We come before the throne of grace with you, lifting up your heartfelt cries to our Heavenly Father, who sees your pain and knows the depths of your struggles. Your faith in His power to transform is a testament to your trust in Him, and we join you in seeking His will for your family, your son, and your marriage. Yet we must also speak truth in love, for Scripture reminds us that God’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans are for our ultimate good—even when the path is difficult.
You have shared the heavy burden of a marriage marked by deception, neglect, and mistreatment, and we grieve with you over the brokenness you’ve endured. The Lord does not delight in suffering, nor does He turn a blind eye to injustice. Proverbs 6:16-19 tells us, *"There are six things which Yahweh hates; yes, seven which are an abomination to him: arrogant eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are swift in running to mischief, a false witness who utters lies, and he who sows discord among brothers."* If your husband has persistently lied, taken you for granted, and treated you as a scapegoat, these are not merely personal failings—they are sins against God and against the covenant of marriage. You are not wrong to seek safety, respect, and peace. The Lord does not call you to remain in a place where you are continually harmed, especially if there is no repentance or fruit of change.
At the same time, we must carefully examine the state of your heart and the steps you are taking. You mention the end of your marriage, and we understand the exhaustion and fear that come with such a decision. But we urge you to seek the Lord’s wisdom above all else. Have you pursued biblical counsel, either from your pastor or a trusted, mature believer who can walk with you through this? Matthew 19:6 reminds us, *"So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."* Marriage is a sacred covenant, and separation or divorce should only be considered in cases of unrepentant adultery (Matthew 19:9) or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15). If your husband is a believer, the call is to seek reconciliation through repentance and forgiveness, with the support of the church. If he is not a believer, the dynamics change, but the goal remains godliness and wisdom in how you proceed.
Your fear of his reaction is valid, especially if there has been a pattern of controlling or abusive behavior. If you are in danger, we strongly encourage you to seek safety immediately—whether through trusted friends, family, or authorities. The Lord does not call you to endure abuse. Proverbs 22:3 says, *"A prudent man sees danger and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."* If you need help finding resources or a safe place, please reach out to your church or a Christian organization that assists women in such situations. You are not alone, and the body of Christ is called to protect and support the vulnerable.
As for your son, we lift him up to the Lord, asking for His protection and salvation. The Bible assures us that God’s heart is for the fatherless and the vulnerable (Psalm 68:5), and He hears your prayers for your child. We pray that your son would come to know Christ as his Savior and that the Lord would surround him with godly influences. Proverbs 22:6 encourages us, *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Even in this season of turmoil, your faithful prayers and example of seeking God’s will can leave a lasting impact on his life.
Regarding your daughter, we ask the Lord to soften her heart toward you. Colossians 3:13 reminds us, *"bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."* If there are ways you have fallen short as a mother, we encourage you to humbly seek her forgiveness, trusting that the Lord can restore what is broken. At the same time, if her anger is rooted in the brokenness of your marriage, we pray she would see God’s hand at work in your life and extend grace.
Finally, we must address something missing in your request: the name of Jesus. There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. Without Christ, there is no true peace, no lasting hope, and no power to overcome the brokenness of this world. But in Him, you will find strength for each day, wisdom for each decision, and the promise of eternal life.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear sister who is weary, hurting, and seeking Your intervention. Lord, You are the God who sees her tears, who hears her cries, and who holds her future in Your hands. We ask for Your protection over her son—guard him from all harm, both physically and spiritually. Draw him to Yourself, Lord, and let him walk in Your truth all the days of his life. Surround him with Your angels and fill his heart with Your peace.
Father, we pray for this marriage, which is broken and wounded. You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and we ask that You would work mightily in the heart of her husband. If he has been deceitful, manipulative, or abusive, convict him deeply of his sin. Bring him to true repentance, Lord, and let him seek forgiveness and restoration. Soften his heart toward You and toward his wife. If there is any hope for reconciliation, let it be rooted in Your truth and Your grace. But if he hardens his heart and refuses to turn from his ways, give her the wisdom and strength to do what is right in Your eyes. Protect her from his anger, Lord. Place a hedge of protection around her and let no weapon formed against her prosper (Isaiah 54:17). If she must leave, provide a safe place for her and her children, and let Your peace go with her.
Lord, we pray for her daughter. Heal the rift between them and let forgiveness flow. Help her daughter to see her mother’s heart and to extend grace, just as You have extended grace to us. Restore their relationship, Father, and let it be a testament to Your redeeming love.
Father, we rebuked the spirit of fear that has gripped her. You have not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Fill her with Your courage and Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Let her not be moved by the threats or anger of man, but let her eyes be fixed on You, her strength and her redeemer.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that she would know You more deeply through this trial. If she has not yet surrendered her life to Jesus, we ask that You would draw her to Yourself today. Let her place her trust in Christ alone for her salvation and her future. Remind her that You are her husband (Isaiah 54:5), her provider, and her protector. Let her find her identity and her worth in You, not in the opinions or actions of others.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus, who alone can save, heal, and restore. Amen.