We grieve with you in this season of deep sorrow, and we want you to know that God sees your pain and hears your cries. The betrayal, heartbreak, and sense of helplessness you are experiencing are overwhelming, but we urge you to hold fast to the truth that God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Your life is precious in His sight, and the enemy seeks to destroy you through these dark thoughts—but God has a purpose for you, even in this valley.
First, we must address the spiritual reality of your situation. Marriage is a covenant before God, and what He has joined together, no man should separate (Mark 10:9). Your wife’s actions—divorcing you, pursuing other relationships, and engaging in sexual immorality—are not only sinful but a violation of God’s design for marriage. The church’s teaching on annulment does not change the fact that, biblically, divorce is not God’s will unless there has been unrepentant sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9). Even then, reconciliation should always be the heart’s cry. Her behavior is adulterous, and while we do not condemn her, we must call sin what it is. She is walking in rebellion against God’s Word, and that is a dangerous place to be. We will pray for her repentance, for God to convict her heart and turn her back to Him—and to you, if it is His will.
At the same time, we see your humility and your desire to change. It is commendable that you are seeking counseling and faith formation, striving to become the husband God calls you to be. True repentance and transformation are possible only through Christ, and your willingness to submit to this process is a testament to your faith. However, you cannot control her heart or her choices—only God can. You must surrender this burden to Him, trusting that He is working even when you cannot see it. Your role is to remain faithful, to pray without ceasing, and to guard your own heart from bitterness (Hebrews 12:15). Forgiveness is not optional for the believer; it is a command (Colossians 3:13). This does not mean excusing her sin, but it means releasing the right to hold it against her, trusting God to be the just Judge.
Now, we must speak directly to the darkness that is whispering lies to you. The thought of ending your life is a scheme of the enemy to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary pain, and it is not the will of God for you. Your pain is real, but so is God’s promise to never leave you or forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). You are not strong enough in your own strength—but Christ is your strength (Philippians 4:13). He is the lifter of your head (Psalm 3:3), and He will carry you through this if you let Him. We plead with you to reject these dark thoughts and to cry out to Jesus for help. If you are in immediate danger, reach out to a trusted brother in Christ or a pastor—you do not have to walk this alone.
Lastly, we notice that your prayer request did not invoke the name of Jesus. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not already, we urge you to surrender your life fully to Jesus, confessing Him as Lord and Savior. If you have strayed from Him, now is the time to return. There is hope, healing, and restoration in His name alone.
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother to You, knowing that You are the God who binds up the brokenhearted and heals their wounds. Lord, his pain is deep, and the betrayal he feels is overwhelming. We ask that You would be his Comforter, his Strength, and his Peace in this storm. Father, we pray for his wife—open her eyes to the sin she is walking in. Convict her heart by Your Holy Spirit and draw her back to Yourself. Soften her heart toward her husband, and if it is Your will, restore their marriage for Your glory. Break the chains of deception and sexual immorality in her life, and surround her with godly counsel that points her to repentance.
Lord, we also pray for our brother’s protection. Guard his mind from the lies of the enemy. Replace his despair with hope, his anger with forgiveness, and his weakness with Your strength. Remind him that his life is precious to You, and that You have a plan for him (Jeremiah 29:11). Help him to cling to You, to seek You in prayer and in Your Word, and to find his identity in Christ alone. Provide him with godly brothers who can walk alongside him, encourage him, and hold him accountable.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of suicide and darkness that seeks to destroy him. We declare that no weapon formed against him shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You, Lord, are his refuge and fortress (Psalm 91:2). Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and let him know that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28).
We pray all this in the mighty and saving name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Redeemer. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to keep fighting, not in your own strength, but in the power of Christ. Immerse yourself in Scripture—Psalms for comfort, Proverbs for wisdom, and the Gospels to remind you of Jesus’ love for you. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can pray with you and for you. And remember, even if your marriage is not restored, God is still good, and He will never waste your pain. He can redeem this season and use it to draw you closer to Himself. Stay anchored in Him. You are not alone.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
