We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your heart, and we grieve with you over the brokenness in your relationships with your children. The weight of blame, ingratitude, and unresolved wounds is heavy, and we want you to know that God sees your suffering. He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He understands the depth of your frustration and sorrow. You are not alone in this, even when it feels as though you are carrying this burden by yourself.
First, we must gently address something in your words that gives us pause. You mentioned praying in a way that seems to release your children from your life entirely, even asking that you never need each other. While we understand the desire to protect yourself from further pain, we must remind you that Scripture calls us to love—even when it is difficult, even when it is unreturned. Jesus said in Luke 6:35, *"But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing back; and your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High; for he is kind toward the unthankful and evil."* This does not mean you must endure abuse or remain in harmful dynamics, but it does mean that your heart must remain open to the possibility of reconciliation, even if it is not immediate. We are not called to cut off relationships permanently but to set boundaries while still leaving room for God to work.
You also mentioned "rebuking the demons of personality disorders" from your children. While we believe in the power of prayer against spiritual strongholds (Ephesians 6:12), we must be cautious not to attribute every struggle to demonic influence. Personality disorders and behavioral patterns often stem from brokenness, sin, or generational wounds—not just spiritual oppression. Prayer is powerful, but it must be paired with wisdom, discernment, and, when necessary, professional counsel that aligns with biblical truth. Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* If your children are struggling with deep-seated issues, it may be wise to seek godly counsel for them—and for you—as you navigate this season.
We also sense a spirit of resignation in your words—*"I give up," "It is not worth it," "I can play games and pretend."* Beloved, we understand why you feel this way, but we must gently warn you against hardening your heart. Hebrews 12:15 says, *"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* Bitterness is a dangerous trap, one that will only deepen your pain and hinder God’s work in your life. It is right to set boundaries and step back from toxicity, but it is not right to close your heart entirely. Jesus, who was betrayed, mocked, and abandoned, still prayed for His persecutors (Luke 23:34). He understands your pain, and He is asking you to surrender this to Him—not to carry it alone.
As for your children’s behavior, we must remind you that their actions are their own before God. Ezekiel 18:20 says, *"The soul who sins, he shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son."* You are not responsible for their choices, nor are you to blame for their responses. However, you *are* responsible for your own reactions. You mentioned overreacting while they underreact—this is a place where the Holy Spirit can bring conviction and growth. Ask God to show you where you may have contributed to the cycle, not to accept blame, but to walk in humility. James 4:6 tells us, *"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble."*
Now, let us pray for you—and for your children—with hearts that long for healing, restoration, and God’s perfect will.
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is weary, wounded, and heartbroken. Lord, You see the tears she has cried in secret, the nights she has lain awake wondering where she went wrong, the moments she has felt utterly alone in this battle. We ask that You wrap Your arms around her and remind her that she is *seen*, she is *loved*, and she is *not forgotten* by You.
Father, we lift up her children to You. You knit them together in their mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13), and You love them even more than she does. Lord, break the cycles of sin, bitterness, and rebellion in their lives. If there are strongholds—whether spiritual, emotional, or generational—we ask that You, by Your mighty power, tear them down. Soften their hearts, Lord. Open their eyes to see the pain they have caused, not to shame them, but to lead them to repentance. Let them encounter Your love in a way that transforms them from the inside out.
We rebuke any spirit of division, accusation, or bitterness that has taken root in this family. Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but we declare that *he will not have the final word* in this situation. We ask for Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), to guard our sister’s heart and mind. Give her wisdom to know when to speak, when to listen, and when to step back. Show her how to set godly boundaries that protect her heart while still leaving the door open for reconciliation.
Lord, we ask that You heal the wounds of the past—the abuse, the misunderstandings, the words spoken in anger. You are the God who redeems what is broken (Joel 2:25). Restore what the locusts have eaten. Bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3). If there is unforgiveness in our sister’s heart, we ask that You would uproot it and replace it with Your love. If there is pride, break it. If there is fear, cast it out. Fill her instead with Your Spirit—with patience, kindness, and a supernatural ability to love even when it is not returned.
Father, we also pray for our sister’s own healing. She has carried this burden for so long, and it has left her exhausted. Renew her strength, Lord (Isaiah 40:31). Remind her that her worth is not found in her children’s approval or gratitude but in *You*. She is Your daughter, and You delight in her (Zephaniah 3:17). Restore her joy. Restore her hope. Let her find her identity in You alone.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You move in ways we cannot see. You specialize in the impossible (Luke 1:37). If this family is to be restored, let it be *Your* work, not man’s. If there is to be separation for a season, let it be for *Your* purposes, not out of bitterness. We surrender this situation into Your hands, trusting that You are working all things together for good (Romans 8:28).
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer, we pray. Amen.
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We want to encourage you to keep seeking the Lord in this. It is okay to grieve. It is okay to set boundaries. But do not let the enemy convince you that love is not worth fighting for—*not* because your children deserve it, but because *Christ* deserves your obedience, and He is worthy of your trust. Keep praying. Keep hoping. And most of all, keep surrendering this to Him, day by day.
If you have not already, we strongly encourage you to seek a biblical counselor or a mature believer who can walk with you through this. You were not meant to carry this alone. The body of Christ is here to support you, pray with you, and speak truth into your life when the lies of the enemy feel overwhelming.
Lastly, we leave you with this promise from Isaiah 43:18-19: *"Don’t remember the former things, and don’t consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing. It springs out now. Don’t you know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert."* God is not done writing your story. Trust Him with the next chapter.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
