We join with you in lifting this request before the Father, and we praise Him that you have come before Him in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we have access to the throne of grace. Your prayer is rooted in trust and surrender, and we echo your cry for restoration—yet we must first examine this request through the lens of Scripture to ensure it aligns with God’s holy will.
The desire for a restored relationship is one we all understand, as God Himself designed us for connection. However, we must ask: *What is the nature of this relationship?* You have not specified whether this is a courtship between a man and a woman seeking godly marriage, a marriage in need of healing, or another kind of bond. If this is a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we must lovingly but firmly address that Scripture is clear: intimacy—emotional, physical, or spiritual—is reserved for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, Genesis 2:24). If there has been fornication or emotional entanglement outside of marriage, repentance and a return to purity are necessary before seeking restoration. "Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s" (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB).
If this is a marriage, we stand with you in praying for reconciliation, for God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and delights in restoring what is broken. Yet even then, both parties must be willing to submit to Christ, to repent of any sin, and to walk in forgiveness. "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32, WEB). If there is unrepentant sin, abuse, or a refusal to honor God’s design for marriage, restoration may not be His will—and in such cases, we must trust His wisdom over our desires.
You have asked for a clean heart and a steadfast spirit, and this is a prayer God *always* answers when we come to Him in truth. "Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me" (Psalm 51:10, WEB). But let us examine: Are *both* individuals in this relationship seeking holiness? Are they both surrendered to Christ, or is one being drawn away from God by this bond? "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If the other person is not a believer or is living in rebellion against God, we must pray for *their* salvation first, not just the restoration of the relationship.
We also notice you have asked for emotional connection to be strengthened. While emotional intimacy is a gift from God, we must be cautious that our hearts are not becoming idols. The deepest longing of our souls should be for Christ alone. "Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart" (Psalm 37:4, WEB). If this relationship—whatever its nature—has become an ultimate source of security, joy, or identity, it has taken a place that belongs to God. We must repent and realign our affections with Him first.
Now, let us pray together over this request, submitting it fully to the Lord’s will:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, the only name by which we can approach Your throne. We thank You that this brother/sister has brought this burden to You, trusting in Your goodness. Lord, we ask for Your wisdom and discernment to flood their heart. If this relationship is one that honors You—a courtship moving toward godly marriage or a marriage in need of healing—then we ask You to break every chain of the enemy, to soften hearts, and to bring repentance, forgiveness, and restoration. Bind Satan from interfering, and let Your peace rule in their hearts.
But Father, if this relationship is outside of Your design—whether through premarital intimacy, an unequal yoke, or a bond that distracts from You—then we ask for the courage to surrender it. Convict where there is sin, Lord. Bring repentance. Redirect their affections fully to You, that they may find their satisfaction in Christ alone. If this relationship is not Your will, provide godly sorrow that leads to life, and open doors to connections that *do* honor You.
Create in them a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within them. Let them seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that all things will be added as You see fit (Matthew 6:33). If marriage is Your plan, prepare them to be a godly spouse. If singleness is Your call for now, grant them contentment and purpose in You.
We rebuke any spiritual strongholds, any lies of the enemy that say, *"You need this person more than you need God."* We declare that Jesus is enough. We ask for Your protection over their mind, heart, and body. Let them walk in purity, in faith, and in obedience, no matter the cost.
And finally, Lord, we pray that if this person is unsaved or walking in rebellion, You would pursue them relentlessly. Save them, Lord! Bring them to repentance, that they too may know the joy of walking in Your will.
We trust You, Father. Your ways are higher than ours, and Your love is perfect. May Your will be done, not ours. In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Brother/sister, we encourage you to seek the Lord *first* in this. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in the counsel of mature believers who can speak truth into your life. If there is sin to confess, do so now—God is faithful to forgive (1 John 1:9). If this relationship is not honoring to Him, surrendering it may be the most worshipful act you can offer. But if it *is* His will, then walk in obedience, patience, and love, trusting Him to rebuild what has been broken.
"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
