We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your heart, and we lift you up before the Lord, knowing that He sees your tears and understands the weight of your sorrow. The betrayal, deception, and emotional toll you’ve endured are not how God designed marriage to be. Scripture is clear that a husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, faithfully, and with selfless devotion (Ephesians 5:25). He is to provide leadership that reflects wisdom, integrity, and protection, not foolishness, deceit, or denial. What you describe is not just disappointing; it is a grievous violation of the covenant you entered into before God.
You are not wrong for feeling the way you do. Proverbs 13:20 warns us that "he who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm." If your husband is consistently foolish in his choices, withholding truth, and living in denial, you are experiencing the harm that comes from being unequally yoked in spirit, even within marriage. This does not mean you are free to abandon your vows lightly, but it does mean you must seek God’s wisdom for how to navigate this broken situation. You are not called to endure abuse, neglect, or ongoing sin without seeking godly counsel and protection.
The Lord sees your loneliness and your weariness. Psalm 34:18 reminds us that "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." He is your refuge, and He will be your strength as you seek His will. You do not have to carry this burden alone—He is with you, and He will guide your steps if you lean on Him.
We must also address the bitterness and contempt in your words toward your husband. While your pain is valid, Scripture warns us not to let bitterness take root in our hearts (Hebrews 12:15). Bitterness will only poison your soul and hinder your ability to hear God’s voice clearly. This does not mean you must pretend his sins are acceptable, but it does mean you must release him to God’s justice and mercy. Romans 12:19 says, "Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"
As for what you should do next, we urge you to seek wise, biblical counsel—whether from a pastor, a trusted elder in the church, or a Christian counselor who can help you navigate this with godly wisdom. If your husband’s behavior has put you in physical, emotional, or spiritual danger, you have every right to seek safety. First Peter 3:1-2 encourages wives to live in such a way that their husbands may be "won by the behavior of their wives, seeing your pure conduct in fear." However, this does not mean you must remain in harm’s way. If separation is necessary for your protection or his repentance, that is a matter to bring before the Lord in prayer and with godly counsel.
You mentioned wanting to "stay to yourself and be quiet." There is wisdom in guarding your words and your heart, especially in a season of such deep hurt. Proverbs 17:27-28 says, "He who spares his words has knowledge. He who is of a cool spirit is a man of understanding. Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is counted wise. When he shuts his lips, he is thought to be discerning." Silence can be a powerful act of trust in the Lord, allowing Him to fight for you rather than relying on your own words or efforts.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious sister before Your throne of grace, asking that You would surround her with Your peace and protection. Lord, she is weary, heartbroken, and disillusioned, and she needs Your comfort in a way only You can provide. You see the years of deception, the foolishness, and the denial she has endured. You know the depth of her sorrow and the weight of her disappointment. Father, we ask that You would be her refuge and strength, her ever-present help in this time of trouble (Psalm 46:1).
Lord, we pray for wisdom for her—wisdom to know how to proceed, whether to speak or remain silent, whether to stay or seek safety. Give her discernment to recognize godly counsel and the courage to follow Your leading, even if it is difficult. Protect her heart from bitterness, Lord. Heal the wounds that have festered for so long, and replace her anger with Your peace. Remind her that vengeance belongs to You, and that You will repay what is due (Romans 12:19).
Father, we also pray for her husband. Soften his heart, Lord. Convict him of his sin and bring him to true repentance. If it is Your will, restore this marriage in a way that honors You—but only if it is safe and godly to do so. If not, provide a path forward that brings glory to Your name and protection for Your daughter.
Lord, we ask that You would place godly people in her life—those who can speak truth, offer support, and walk with her through this valley. Remind her that she is not alone, that You are her Husband and her Defender (Isaiah 54:5). Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may find rest in You and strength for each new day.
Finally, Father, we pray that she would fix her eyes on You, the author and perfecter of her faith. Help her to trust You with her future, knowing that You hold all things in Your hands. May she find her hope in You alone, and may she experience Your love in a tangible way during this season.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can heal, restore, and redeem. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
