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We recently had the privilege of sitting down with Casey and Meygan Caston — the founders of Marriage 365. They have been in the trenches of marriage ministry for over 14 years, and what they shared was honest, and biblical.
Casey opened with this:“If the two greatest commandments are love God and love others, our first other is our spouse.”
When Jesus said in Matthew 22:37-39, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart… and love your neighbor as yourself,” He wasn’t just talking about the neighbor down the street. He was talking about the person doing dishes next to you. The person you’re raising kids with. The person you share a bed with.
As Meygan put it, it becomes a confusing narrative when we’re kind and patient with our kids, our coworkers, even strangers — but sharp and cold with our spouse. It teaches our children that love is actually conditional.
Meygan shared that she went to a therapist — alone — because Casey wasn’t yet willing to get help. The advice she received became the foundation of everything they now teach:
“If you want to make a better marriage, it starts by making a better you.”
Over 13 months, Meygan learned to:
“It took us two years to fall in love, three years to destroy our marriage, and four to five years to rebuild it.”
Casey and Meygan pointed out something that Jennifer and I have felt too — the church often lacks ongoing marriage education.
That’s exactly why ministries like Marriage 365 — and why we do Marriage After God — exist. Because a strong, Christ-centered marriage might just be one of the greatest gospel presentations a watching world can see.
Casey and Meygan’s story is proof that no marriage is too far gone — and that the habits we build today shape the marriage we’ll have tomorrow.
Your spouse is your first other. Love them like it.
Target Keywords: Christian marriage habits, how to ask for forgiveness in marriage, marriage after God podcast, Marriage 365, how to build a stronger marriage, Christian marriage advice, marriage ministry
Episode Description: Aaron Smith sits down with Casey and Meygan Caston — founders of Marriage 365 — to talk about building powerful habits in your marriage, how to apologize and ask for forgiveness well, and why your spouse is your most important “neighbor.” This conversation is honest, practical, and deeply rooted in faith.
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We recently had the privilege of sitting down with Casey and Meygan Caston — the founders of Marriage 365. They have been in the trenches of marriage ministry for over 14 years, and what they shared was honest, and biblical.
Casey opened with this:“If the two greatest commandments are love God and love others, our first other is our spouse.”
When Jesus said in Matthew 22:37-39, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart… and love your neighbor as yourself,” He wasn’t just talking about the neighbor down the street. He was talking about the person doing dishes next to you. The person you’re raising kids with. The person you share a bed with.
As Meygan put it, it becomes a confusing narrative when we’re kind and patient with our kids, our coworkers, even strangers — but sharp and cold with our spouse. It teaches our children that love is actually conditional.
Their Story: From the Brink of Divorce to Building a Ministry
- They met in 2001 and married thinking it would be easy
- Within the first day of marriage, cracks began to show
- By year three, they were heading toward divorce
- Between both sets of their parents, there were 12 marriages — broken homes and blended families were their normal
- They entered marriage with no real skills, unprocessed baggage, and what Meygan called being “right fighters”
The Turning Point
Meygan shared that she went to a therapist — alone — because Casey wasn’t yet willing to get help. The advice she received became the foundation of everything they now teach:
“If you want to make a better marriage, it starts by making a better you.”
Over 13 months, Meygan learned to:
- Communicate without winning being the goal
- Apologize well — something so many of us never learned
- Set boundaries from a place of health, not hurt
- Forgive Casey even when he wasn’t asking for it
“It took us two years to fall in love, three years to destroy our marriage, and four to five years to rebuild it.”
The Church Gap Nobody Talks About
Casey and Meygan pointed out something that Jennifer and I have felt too — the church often lacks ongoing marriage education.
- Couples hear platitudes like “just put Jesus at the center” without practical tools
- There are rarely ongoing Bible studies or programs focused on building strong marriages
- Hurting marriages are suffering in silence while the church remains under-equipped
That’s exactly why ministries like Marriage 365 — and why we do Marriage After God — exist. Because a strong, Christ-centered marriage might just be one of the greatest gospel presentations a watching world can see.
Casey and Meygan’s story is proof that no marriage is too far gone — and that the habits we build today shape the marriage we’ll have tomorrow.
Your spouse is your first other. Love them like it.
Episode Summary
Target Keywords: Christian marriage habits, how to ask for forgiveness in marriage, marriage after God podcast, Marriage 365, how to build a stronger marriage, Christian marriage advice, marriage ministry
Episode Description: Aaron Smith sits down with Casey and Meygan Caston — founders of Marriage 365 — to talk about building powerful habits in your marriage, how to apologize and ask for forgiveness well, and why your spouse is your most important “neighbor.” This conversation is honest, practical, and deeply rooted in faith.
SECTION 1:
- Opening quote from Casey & Meygan:
- Your spouse is the person you’re:
- Parenting with
- Paying bills with
- Having sex with
- Doing chores with
- Key tension introduced: It’s deceptive to be kind and patient with your kids, neighbors, and coworkers — but cold and harsh with your spouse
- Biblical grounding: Matthew 22:37–39 — The Greatest Commandments
- The warning: When love is conditional at home, children learn that love itself is conditional
SECTION 2:
- Welcome from host Aaron Smith
- Call to action: Like, subscribe, follow on YouTube / iTunes / Spotify
- Resource mention: shop.marriageaftergod.com
- Guest intro: Casey & Meygan Caston, founders of Marriage 365
- Episode topics previewed:
- How to build powerful marriage habits
- The 4-step process for asking forgiveness
- How to apologize well in marriage
- Aaron’s connection to Casey & Meygan:
- Known each other for 14+ years
- Met just before Marriage 365 launched
- Aaron was running Unveiled Wife at the time
SECTION 3: WHO ARE CASEY & MEYGAN CASTON?
- The marriage space is hard — you have to be called to it
- “You don’t get into the marriage space to be rich or famous”
- Marriages are under attack
- There is a lot of shame around struggling marriages
- The Christian tendency: Keep marriage problems private
- The need for open, honest conversations about marriage
- Casey & Meygan’s mission: Fight for marriages and equip couples
SECTION 4:
The Beginning
- Met in 2001 as college sweethearts
- Dating was easy, fun, exciting — they assumed marriage would be the same
- Common marriage myths they believed:
- “If it’s true love, it shouldn’t be hard”
- “We just won’t be like our parents”
The Breaking Point
- Within 3 years, they were heading toward divorce
- Key stats: Between both sets of parents — 12 marriages total
- Both raised in the church, both raised in broken/blended homes
- They repeated the same patterns because they lacked skills and tools
Root Issues in Their Marriage
- Both were stubborn and competitive
- Carried unprocessed emotional baggage
- Got into significant debt
- Were both “right fighters” — winning arguments mattered more than connection
- No repair = no love = no connection
SECTION 5:
- Platitudes they received from the church:
- “Just put Jesus at the center”
- “Pray about it”
- “Pray for your spouse’s heart to change”
- The honest prayer: Both Casey and Meygan were secretly praying for God to change the other person
- Biblical call-out: Matthew 7:5 — “First take the plank out of your own eye”
- Neither was willing to do their own inner work
SECTION 6:
- Meygan told her best friend they were heading for divorce
- Best friend encouraged her to seek counseling
- Casey was unwilling to get help at the time
The Transformation
- Meygan went to therapy alone for 13 months
- The advice that changed everything:
What Meygan Learned in Those 13 Months
- How to communicate effectively
- How to apologize well
- How to create healthy boundaries
- How to forgive — even without being asked
What God Did
- God softened her heart toward Casey
- She was able to see her own role — “I was actually half the problem”
- Casey noticed a complete 180-degree change in her
- God did miracles — not because both were ready, but because one was willing
SECTION 7:
- It didn’t happen overnight
- Couldn’t afford ongoing therapy
- The church had no ongoing marriage education at the time:
- No Bible studies on marriage
- No marriage programs or resources
- Only option: See the pastor after crisis hit
- No social media, very few marriage ministries online
SECTION 8:
- A strong, loving marriage and family is one of the greatest gospel presentations to a watching world
- Casey’s vision:
- The problem in the church today:
- Marriage is being actively deprioritized
- No budget allocation for marriage ministry
- No programs or resources
- Hurting marriages are suffering in silence
RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED
| Resource | Link |
|---|---|
| Marriage After God Shop | shop.marriageaftergod.com |
| Marriage 365 | marriage365.org |
| Subscribe to Podcast | YouTube / iTunes / Spotify |
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