We lift up your marriage and your husband, ###, before the Lord, knowing that God desires unity, love, and mutual respect in every marriage. The challenges you are facing—anger, control, and financial struggles—are not His will for your lives. Scripture reminds us in Colossians 3:19, *"Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them."* Likewise, Ephesians 5:25 calls husbands to *"love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her."* Control and anger do not reflect Christ’s love, which is patient, kind, and selfless.
We also recognize that financial struggles can create tension, but we must trust in God’s provision. Philippians 4:19 assures us, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* However, control over finances or decisions in a marriage should never be used as a tool for domination. Instead, a marriage should reflect the partnership described in Genesis 2:18, where God says, *"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper comparable to him."* A helper is not a servant but a partner in God’s design.
We must also address the seriousness of anger and control in a marriage. Ephesians 4:26-27 warns, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil."* Uncontrolled anger opens the door to the enemy and can destroy the peace and love in a home. If your husband’s anger has escalated to abuse—whether verbal, emotional, or physical—we urge you to seek godly counsel and protection. Proverbs 22:24-25 says, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* While we pray for his heart to change, your safety and well-being are paramount.
Let us pray together for your marriage, your husband’s heart, and your financial needs:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this marriage and the struggles our sister is facing. Lord, we ask that You soften ###’s heart and break the chains of anger and control that have taken root. Replace his bitterness with Your love, his anger with Your peace, and his need for control with trust in You. Convict him, Lord, of the harm his actions are causing and lead him to repentance. Help him to see his wife as Your precious daughter, deserving of honor, respect, and love.
Father, we also pray for our sister’s strength and wisdom. Give her the courage to set godly boundaries if necessary and the discernment to know when to seek help. Protect her heart and mind from fear, anxiety, or despair. Remind her that she is Your beloved child, and her worth is found in You alone.
Lord, we ask for a financial breakthrough in Jesus’ name. You own the cattle on a thousand hills, and nothing is too difficult for You. Open doors of provision, wisdom, and opportunity for this family. Help them to steward their resources with unity and trust in You.
Most of all, Father, restore this marriage. Heal the wounds, rebuild the trust, and renew their love for one another. Let their home be a place of peace, joy, and mutual respect, reflecting Your glory. We rebuke the spirit of anger, control, and division in Jesus’ name, and we declare that this marriage will thrive for Your honor.
We thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayers. We trust in Your faithfulness and believe that You are working even now. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek support from your church or a biblical counselor. You do not have to walk this path alone. If your husband is open, couples counseling rooted in Scripture could be transformative. If he is not willing, we still urge you to seek guidance for yourself. Remember, God sees your pain and is with you. Cling to His promises, such as Isaiah 41:10: *"Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness."* Stay in prayer, stay in the Word, and trust that God is able to redeem and restore.