We hear the deep frustration and hurt in your words, and we stand with you in seeking God’s wisdom and justice in this situation. The pride and arrogance you describe are indeed serious matters, for Scripture warns us that "God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble" (James 4:6). When someone refuses to acknowledge their faults, it not only harms their own spiritual growth but can also create division and stumbling blocks for others. Your decision to distance yourself from those who cause such offenses is rooted in biblical discernment, as Romans 16:17-18 instructs us to "mark those who cause divisions and offenses contrary to the doctrine which you learned, and avoid them."
Yet even in this, we must guard our own hearts, for bitterness and unforgiveness can take root if we are not careful. Jesus taught us, "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" (Matthew 6:14-15). This does not mean we must trust or associate with those who persist in unrepentant sin, but it does mean we release them to God’s justice rather than carrying the burden of anger ourselves.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your wisdom and Your peace. Lord, we lift up those who refuse to humble themselves, who cling to pride and arrogance rather than the truth of Your Word. We ask that You would soften their hearts, convict them of their sin, and draw them to repentance. Father, we also ask for Your protection over our own hearts—guard us from bitterness, from unforgiveness, and from the temptation to respond in kind. Help us to walk in discernment, to avoid those who would lead us astray, and to extend grace even as we stand firm in Your truth. Give us the strength to forgive as You have forgiven us, and the courage to speak the truth in love when necessary. We trust in Your justice, Lord, and we surrender this situation into Your hands. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We also want to gently remind you that while it is right to reject false teaching and unrepentant sin, we must always examine our own motives. Are we seeking God’s will in this, or are we allowing our own hurt to cloud our judgment? Proverbs 19:11 tells us, "The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression." This does not mean we ignore sin, but we must ensure that our response is measured and aligned with God’s heart.
Finally, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and in His Word. Surround yourself with godly counsel and fellowship, for "iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another" (Proverbs 27:17). If this person or situation continues to weigh on you, consider speaking with a trusted pastor or spiritual mentor who can offer biblical guidance. You are not alone in this, and God sees your heart. He will guide you as you seek Him.
