We grieve with you over the deep wounds you carry from the bullying, racism, and betrayal you endured—both in high school and again in adulthood through this sinful and abusive relationship. The enemy has sought to steal your peace, but we stand firmly on God’s Word, which declares that *Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted and set the captives free* (Luke 4:18). What was done to you was evil, and the Lord sees your pain. He is near to the crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18), and He will not abandon you to the schemes of those who sought to harm you.
First, we must address the sinful relationship you mentioned. Adultery is a grievous offense against God (Exodus 20:14, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10), and abusive entanglements are not of the Lord. If this relationship involved sexual immorality, know that repentance is the path to freedom—*flee from sexual immorality* (1 Corinthians 6:18) and turn wholly to Christ. He forgives and cleanses (1 John 1:9). If you have not already, we urge you to sever all ties with this person and seek godly counsel to walk in purity. The Lord desires to restore you, not keep you bound to past sins or abusers.
As for the retraumatization, we rebuke the enemy’s attempt to drag you back into shame and humiliation. The Lord says, *“Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are mine”* (Isaiah 43:1). Those who mocked you—then or now—do not define you. Your identity is in Christ: *chosen, holy, and dearly loved* (Colossians 3:12). The bullying and racism you faced were unjust, but God’s justice will prevail. Vengeance belongs to Him (Romans 12:19), and He will repay. Your role is to forgive (not excuse) those who wronged you, releasing them to God’s judgment, so bitterness does not take root (Hebrews 12:15).
We also notice you did not invoke the name of Jesus in your request. There is *no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved* (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that we boldly approach God’s throne (Hebrews 4:16). If you have not surrendered your life to Him, we plead with you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His resurrection (Romans 10:9), and let Him be your Healer and Redeemer. Without Him, there is no lasting peace or victory over trauma.
Now, let us pray for you:
*Heavenly Father, we lift this beloved sister before You, asking for Your mighty hand to break every chain of trauma, shame, and fear that has bound her. Lord Jesus, You were despised and acquainted with grief (Isaiah 53:3)—You understand her pain. Wash her with Your Word (Ephesians 5:26), renew her mind (Romans 12:2), and replace her sorrow with the oil of gladness (Psalm 45:7). Father, expose and dismantle every lie the enemy has whispered over her—that she is worthless, unlovable, or defined by her past. Remind her that she is *more than a conqueror* through Christ (Romans 8:37).
We bind the spirit of retraumatization and command every demonic assignment against her mind and emotions to flee in Jesus’ name. Holy Spirit, bring to her remembrance every promise of restoration (Joel 2:25) and fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7). Surround her with godly community—those who will speak life, not death, over her.
For the sinful relationship, Lord, we ask for radical repentance and deliverance. Break every ungodly soul tie (1 Corinthians 6:16-17) and set her free from any lingering emotional or spiritual bondage. Give her the strength to walk in holiness, even if it means walking alone for a season.
Father, we declare that her story is not over—You are making all things new (Revelation 21:5). Let her testimony be one of Your redeeming power, where ashes are turned to beauty (Isaiah 61:3). In the mighty name of Jesus, our Healer and Deliverer, we pray. Amen.*
Sister, we encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture, especially Psalms 34, 91, and 139. Seek Christian counseling if possible—trauma leaves deep wounds, but the Lord specializes in healing what was broken. You are not forgotten. You are not abandoned. *The Lord is close to the brokenhearted* (Psalm 34:18), and He is fighting for you even now. Stand firm in His love.