission to Christ, not on material provision alone. The Lord knows your deepest needs, and He will provide a spouse who reflects His character if that is His will for your future.
We must also address the pain in your heart that longs for happiness and relief from suffering. The Lord does not desire for you to live in perpetual sorrow. Psalm 34:18 assures us, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* He sees your tears and hears your cries. However, we encourage you to surrender your desire for happiness to Him, allowing Him to redefine it through His love and purpose for your life. True joy is found in Christ, not in circumstances (Philippians 4:4-7). As you seek Him, He will restore your strength and fill you with a peace that surpasses understanding, even in the midst of this storm.
Let us pray together for you and your children:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is weary and broken from the betrayal and neglect she has endured. Lord, You are the God of justice, and we ask You to intervene in her marriage and legal battles. Expose every lie and bring truth to light. Soften her husband’s heart to repentance, or if he remains hardened, grant her the wisdom and strength to take the necessary steps to protect herself and her children. You are a Father to the fatherless and a defender of widows (Psalm 68:5), and we ask You to act on her behalf.
Provide for her needs, Lord—open doors for stable housing and a job that not only meets her financial needs but also brings fulfillment and dignity. You own the cattle on a thousand hills (Psalm 50:10), and nothing is too difficult for You. We rebuked the spirit of poverty and lack in her life and declare Your abundance and favor over her and her children.
Father, heal her heart from the wounds of deception and abandonment. Restore her joy and hope in You. Surround her with godly counsel and support, and lead her to a community of believers who will stand with her in this season. For her children, Lord, we ask for Your protection, provision, and blessing. May they prosper in their studies, grow in wisdom, and walk in Your favor all the days of their lives.
As for her future, Lord, we ask that You prepare her heart and the heart of a godly man who will cherish her as Christ cherishes the Church. Let him be a man of integrity, faith, and love, who will lead her family in Your ways. But above all, Lord, let her find her ultimate satisfaction in You. Renew her mind and spirit, and help her to trust in Your timing and Your plan for her life.
We bind every spirit of fear, anxiety, and despair in her life and declare Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Strengthen her, Lord, and let her testimony be one of Your faithfulness and redemption. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, Amen.
Finally, sister, we urge you to remain steadfast in prayer and in the Word. Do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season you will reap if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9). Seek the Lord daily, and allow Him to guide your steps. If you have not already, consider speaking with a pastor or biblical counselor who can provide support and guidance as you navigate this difficult season. You are not alone—the Body of Christ is here to stand with you, and the Lord is your ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
May the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you now and always.