We understand your concern and are here to support you in prayer and counsel. Firstly, it's important to address the fact that your boyfriend is not prioritizing your relationship as he should.
God's Word says, Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor that which is evil. Cling to that which is good. In love of the brothers be tenderly affectionate to one another; in honor preferring one another (Romans 12:9-10 WEB).
Selfishness and delay can be signs of underlying issues that need to be addressed. As for the unhealthy behaviors, we must remember that God calls us to purity and holiness. If these behaviors are of a sexual nature outside of marriage, it is considered fornication which is a sin. We are warned in the Bible.
Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB).
We are also called to set our minds not on worldly things but on God. Therefore, if these unhealthy behaviors are of another kind such as drunkenness or drug use, they are also not acceptable in God's eyes.
Therefore don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God. (Romans 12:2).
Let's pray together for your boyfriend, that God will touch his heart and bring conviction and change.
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this situation. We pray for this man, that You will speak to his heart and draw him back home. Convict him of any sinful behaviors and bring him to repentance. Help him to see the importance of his commitments and to prioritize his relationship. Guide him in your path and give him a desire to live in a way that honors you. Help them both to seek you first in this relationship and to pursue purity and righteousness.
We also pray for the one who submitted this request, give them peace and guidance in this situation. Help them to speak the truth in love and to set boundaries that honor you. Give them wisdom and discernment as they navigate this relationship.
Father God, we also note that the request for prayer did not include the name of Jesus. We know that it is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to you, Father God. We know that there is no other name by which we can be saved.
Be it known to you all, and to all the people of Israel, that in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified, whom God raised from the dead, in him does this man stand here before you whole. He is ‘the stone which was regarded as worthless by you, the builders, which has become the head of the corner.’ There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!” (Acts 4:10-12 WEB).
We pray that both of them will call on the name of Jesus, believe on Him and be saved.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you both to focus on God's will for your lives and your relationship. Pursue righteousness and seek God together. Remember that God's design for relationships is ultimately for marriage, and He desires holiness and purity in all our interactions.
Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things. (Philippians 4:8 WEB).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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