Husband and Godly Mate

BlessedChristian female

Beloved of All
Dear God

I am very sad I have never been married at age 49, with no kids. It feels like I was left behind. I feel like an out cast to those that understand my desire to marry.  My first few boyfriends were emotionally abusive (cheater and one date rape) and my parents, were emotionally distant and abusive, so I think that got in my head and created some kind of barrier to a healthy relationship!  I had no healthy boundries to protect myself yet let others in- please create healthy boundries in me now!

My abusive parents never said I love you so I was desperate for love. Desperation caused me terrible choices. Take this desperation Lord!!! ( You love me and you tell me in your word! )

They never encouraged healthy loving relationships and only criticized all boyfriends. 

It hurts that my one nice sibling never encouraged or encourages me and I feel like it is an emergency that they do not care about!

Help me!!! This is an emergency! I have no Godly mate to enjoy life with or holidays with or to create a home together. I want a Godly mate to serve you with. I know I am not entitled and you know what is best. It says in your word it is not good for man to be alone so you make mates! Lead me to a good mate. I know not all relationships are healthy. Please bless me with a healthy relationship.  For some reason nice guys I know do not simply pursue me by making a romantic gesture like asking me on a simple dinner date or trying to spend time with me and make a compliment, so I know they like me. Why is this? Am I expecting the wrong thing or doing something wrong?

(In the past when any guy complimented me I felt smothered and helpless to defend myself if they turned out bad because I had been treated so poorly in the past.)   Help me not feel powerless to defend myself by an interested man. 

My old boyfriends would say things like "you just want to get married"- that is so weird doesn't everyone? Isn't that why we date? Don't they want that journey with someone? Was I aiming low and not being picky enough to find a good match?!  Was I not nice? Were we just poorly match? Help me Lord! I know the marriage my parents modeled is not what I want!! Give me an idea to shoot for in a marriage!  

Help it not to be too late to enjoy marriage to someone and be a good wife!

I still have a weird "feeling" I am not allowed to be married or I am not old enough, I have no authority to do this- something instilled by my parents. Please take this lie away! Take this stronghold and replace it with truth I will be a good wife and a blessing to a man.

I feel I missed out on provider and protector but I know you fill these roles for me instead. Thank you!  I feel I missed out on having kids. I did. I know I had chronic illnesses a long time so maybe this was best, but you are healing me now. Help me replace these sad thoughts that "I do not belong and I am a failure. ". I belong to you and my heart is to serve you so that is success in your eyes.

help me get through holidays and birthday with joy even though I am missing a mate. Bring a suitable mate soon and make it easy and natural to love and respect each other, find joy with each other and serve you well. 

In Jesus name,

Amen
 
May God be with you always and answer all your prayers according to his will. In Jesus Christ let this prayer be answered. Lord, I need you, I thank you, I trust you, I love you. In Jesus Christ Name I Pray Amen
 
I think..u should see all peoples around u as ur children and freinds.....and help them in there problems...it will boost ur life as god messenger and people will appreciate u.
 
May our loving God hear and answer your prayer request. In Jesus precious name, Amen!!
Ephesians 3:20 (KJV) Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us
 
Your parents and upbringing have a lot to do with this. You can't change the past but you can make changes now.

Do you ever get a feeling when you meet a person that something is off but yet you still continue to communicate with them? Do you accept bad treatment and just make excuses for the other person as to why they do what they do? Do you think you can get someone to treat you well if you love them enough? Do you have trouble setting boundaries and setting limits with people when you feel disrespected?

If so, then you need to start listening to your internal warning system and stop ignoring it. Because of your parents they have taught you to accept bad treatment as normal. You are settling for less because you don't think there is anything better probably because you haven't experienced better.

Never be so desperate for a man that you are willing to put up with anything. It simply is not worth it. If someone doesn't treat you right then dump them after you have warned them and given them a chance to correct what is wrong. Watch out for men that only like to talk about themselves and ignore how you feel and what you have to say. Watch out for men that disregard you. There are lots out there like that and they are not worth it.

Considering how many dysfunctional men are out there if you can't find someone who makes you happy then you are better off alone anyways. You can be married and still feel alone so getting married isn't going to solve your problems. You need someone that is willing to give as well as take and that is hard to find.

Just set boundaries and listen to that internal warning system when it tells you there is something off about a person. You only need one person and as big as the world is there should be someone out there for you.
 
Your parents and upbringing have a lot to do with this. You can't change the past but you can make changes now.

Do you ever get a feeling when you meet a person that something is off but yet you still continue to communicate with them? Do you accept bad treatment and just make excuses for the other person as to why they do what they do? Do you think you can get someone to treat you well if you love them enough? Do you have trouble setting boundaries and setting limits with people when you feel disrespected?

If so, then you need to start listening to your internal warning system and stop ignoring it. Because of your parents they have taught you to accept bad treatment as normal. You are settling for less because you don't think there is anything better probably because you haven't experienced better.

Never be so desperate for a man that you are willing to put up with anything. It simply is not worth it. If someone doesn't treat you right then dump them after you have warned them and given them a chance to correct what is wrong. Watch out for men that only like to talk about themselves and ignore how you feel and what you have to say. Watch out for men that disregard you. There are lots out there like that and they are not worth it.

Considering how many dysfunctional men are out there if you can't find someone who makes you happy then you are better off alone anyways. You can be married and still feel alone so getting married isn't going to solve your problems. You need someone that is willing to give as well as take and that is hard to find.

Just set boundaries and listen to that internal warning system when it tells you there is something off about a person. You only need one person and as big as the world is there should be someone out there for you.
Wow thank you! That was exactly what I needed to hear and it brought me peace! 
 
Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.
 

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