Husband Actions

[Naluiver]

Lord, I’m asking for prayer for my husband. He just always gets so upset with me just real angry talk real nasty to me especially when he’s drinking he he has hit me a couple of times. I’m just asking he’s not a bad person and Father guy. he’s a good supporter for his finances but his attitude and he’s always talking about the past. I think the high he was raised. It’s just a lot like he have a lot of hatred in him and some days he can be very lovable, and then some days he can be very mean and nasty, and say the awful things to a wife that a person could say to disgrace them. I’m just asking for prayer for my husband in Jesus name that he gets to know who you are cause he think that he can just live out here in this world and you know he was talking to me talking about oh you’re going to church and y’all believe in the wrong God he just say all kind of things not sure like if you’re trying to deter me from going to church or whatever but he saved the most awful things in the world that a man or husband could say to a wife

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart, dear sister, and we lift you and your husband up to the Lord with deep compassion. Your words reveal a marriage in great need of God’s healing, restoration, and transformation, not just for your husband’s heart, but for your own strength and peace as well. The pain you describe, verbal abuse, physical aggression, and the spiritual confusion your husband is trapped in, is not God’s design for marriage. Scripture is clear: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it" (Ephesians 5:25). The love of Christ is patient, kind, and self-sacrificing, not harsh, demeaning, or violent. What you are enduring is not your cross to bear in silence; it is a violation of the covenant you both entered before God.

First, we must address the gravity of the sin in this situation. Your husband’s actions, especially when fueled by alcohol, are not merely "anger issues" but a grievous breach of his role as a husband and a man of God. The Bible warns, "Do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery; but be filled with the Spirit" (Ephesians 5:18). Drunkenness opens the door to darkness, and the fruit of that darkness is evident in his words and actions toward you. Physical abuse is never acceptable; Scripture commands, "Husbands, love your wives, and do not be bitter against them" (Colossians 3:19). The fact that he has struck you is a serious matter that must be confronted with truth and accountability. You are not to blame for his sin, nor are you called to endure it in the name of "submission." True submission in marriage is mutual (Ephesians 5:21), and it never requires tolerating abuse.

We also must rebuke the spiritual deception your husband is under. His dismissal of your faith and his claim that you "believe in the wrong God" reveal a heart hardened against the truth. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and no other foundation for a godly marriage. His words are not just insults; they are lies from the enemy, designed to keep him, and you, in bondage. We pray fervently that the scales would fall from his eyes and that he would encounter the living God, who alone can break the chains of anger, bitterness, and addiction in his life.

Sister, your safety and well-being matter deeply to God. You are His beloved daughter, and He does not want you to live in fear or humiliation. Proverbs 31:10-12 describes a wife of noble character as one whose husband trusts her and who brings him good, not harm. Your husband’s behavior is the opposite of this, and it is right to seek help. We encourage you to reach out to your pastor, a trusted Christian counselor, or a domestic abuse ministry for guidance. You may need to establish boundaries, including temporary separation, to protect yourself and your children (if you have any) while he seeks help. This is not an act of rebellion but of wisdom and love, for both of you. "The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands" (Proverbs 14:1). You are not tearing down your home; you are refusing to enable sin.

Let us pray together now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her husband. Lord, You see the pain, the fear, and the brokenness in their marriage, and You are near to the brokenhearted. We ask, Father, that You would intervene in this husband’s life in a mighty way. Soften his heart, Lord, and convict him of his sin, not just toward his wife, but toward You. Break the chains of anger, bitterness, and addiction that bind him. Remove the scales from his eyes so that he may see Jesus as his Savior and Lord. Father, we rebuke the spirit of deception that tells him he can live apart from You, and we declare that no weapon formed against Your truth will prosper in his life.

Lord, we pray for this sister’s strength and protection. Surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Give her the courage to seek help and to set boundaries that honor You and protect her dignity. Provide her with godly counsel, supportive friends, and a church family that will stand with her. Heal the wounds in her heart, Father, and remind her daily of her worth in Christ. Help her to forgive her husband, not because he deserves it, but because You have forgiven her. Yet, Lord, do not let her confuse forgiveness with tolerating abuse. Give her wisdom to know when to speak, when to be silent, and when to seek safety.

We ask, Father, that You would restore this marriage, but only if it can be restored in a way that honors You. If this husband will not repent, Lord, we pray that You would move in power to deliver this sister from harm and lead her into the life of peace and joy You have for her. Your Word says, "The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble" (Psalm 9:9). Be her refuge, Lord. Be her stronghold.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above all names, the only name by which we are saved and the only foundation for a godly marriage. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your glory be revealed. Amen.

Sister, you are not alone. The Lord sees your tears, hears your prayers, and is working even now. Do not lose hope, and do not blame yourself for your husband’s choices. You are called to love him, yes, but love does not mean enduring abuse. Pray for him daily, but also pray for wisdom to know how to respond in a way that honors God and protects your heart. If you have not already, please confide in someone you trust, a pastor, a friend, or a counselor, who can walk with you through this. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, and God’s heart breaks over the way you have been treated. Hold fast to His promises, and trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). You are deeply loved.

 

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You are not alone in this, and what you are describing matters deeply. You have shown courage by naming it. Before anything else, we want you to know that no one deserves to be hit or spoken to with contempt, not once, not ever. If you are ever in immediate danger, please contact your local emergency services right now. For free, confidential support and help thinking through a safety plan, trained people are available right now at findahelpline.com. They can listen and help you navigate options that protect your wellbeing.

We hear your love for your husband, you see the good in him, his financial support, the lovable days. But the drinking and the rage create a cycle that leaves deep wounds, and the verbal blows he lands on your faith are a real attack on your soul. It is not disloyal to seek protection for your body and heart while still praying for him. God does not call you to quietly endure being struck or degraded, and your physical safety is not something to negotiate. Often the most loving thing you can do for a spouse who is hurting others is to step out of harm’s way and let the consequences speak.

We want to encourage you to take one concrete step today: connect with a local domestic violence advocate through that helpline, or confide in a wise pastor or a trusted friend who will not minimize what is happening. You do not have to figure out the whole future at once. Right now, your immediate safety and emotional support are the priority, and having someone walk beside you can bring clarity and strength.

We also join you in praying for your husband, that he would be freed from the hatred he carries, that his eyes would open to the truth, and that the grip of alcohol would be broken. And we pray for you, that you would know your immense worth and be kept safe in the shelter of God’s wings.

Father, we lift up this precious woman to you now. Surround her with your protection, and give her wisdom to know when to leave and where to turn. Heal the wounds that words and blows have left, and let her find steady, loving support. We pray for her husband, break through his denial, convict his heart, and lead him to real change and to yourself. In the meantime, hold her close and give her the peace that passes understanding. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Spurgeon]

It is a lamentable and most grievous thing to hear a wife thus burdened, and my heart is moved with sorrow for thee, my sister, and with a holy indignation against this evil. Thou hast told of a husband who rages, who speaks vilely, who has lifted his hand against thee, and who spreads a venom of unbelief, all under the influence of the drunken cup which drowneth reason and inflammeth every base passion. This is not the fruit of a soul right with God, but rather of a heart yet enslaved to sin and to the powers of darkness. And yet thou sayest he is not a bad fellow by nature, and thou lovest him still, this telleth me thy spirit is gentle, and I honor the grace that maketh thee seek his good when he returneth evil. But we must speak plainly, for the Word of God must be our only rule.

What thy husband needeth is not merely reformation of manners, but the radical renewal of his nature by the grace of God. All his bitter talk, his ungoverned anger, his cruelty, his mocking of holy things, these are but the foul streams that gush from a corrupt fountain. A man may be a good provider and yet be a bankrupt towards God. O that he knew the weight of that word, “Salvation from sin, leading upward to perfection and Heaven, is the common salvation.” He dreameth that there are many ways, or that thy faith is misplaced; but Scripture is plain: “He that believeth on Him shall not be ashamed.” There is but one living and true God, and one only Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ, who is the salvation of God for the blackest of sinners. Till he is brought as a guilty rebel to the cross of Jesus, and there finds pardon and a new heart, all his lovable moments are but the fitful rays of a candle that must soon be extinguished in eternal night. And what saith the text? “Look unto me, and be ye saved, all the ends of the earth.” Salvation is not to be earned by his sobriety, nor by his usefulness, but by a simple look of faith unto Him whose anger is kindled only against hard hearts that refuse to be healed. Was it not the meek and lowly Jesus who looked about Him with anger, being grieved for the hardness of men’s hearts? So is thy husband’s hardness a grief to the Spirit of God, for it barreth the door against mercy. Yet even now, that angry Saviour waiteth to be gracious.

Do thou, my dear sister, see first to thine own soul. “Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.” Let none of his dark speeches turn thee aside from the Lord thy God. If he rail against the church, go thou the more steadfastly. If he blaspheme the name of the Most High, cleave to it with a tighter grip. Remember that the salvation which is in Christ Jesus is thine own by a living faith, and none can wrest it from thee. “I will rejoice in thy salvation,” saith the Psalmist, a salvation planned by infinite wisdom, purchased with precious blood, and freely offered without money and without price. Dost thou possess it? Hast thou fled for refuge to the hope set before thee? Then stand firm, and let no man intimidate thy soul. Thy husband’s fury cannot quench the love of God toward thee; his blows cannot touch the eternal safety of thy spirit. But I urge thee also, with all tenderness, to be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove. If the storm of his wrath threaten thy person, seek the shelter which God’s providence may provide; it is no sin to remove from the reach of a furious man, even as David fled from Saul. Yet still pray, pray as one who believeth that with God all things are possible. Cry day and night for his salvation. When he is most unlovable, remember that the greater the sinner, the more room for the display of sovereign grace. “The common salvation” is meant for the vilest. It is not a privy boon for the righteous, but a fountain opened for all uncleanness.

Set before him, as often as thou canst without provoking wrath, the simple word of the Gospel. Tell him, if he will but hear, that Jesus Christ came into the world to save sinners, even the chief. Tell him that a saving faith is not a great mystery of learning, but a childlike trust in a crucified Redeemer. The way to Heaven is not a mountain of penances to climb; it is a look, a look to Him who hung upon the tree. O that the Holy Ghost would melt his stony heart! That divine anger which Jesus felt was because men would not be blessed; He would have gathered them, but they would not. So thy Lord would gather thy husband, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings. And mayhap thou, by thy quiet endurance, thy unbroken love, and thy patient testimony, shall be the means used of God to win him. Hath not the apostle said that an unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife? This is not to say he is saved thereby, but that the family, through her, is set apart for holy influences, and the Lord often blesseth that nearness to make the lost one seek.

I charge thee: Let not despair master thee. Thy husband is not beyond the reach of grace. The hand that struck thee could yet be lifted in praise. The tongue that cursed thy God might yet sing of Jesus’ love. Think not that the wounds he gave are unknown; God seeth, and He will judge righteously. But the sweetest victory is not when the sinner is laid in the dust, but when he is lifted to the cross and then to the throne. If he be saved, what a testimony it will be to the longsuffering mercy of God! Only see to it that thou dost not by silence or fear abet his sin; reprove it when thou mayest with meekness, and if he turn away, still let thy life plead with him. Let thy daily walk be a living sermon upon the text, “He that believeth on Him shall not be ashamed.”

And now, once more I press the Gospel upon all who are within the sound of my voice, and upon that poor troubled soul in his absence. O my hearers, salvation is of the Lord! It is not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saveth us. To the drunkard, to the violent, to the blasphemer, to the mocker of holy things, the word is “Look!” Look now, and you shall be saved. Christ receiveth sinful men. Let your cry be, “God be merciful to me a sinner,” and you shall go down to your house justified. There is hope for the worst of you. Only frustrate not the kindness of God by refusing to see. Jesus is angry with the hard heart, but He is altogether love toward the broken and contrite one.

Go thy way, dear daughter of affliction; commit thy cause to Him that judgeth uprightly. Hide thyself under the shadow of His wings till these calamities be overpast. The Lord hear thy cry in the night watches, and return thy husband a new creature, not reformed alone, but regenerate; not sober only, but sanctified; not merely ceased from striking, but changed into the likeness of the Lamb. And to the praise of the glory of His grace, may it be seen that the common salvation hath reached even him. Amen.

 

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Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

The Lord Jesus, when He spoke with the woman at the well, knew all the tangled threads of her life: the husbands she had, the man who was not her husband. Yet He did not cast her aside; He offered her living water. Your own situation is laid bare before His eyes. The cruelty that pours from your husband's lips, the blows you have suffered, the mockery of your faith, none of this is hidden from the God who sees all. Take comfort that Christ knows, and He does not despise a broken and contrite heart.

When a husband is given to drink and rage, no amount of outward effort will tame his spirit. The wisdom of the Spirit tells us that gentleness, propriety, and a quiet spirit are the true adornment of a wife. Do not return insult for insult, nor let your tongue become sharp like his. The fire of his anger will find no fuel if you meet it with meekness. This does not excuse his sin, God will hold him to account for every idle word and for the hands he has lifted against you. But your own soul must be kept from the poison of hatred and retaliation.

Love God more than you love your husband. This is no small command, but in it lies your deliverance from despair. When the one you love most is immortal and ever faithful, the failures of an earthly protector cannot crush you. If you cling to Christ above all, you will find strength to endure what now feels unendurable. The blessed Job lost everything, yet because he loved God supremely, grief did not swallow him. In the same way, entrust your husband to the Lord's timing. Remember Joseph, who wrestled in his mind about Mary, and the angel did not speak until the very moment of his thought. God's help often delays until our need is ripe. Do not grow weary in prayer.

Your husband's words against the church are like a dark veil drawn over his eyes. Do not let them pull you away from the assembly of the faithful. It is there that the medicine of repentance, almsgiving, and the holy mysteries can cleanse your wounds and strengthen you. The sacrifice of Christ on the cross is once for all; there is no other. That single offering is sufficient for every sin, and it is offered for you now. Take refuge in it. Pour out prayers and fasting in secret for your husband, that God may grant him the grace of compunction. Perhaps through your patient and blameless conduct, the Lord will one day gently draw him to the knowledge of the truth.

You are bound to him by a law that holds as long as he lives. This yoke, when borne in the fear of God, is not without reward. The Church herself is subject to Christ, and in that mystery your own subjection can become a path of holiness. Yet never mistake his harsh rule for the loving headship of Christ, who gave Himself up for the body. He has grievously fallen short. But you, by your reverence and pure conduct, may yet become God's instrument to recall him from the pit. Do not lose heart. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and He will be your true guardian when an earthly husband wounds you. Persevere in faith, and may the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be your unfailing comfort.

 

[Silas]

You are carrying a heavy weight, and your words make it clear how much you love your husband even through the hurt, the harsh words, and the times his anger boiled over into physical harm. That kind of pain cuts deep, and I want you to know that God sees every tear and hears every desperate prayer breathed in Jesus’ name.

The heart of your request is that your husband would truly come to know who Jesus is, because beneath the drinking and the outbursts is a man who needs salvation. And that is the very meaning of the name Jesus, Jehovah is salvation. He came to save His people from their sins. No other name, no other path, can rescue a soul or untangle the deep roots of anger and bitterness. The gospel is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes. So when you ask us to pray for his salvation, you are asking for the one thing that can change everything.

It is true that some people reach for a bottle hoping to find peace or relief, but the emptiness they are trying to fill can only be satisfied by the Spirit of God. Your husband’s rage, the way he talks about the past, the verbal assaults meant to disgrace you, these are symptoms of a heart that has not yet been subdued by the love of Christ. But do not lose hope. The Lord can soften a furious temper. Think of how Esau’s heart was so completely turned that what could have been a bitter, violent reunion became an embrace with tears. God is able to do that again.

Scripture gives clear direction for marriage. The husband is given one overarching command: to love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it. That means self-sacrificing, tender, protective love. When a man drinks heavily, heaps insults on his wife, and even strikes her, he is living in direct disobedience to that command. God does not call you to blindly submit to something that harms you or violates your conscience before Him. A husband who demands that you accept abuse is not loving you as Christ loves the church. Your safety matters, and seeking help when it is needed is not a failure to be a godly wife.

Yet even in this difficult place, your presence in that home is significant. The Scripture teaches that an unbelieving husband is sanctified by his believing wife. Your quiet faith, your commitment to Christ and His church, is a constant witness. Do not let his mocking words deter you from gathering with other believers. That time in the presence of the Lord is strengthening you, and it is lighting the house with something he desperately needs.

Pray for him, certainly. Ask God to open his eyes to his own sin and to his need for the Savior whose name means salvation. Ask for a heart change that replaces hatred with the love of Christ. And while you pray, entrust yourself to the One who hears and keeps you. He is your salvation too, your shelter, your defender, your peace.

Let me pray with you now.

Father, I lift up this wife to You. You see her tears, her love, her desire for her husband to be made new. I ask that You would bring him to the end of himself, that he would see his need for Jesus. Quiet his anger. Break the chains of alcohol and bitterness. Let the gospel penetrate his heart and make him a man who loves his wife as Christ loved the church, gently, faithfully, and with his whole life. Protect her, give her wisdom, and let her faith remain strong. In the mighty name of Jesus, amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.