HOW ARE YOU HANDLING YOUR EMOTIONS & FEELINGS?
Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. Hebrews 12:14-15
How are you doing with your emotions and feelings when you think about your spouse and what they are doing with the other person? Maybe you have not had to deal with another person, but how are you dealing with your emotions when your spouse does not see your children regularly or cancels the children’s night out at the last minute? I can remember when Bob was gone, my mind worked overtime in imagining what he and she were doing all the time. I would get so upset, angry and then jealous. What are you angry or jealous about right now?
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. “In your anger do not sinâ€: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:22-27
Let me share an event that comes to my memory several times a year especially around Mother’s Day. It is about me chasing Bob and the other woman in the car all over Ft. Lauderdale looking for them. Bob had called me at home and asked me to send our three children down to his parent’s house, who lived within walking distance from our home. Bob had taken his girlfriend with him when he went to visit his mom and take his Mother’s Day gift. I went crazy that he took the other person to his parent’s house for the first time on Mother’s Day weekend. I blew off at Bob and basically told him to leave before I came down there and made a scene. I was not handling this event on Mother’s Day weekend, when I felt a failure already.
After I returned home, never finding them, the Lord brought to my memory all that I had said and done that afternoon. I knew that I had really made a huge mistake. I had lost total control of my emotions and my common sense. I could have had a car accident or been arrested. I could have lost custody of my children. I knew the Lord had truly protected me and that was the beginning of me going on a spiritual journey with my Lord. I must admit that I had only surrendered my life to the Lord two months earlier so I was still wearing all my emotions and feelings on my sleeves and the enemy was pushing my buttons!
Have you done something you wish you could erase from your past of marriage problems, separation or divorce? I totally understand. What you need to do is pray daily for God’s wisdom, His knowledge and His understanding on how to deal with the variety of difficult issues that come your way due to your marriage problems or divorce. Let me share a powerful scripture that may help you:
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom†does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:13-18
How are you doing? Are you living a peaceful life and acting Christ-like in the midst of the storm of your marriage problems or divorce? Are you trying to walk in humility and sowing peace wherever you go? Do you see the warning that James is giving you? Are you harboring envy? What is envy? The meaning taken from The American College Dictionary says: It is a feeling of discontentment or feeling ill will at seeing another's superiority, advantages or success.
How many of our standers can say that they or their spouse had selfish ambition? The meaning of ambition from the same dictionary says: an eager desire for distinction, preferment, power or fame. Ambition is not wrong, but selfish ambition often leaves out their spouse and their children when they get driven by doing something that often stimulates or creates a prideful heart. The enemy will often deceive a spouse to work for a goal or sacrifice to get their education to the destruction of their own family or they may meet someone where they are spending all their time working for that promotion.
The reason that I am sharing this with you is that I believe you should examine your own heart. Are you walking in humility, being considerate in all things, showing mercy knowing that being a peacemaker will reap righteousness? That sounds great, but in reality are you really upset, angry, jealous and harboring bitter envy regarding your spouse and how they are living or spending money on someone else? God knows your heart and does understand. I hope tonight you will have a private conversation with the Lord confessing your pain, your struggles, and your feelings and allow Him to touch and remove all the sin or carnal flesh out of your heart. He did it for me and He can do it for you. Oh, yes, you may be tested or have something happen suddenly and your emotions may rise up, but call on the Holy Spirit to give you His divine wisdom and instructions of how to deal with each problem as they happen.
I know that you are seeking restoration and happiness in your marriage. I believe if you will study and read the scripture in James, Chapter 3 several times, the Holy Spirit will reveal to you what you need to do personally and how to pray even more specifically for your beloved spouse. Never forget that God created marriage and He hates divorce.
Have a blessed day,
Charlyne Steinkamp
Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. Hebrews 12:14-15
How are you doing with your emotions and feelings when you think about your spouse and what they are doing with the other person? Maybe you have not had to deal with another person, but how are you dealing with your emotions when your spouse does not see your children regularly or cancels the children’s night out at the last minute? I can remember when Bob was gone, my mind worked overtime in imagining what he and she were doing all the time. I would get so upset, angry and then jealous. What are you angry or jealous about right now?
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. “In your anger do not sinâ€: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. Ephesians 4:22-27
Let me share an event that comes to my memory several times a year especially around Mother’s Day. It is about me chasing Bob and the other woman in the car all over Ft. Lauderdale looking for them. Bob had called me at home and asked me to send our three children down to his parent’s house, who lived within walking distance from our home. Bob had taken his girlfriend with him when he went to visit his mom and take his Mother’s Day gift. I went crazy that he took the other person to his parent’s house for the first time on Mother’s Day weekend. I blew off at Bob and basically told him to leave before I came down there and made a scene. I was not handling this event on Mother’s Day weekend, when I felt a failure already.
After I returned home, never finding them, the Lord brought to my memory all that I had said and done that afternoon. I knew that I had really made a huge mistake. I had lost total control of my emotions and my common sense. I could have had a car accident or been arrested. I could have lost custody of my children. I knew the Lord had truly protected me and that was the beginning of me going on a spiritual journey with my Lord. I must admit that I had only surrendered my life to the Lord two months earlier so I was still wearing all my emotions and feelings on my sleeves and the enemy was pushing my buttons!
Have you done something you wish you could erase from your past of marriage problems, separation or divorce? I totally understand. What you need to do is pray daily for God’s wisdom, His knowledge and His understanding on how to deal with the variety of difficult issues that come your way due to your marriage problems or divorce. Let me share a powerful scripture that may help you:
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom†does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:13-18
How are you doing? Are you living a peaceful life and acting Christ-like in the midst of the storm of your marriage problems or divorce? Are you trying to walk in humility and sowing peace wherever you go? Do you see the warning that James is giving you? Are you harboring envy? What is envy? The meaning taken from The American College Dictionary says: It is a feeling of discontentment or feeling ill will at seeing another's superiority, advantages or success.
How many of our standers can say that they or their spouse had selfish ambition? The meaning of ambition from the same dictionary says: an eager desire for distinction, preferment, power or fame. Ambition is not wrong, but selfish ambition often leaves out their spouse and their children when they get driven by doing something that often stimulates or creates a prideful heart. The enemy will often deceive a spouse to work for a goal or sacrifice to get their education to the destruction of their own family or they may meet someone where they are spending all their time working for that promotion.
The reason that I am sharing this with you is that I believe you should examine your own heart. Are you walking in humility, being considerate in all things, showing mercy knowing that being a peacemaker will reap righteousness? That sounds great, but in reality are you really upset, angry, jealous and harboring bitter envy regarding your spouse and how they are living or spending money on someone else? God knows your heart and does understand. I hope tonight you will have a private conversation with the Lord confessing your pain, your struggles, and your feelings and allow Him to touch and remove all the sin or carnal flesh out of your heart. He did it for me and He can do it for you. Oh, yes, you may be tested or have something happen suddenly and your emotions may rise up, but call on the Holy Spirit to give you His divine wisdom and instructions of how to deal with each problem as they happen.
I know that you are seeking restoration and happiness in your marriage. I believe if you will study and read the scripture in James, Chapter 3 several times, the Holy Spirit will reveal to you what you need to do personally and how to pray even more specifically for your beloved spouse. Never forget that God created marriage and He hates divorce.
Have a blessed day,
Charlyne Steinkamp
Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
