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Hi,
Greetings to you in the name of our Lord Jesus.
My name is Chandra and I am a christian who has accepted Lord Jesus christ as my savior and asked for forgiveness of my sins. I am from India and moved to the US on work last year.
My parents in India are also christians and I have a younger sister who is a christian too and we believe that whatever we are is by the grace of Lord in our lives.
I met an American white girl on the christianmingle website and her name is Sarah. She is studying Masters in Psychology and is strong in her faith and is committed to live a life as a good christian. We started speaking and later we met each other too. During the course of time - we both started liking each other and fell in love with each other. we communicate everyday over phone and weekends I meet her at her parents house. Her parents have seen me few times and we get along well. We both are interested in being united in matrimony after acceptance from my family in India as well as hers. Also we are seeking Gods will in the same.
Here’s where I am going through a big struggle. I have told this to my parents and they are very opposed to the fact that I would like to be with Sarah. The reason they give is that since our cultures are different there will be many difficulties and my parents have this negative thoughts about the American culture that its not good and many marriages end up as broken ones etc. Also they are worried that there is a possibility of infidelity etc. I have convinced them to the best of my abilities that Sarah does not seem so and I feel if we were united as man and wife - we both can work well towards making our marriage as a blessed one.
My parents are rather telling me to stop this relation with Sarah and try to find an Indian christian girl since this will be much more easy in terms of accommodating to cultures and they feel this will be a stable one than being with Sarah. But we both like each other a lot and its very tough for me to give this up for my parents.
I am very worried since as per Bible - God tells us to “obey your parents in the Lord for this is right and that honor thy father and mother in the Lordâ€. I have a feeling that they will be never convinced about this in my life and if I go ahead and do it they will not be happy with me. My parents have health issues too such as high Blood pressure and diabetes and if I don’t listen to their words they might become sick and this will be blamed on me - my conscience might blame me too.
Also my parents have told me to go ahead and continue this relationship if I like to do so and I need not worry about them and think about it.
I am very unhappy because ever since my parents got to know about this - our relations have soured badly. I have told them that I will take care of them in their old age and that they can live with me after marriage with Sarah for which she is OK too. But my parents would not want to leave India and rather would like me to move there and take care of them. My parents are also worried that my relatives and society in India will look down upon them and me and consider this as a shameful thing to my family.
My sister who is also aware of this has told me to discontinue this relation with Sarah because it will mean peace to my parents and stick with their thoughts about my future life partner.
She is not married yet and my relation with Sarah would probably bring some uncomfortable situations in finding a partner for her.
I have told Sarah about all these bad tidings at my home and she is devastated at this point. She wants to be with me as do I. She is willing to be patient and ask God to help us so that my parents can be convinced and that they accept her.
I feel if I leave her - it might leave her upset for a long time and she may not be able to move on out of this disappointment.
I am very dejected at this point and feeling very let down.
I ask you to please pray for me, my parents & sister, Sarah and her parents too. I am in dire need of direction from God and can’t seem to find peace in my heart. I wont want to hurt my parents who have done so many things for me and also don’t want to lose Sarah since she is a good christian girl that I met and we both have shared a unique relationship.
If you can help me through an email on this situation in my life - I will be very grateful. My personal mail id is - chandrashekar.chetty@gmail.com
Thanks,
Chandra.
Greetings to you in the name of our Lord Jesus.
My name is Chandra and I am a christian who has accepted Lord Jesus christ as my savior and asked for forgiveness of my sins. I am from India and moved to the US on work last year.
My parents in India are also christians and I have a younger sister who is a christian too and we believe that whatever we are is by the grace of Lord in our lives.
I met an American white girl on the christianmingle website and her name is Sarah. She is studying Masters in Psychology and is strong in her faith and is committed to live a life as a good christian. We started speaking and later we met each other too. During the course of time - we both started liking each other and fell in love with each other. we communicate everyday over phone and weekends I meet her at her parents house. Her parents have seen me few times and we get along well. We both are interested in being united in matrimony after acceptance from my family in India as well as hers. Also we are seeking Gods will in the same.
Here’s where I am going through a big struggle. I have told this to my parents and they are very opposed to the fact that I would like to be with Sarah. The reason they give is that since our cultures are different there will be many difficulties and my parents have this negative thoughts about the American culture that its not good and many marriages end up as broken ones etc. Also they are worried that there is a possibility of infidelity etc. I have convinced them to the best of my abilities that Sarah does not seem so and I feel if we were united as man and wife - we both can work well towards making our marriage as a blessed one.
My parents are rather telling me to stop this relation with Sarah and try to find an Indian christian girl since this will be much more easy in terms of accommodating to cultures and they feel this will be a stable one than being with Sarah. But we both like each other a lot and its very tough for me to give this up for my parents.
I am very worried since as per Bible - God tells us to “obey your parents in the Lord for this is right and that honor thy father and mother in the Lordâ€. I have a feeling that they will be never convinced about this in my life and if I go ahead and do it they will not be happy with me. My parents have health issues too such as high Blood pressure and diabetes and if I don’t listen to their words they might become sick and this will be blamed on me - my conscience might blame me too.
Also my parents have told me to go ahead and continue this relationship if I like to do so and I need not worry about them and think about it.
I am very unhappy because ever since my parents got to know about this - our relations have soured badly. I have told them that I will take care of them in their old age and that they can live with me after marriage with Sarah for which she is OK too. But my parents would not want to leave India and rather would like me to move there and take care of them. My parents are also worried that my relatives and society in India will look down upon them and me and consider this as a shameful thing to my family.
My sister who is also aware of this has told me to discontinue this relation with Sarah because it will mean peace to my parents and stick with their thoughts about my future life partner.
She is not married yet and my relation with Sarah would probably bring some uncomfortable situations in finding a partner for her.
I have told Sarah about all these bad tidings at my home and she is devastated at this point. She wants to be with me as do I. She is willing to be patient and ask God to help us so that my parents can be convinced and that they accept her.
I feel if I leave her - it might leave her upset for a long time and she may not be able to move on out of this disappointment.
I am very dejected at this point and feeling very let down.
I ask you to please pray for me, my parents & sister, Sarah and her parents too. I am in dire need of direction from God and can’t seem to find peace in my heart. I wont want to hurt my parents who have done so many things for me and also don’t want to lose Sarah since she is a good christian girl that I met and we both have shared a unique relationship.
If you can help me through an email on this situation in my life - I will be very grateful. My personal mail id is - chandrashekar.chetty@gmail.com
Thanks,
Chandra.
