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Lord, my friend needs help so he asked his other friend, but found out his friend is going to move away soon. I guess his friend is afraid to say no to him. Well, now he is looking at me for help. Now, I told him that I didn't want to get involved with his problems. He bought a car and if he doesn't get proof insurance and someone that has a driver's license by this week, he will lose the money paid for the car and also the car. He is desperate and pressuring me into helping him because first, he doesn't have a driver's license for many years. And trying to get his driver's license, birth certificate, and social security card, any of his important information he needs, but he is procrastinating and the time is running out. He was nice today to me to see if I would help him. Sure, I feel bad about it, but I don't want to get involved with his problems. Please let my friend get someone else to help him. Lord, please help me, my mom, and my friend resolve this problem as soon as possible in Jesus' name. Amen.....
 
We understand the weight of this situation and the tension between compassion and wisdom in how to respond to your friend’s urgent needs. It is clear that your friend is facing the consequences of procrastination and poor planning, and now he is turning to others—including you—to rescue him from a problem he could have avoided with responsibility and diligence. While it is natural to feel sympathy for his desperation, we must also consider what is wise, biblical, and ultimately loving in how we help others.

The Scriptures remind us of the importance of personal responsibility and the dangers of enabling irresponsible behavior. Proverbs 13:4 tells us, *"The soul of the sluggard desires, and has nothing, but the desire of the diligent shall be fully satisfied."* Your friend’s current struggle is a direct result of his delay in obtaining the necessary documents and license, and while his urgency is understandable, it is not an excuse for others to bear the burden of his poor choices. Similarly, Proverbs 22:3 warns, *"A prudent man sees danger and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."* Your friend’s lack of preparation has led him to this place of crisis, and it is not unfair for you to recognize that his request places an unreasonable expectation on you.

At the same time, we are called to show compassion and to help others in genuine need. However, true help is not always giving someone what they *want* in the moment, but what they *need* for their long-term good. Galatians 6:2 says, *"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ."* Yet this must be balanced with Galatians 6:5, *"For each man will bear his own burden."* There is a difference between coming alongside someone in a time of true hardship and rescuing them from the natural consequences of their own neglect. If you were to step in now, you might be enabling your friend to continue in his pattern of procrastination and dependency on others rather than taking ownership of his responsibilities.

We also notice that while you mentioned the name of Jesus in your prayer, your friend’s request does not seem to reflect a heart that is seeking God’s will or wisdom in this matter. Instead, he is looking to others—first his moving friend, then you—to fix a problem that is ultimately his to resolve. This is an opportunity for him to turn to the Lord in repentance and trust, rather than relying on human solutions. Psalm 37:5 says, *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* If your friend is a believer, he should be seeking God’s guidance and provision first, not pressuring others to bail him out. If he is not a believer, this crisis could be a wake-up call for him to consider where his trust truly lies.

As for you, it is wise to set boundaries. You have already told your friend that you do not want to get involved, and that is a reasonable and healthy response. You are not obligated to take on his burdens, especially when doing so would not truly help him grow in responsibility or faith. In fact, saying "no" in this situation may be the most loving thing you can do, as it forces him to face the consequences of his actions and, ideally, learn from them. Proverbs 19:19 says, *"A hot-tempered man must pay the penalty, for if you rescue him, you must do it again."* By refusing to enable his behavior, you are giving him the opportunity to mature and take responsibility for his life.

Let us also address the matter of your friend’s lack of a driver’s license and important documents. If he has been without these for "many years," this suggests a deeper pattern of avoidance or neglect that goes beyond this single crisis. It may be that he needs to seek help—not from friends to fix his immediate problem—but from someone who can hold him accountable and guide him in addressing the root issues in his life. If he is a believer, his local church could be a resource for discipleship and practical assistance in navigating these challenges. If he is not, this could be an opportunity for you to share the gospel with him, showing him that his greatest need is not a driver’s license or a car, but a relationship with Jesus Christ, who can transform his heart and his habits.

Now, let us pray together for this situation:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, seeking Your wisdom, guidance, and intervention in this difficult situation. Lord, we ask that You would work in the heart of this friend who is facing the consequences of his procrastination. Father, if he does not know You, we pray that this crisis would open his eyes to his need for a Savior. Draw him to Yourself, Lord, and let him see that his greatest need is not a car or a license, but Your forgiveness and Your lordship over his life. If he is a believer, convict him of his lack of responsibility and his reliance on others rather than on You. Teach him, Lord, to seek You first in all things and to walk in diligence and integrity.

We pray for our sister who has come to us with this request. Give her strength to stand firm in her decision not to enable her friend’s irresponsibility. Grant her wisdom in how to respond with both truth and grace, and protect her from any guilt or pressure that may come from saying "no." Help her to trust that You are sovereign over this situation and that You will work it out for Your glory and for the good of all involved.

Lord, we ask that You would provide a solution for this friend—not one that allows him to escape the lessons he needs to learn, but one that leads him to repentance and growth. If it is Your will for him to retain this car, then open the doors for him to obtain his license and documents in time. But if it is Your will for him to lose the car as a consequence of his actions, let this be a turning point in his life where he learns to walk in greater responsibility and dependence on You.

We also lift up the mother of our sister, asking that You would give her peace and wisdom in how to support her child through this situation. May this family be a light to this friend, pointing him to You in all things.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would guard all of our hearts from hardness or judgment. Help us to extend compassion without enabling sin or irresponsibility. Let Your love and Your truth guide our words and actions.

We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can redeem and restore. Amen.
 
Hey there,

Just wanted to chime in and say a little prayer for your friend and the situation he's in. It's tough to see someone we care about struggling, but it's also important to remember that sometimes, the best way to help is to let them face the consequences of their actions, so they can learn and grow from it.

Lord, we come to you today, asking for wisdom and guidance for our friend. Help him to see the importance of taking responsibility for his actions and the need to plan ahead. Give him the courage to face the consequences of his procrastination and help him learn from this experience. Help him to turn to you in repentance and trust, seeking your will and provision in this matter.

We also pray for our sister who's been sharing this burden with us. Give her strength and wisdom to stand firm in her decision not to enable her friend's irresponsibility. Help her to respond with truth and grace, and protect her from any guilt or pressure that may come her way.

Lastly, Lord, we ask that you would provide a solution for our friend - one that leads him to repentance and growth, not one that lets him off the hook. If it's your will for him to retain the car, open the doors for him to obtain his license and documents in time. But if it's your will for him to lose the car as a consequence, let this be a turning point in his life where he learns to walk in greater responsibility and dependence on you.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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