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I keep thinking about the fact that my mother passed away nine months ago. Ever since then, all the people who claimed they loved her have stopped talking to me, even though she helped them get their immigration papers and supported them in so many ways.

People only seemed to use my mother while she was alive. To give you an example, after she passed away, my aunt was already asking about my mother's cell phones, and one of my mother's brothers was interested in the apartments she left behind. My father is still alive, and everything belongs to him. I don't understand why my grandmother and my mother's siblings want to take everything that belonged to her.

My father always tells me, "Stay calm, my daughter. God sees everything." He has told me that after my mother died, even though I took care of her, the family has only been concerned with taking her belongings.

It makes me angry that my aunt, who claimed to love my mother so much, keeps asking me about my mother's phones. Before my mother passed away, she gave all of those things to me. Since my mother died, all I have heard from that side of the family is gossip and ingratitude. I NEED prayer because I want God to take all those pain away. I can't change people. I have always been a kind person. I let my family and friends walk all over me because I loved them, but they always treat me badly. Why do they treat me so badly? I just want God to help me to give me meaningful people in my life who are going to be kind and like me. I had a friend who stopped talking to me because her mom told her I didn't want to bring her something. I never refused; I only said, "Leave with my dad, and when I come back, I will pick it up." This person is a Christian. I have always been a good friend, and I never received the same respect. God, help me have a hard heart. I have been good and soft-hearted all my life. All I was given was mistreatment. I was always available, and when my mom died, all those people that used to "love" her are nowhere to be found. The people my mom and I did the green card for are so different now that they are in America. They are defrauding Medicare and humiliating me because I don't have a job. I have been living in the USA for 22 years, and I have never changed. I have always been the same. People tell me, "You are still the same." I remember when my mom had her first surgery for breast cancer, my grandmother said, "I'm not going." The only people who were with my mom were my husband, my brother, and my dad. Those people she did the green card for left her and went on vacation when my mother needed them the most. I just want God to help me forgive and understand why people are so mean to me when all I do is good.

It hurts me deeply because my mother spent her entire life helping her siblings with their financial problems, and today those same siblings, who are my uncles and aunts, do not even talk to me. And if they do talk to me, it is only to ask, "What happened to your mother's phones? I want one."

What can I do so that none of this affects me? People always tell me to let those people go and move on with my life.

 

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We hear the deep pain and betrayal in your heart, and we lift you up before the Lord with compassion and urgency. The way your family and even those your mother helped have turned away from you is not just hurtful, it is a violation of love, loyalty, and basic human decency. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 14:21, "He who despises his neighbor sins, but blessed is he who has pity on the poor." Yet here, those who were lifted up by your mother’s kindness have shown no pity, no gratitude, and no honor. This is not just a personal wound; it is a spiritual injustice, and we stand with you in righteous anger against the hardness of their hearts.

You are not wrong to feel anger, Jesus Himself was angry at injustice and hypocrisy (Mark 3:5). But we must guard your heart from bitterness, for it will only poison you further. Hebrews 12:15 warns, "Looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it." The enemy would love for this pain to turn you hard, to make you distrust everyone, or to believe that kindness is weakness. But we declare over you: Your soft heart is not your weakness, it is your strength. Jesus was meek and lowly, yet He overturned tables in the temple. You can be gentle and still stand firm.

We rebuke the spirit of exploitation that has operated in your family. Your mother’s siblings and those she helped have treated her, and now you, like a resource to be used, not a person to be loved. This is greed, plain and simple, and it is an abomination to God. 1 Timothy 6:10 says, "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some have been led astray from the faith in their greed, and have pierced themselves through with many sorrows." We pray that the Lord would expose their motives and bring conviction where there is hardness. We also pray that He would protect your father’s inheritance and your mother’s memory from those who would dishonor it.

You asked what you can do so this no longer affects you. First, you must release them to God. Romans 12:19 says, "Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’" You cannot change them, but God can. Second, you must set boundaries. Jesus Himself withdrew from those who sought to use Him (Matthew 12:15). You are not obligated to engage with people who only reach out to take from you. Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, "Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul." This applies to those who harbor greed and ingratitude as well.

Third, you must guard your heart by filling it with truth. Psalm 119:11 says, "I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you." When the enemy whispers that you are weak, that you are unlovable, or that kindness is foolish, you must counter him with Scripture. You are not what they have made you feel. You are a daughter of the King, cherished and valued beyond measure. Isaiah 43:4 says, "Since you have been precious in my sight, you have been honorable, and I have loved you." God sees your tears, your sacrifices, and your faithfulness. He will not abandon you.

We also want to gently address your prayer for a "hard heart." While we understand the exhaustion behind that plea, we must caution you: hardness is not God’s design for you. Ezekiel 36:26 says, "I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh." God does not want you to become calloused, He wants to heal your broken heart and fill it with His love, so that you can love others without being taken advantage of. The answer is not to stop feeling, but to feel differently, to feel secure in Christ, to feel protected by His boundaries, and to feel empowered by His strength.

As for the "meaningful people" you long for, we pray that God would bring them into your life. But we also encourage you to be that person for someone else. Sometimes, God allows us to go through loneliness so that we can become a refuge for others. Psalm 68:6 says, "God sets the solitary in families." He is preparing a family for you, one that will honor, cherish, and stand by you. Until then, cling to Him. He is your Father, your Friend, and your Defender.

We also want to address the mention of those who are defrauding Medicare. This is sin, and it is grieving to the Lord. Proverbs 15:27 says, "He who is greedy for gain troubles his own house." We pray that God would convict them and turn their hearts toward integrity. We also pray for your provision, 22 years in this country, and you have remained faithful. God sees your struggle. Philippians 4:19 says, "My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus." Trust Him for your daily bread.

And finally, we must address something critical: Have you placed your trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior? You mention God, but not the name of Jesus. There is no access to the Father except through the Son. John 14:6 says, "Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.’" If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. He is the only one who can heal your heart, defend your cause, and give you the family you long for, in Him. Romans 10:9 says, "If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts on behalf of our sister. Lord, You see the betrayal, the exploitation, and the deep wound in her soul. You know the names of every person who has taken advantage of her kindness, and we ask that You would deal with them according to Your justice. Expose their motives, convict their hearts, and turn their greed into generosity.

Father, we ask for healing for her broken heart. Where she has been used, restore her dignity. Where she has been abandoned, remind her that You will never leave her nor forsake her (Hebrews 13:5). Where she has been kind without reciprocation, show her that her reward is in heaven (Matthew 6:4). Lord, we pray against bitterness. Uproot any seed of resentment and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

We pray for godly boundaries in her life. Give her the wisdom to know when to walk away, the strength to say no, and the discernment to recognize true love. Surround her with people who will honor her, cherish her, and stand by her as You do. Father, we ask that You would bring her a community of believers who will love her as You love her, unconditionally and sacrificially.

Lord, we also pray for her provision. You know her needs, and we trust You to meet them. Open doors of opportunity, provide for her daily bread, and remind her that she is not forgotten. Help her to see herself as You see her, precious, valuable, and deeply loved.

And Father, if she has not yet surrendered her life to Jesus, we pray that You would draw her to Yourself. Soften her heart, open her eyes, and let her know that Jesus is the only one who can truly heal her and give her the love she craves. We pray that she would confess Him as Lord and believe in her heart that You raised Him from the dead, so that she may be saved.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name that heals, restores, and redeems. Amen.

 

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We hear the pain in your heart, and we want you to know we’re standing with you in prayer. It’s heartbreaking when those we love, people who benefited so much from your mother’s kindness, turn away the moment she’s gone. They didn’t just lose her; they lost sight of gratitude and respect. We’re so sorry you’re carrying this weight alone.

It makes sense that you’d feel angry, that’s a natural response to injustice. Jesus felt that way too when He saw people being mistreated. But we don’t want bitterness to take root in your heart. Instead, we pray that God would heal your wounds and replace the hurt with His peace. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” He sees your tears, and He won’t leave you in this pain forever.

We also pray for wisdom as you navigate these relationships. It’s okay to distance yourself from people who only come around when they want something. You don’t have to keep giving when they’ve shown no real care for you. God wants you protected, not taken advantage of.

Lastly, we want to pray for your heart’s deepest desire, to feel loved and valued. You’ve given so much, and it hurts when it’s not returned. But God is building something new in you, something stronger and more beautiful than what you’ve lost. Trust Him to bring good people into your life who will honor the love you’ve shown.

Lord, we lift this dear sister to You. Heal her heart, protect her, and surround her with Your love. Help her to walk in forgiveness while also guarding her spirit from further harm. Bring restoration where there’s been loss, and open doors to meaningful relationships that reflect Your grace. We ask all this in Jesus’ name.