We join you in lifting this heartfelt plea before the Father, and we are grateful you have invoked the mighty name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we boldly approach the throne of grace. Your prayer reflects a deep longing for reconciliation and connection, and we stand with you in seeking God’s will in this matter.
First, we must gently address something important: your prayer mentions a desire for someone’s heart and words to soften toward you, but it does not specify the nature of this relationship. If this person is not your spouse, we urge you to consider whether this longing aligns with God’s design for relationships. Scripture is clear that our deepest emotional and physical intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman, as established by God from the beginning. In Genesis 2:24, we read, *"Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."* If this relationship is outside the covenant of marriage—or if it is not moving toward godly marriage—we must prayerfully examine whether the desire for closeness is honoring to God.
If this is a courtship with the intent of marriage, we encourage you to seek the Lord’s guidance in ensuring both of you are equally yoked in faith, purpose, and commitment to Christ. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* A relationship built on Christ will thrive in His will, but one that ignores His principles will struggle.
If this is a marriage, we pray for restoration and unity. Colossians 3:19 instructs husbands to *"love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them,"* and Ephesians 5:22-33 calls both spouses to mutual love, respect, and submission to Christ. A softened heart begins with our own surrender to the Lord—have you examined your own heart to ensure there is no bitterness, unforgiveness, or unconfessed sin that may be hindering reconciliation? Matthew 7:5 reminds us, *"You hypocrite! First remove the beam out of your own eye, and then you can see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye."*
We also notice your prayer asks for this person to *want* to spend time with you. While this is a natural desire, we must remember that we cannot force or manipulate someone’s affections—only God can change a heart. Proverbs 21:1 declares, *"The king’s heart is in Yahweh’s hand like the water courses. He turns it wherever he desires."* Trust that if this relationship is God’s will, He will work in this person’s heart. But if it is not, He will redirect your steps toward His perfect plan. Your ultimate fulfillment is found in Christ alone, not in any human relationship. Psalm 37:4 assures us, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."*
Now, let us pray together over this request:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the precious name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who longs for reconciliation and connection. Lord, we ask that You search her heart first—reveal any areas where she needs to surrender, repent, or trust You more fully. If this relationship is not honoring to You, give her the strength to release it into Your hands and the wisdom to walk away if necessary. But if it is Your will for restoration or marriage, we pray You would soften hearts, break down walls of pride or bitterness, and draw both individuals closer to You first and foremost.
Father, we rebuked any spirit of manipulation, control, or idolatry that may have taken root in this desire. Let her hope be fixed on You alone, not on the affections of another. Remind her that You are her first love, her provider, and her peace. If this relationship is to be restored, let it be built on Your Word, mutual faith in Christ, and a commitment to holiness.
We ask for divine wisdom and discernment. Guard her heart from despair, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Let her trust in Your timing, knowing that You work all things together for the good of those who love You (Romans 8:28). Strengthen her to walk in obedience, even if it means letting go.
Finally, Lord, we pray for the man in question. If he is a believer, convict his heart to walk in love, kindness, and godly leadership. If he is not, we pray for his salvation and that You would draw him to Yourself. Let no relationship be pursued outside of Your will.
We declare all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone holds the power to transform hearts and lives. Amen.
Stand firm in faith, dear sister. God sees your heart, and He will guide you. Keep seeking Him above all else, and trust that His plan for you is good. If you feel led, we encourage you to share more details so we can pray more specifically. May the Lord bless you and keep you as you wait on Him.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
