Chrysostom
Beloved of All
You ask for your husband’s healing of body, soul, and spirit, and for the salvation of your household. You plead for a favorable hearing and relief from financial strain. Yet I must first speak to the foundation: this trial, if endured with thanksgiving, becomes the very furnace in which salvation is forged. The Apostle teaches that affliction works patience, and patience proven character, and character hope that does not put to shame. When you see the multitude of his sufferings, do not only cry for their removal. See also that if you and he partake in the sufferings of Christ, you will also partake in His comfort, for the sufferings of Christ abound in us so that our hope for you might be steadfast. The desperate words he speaks daily, the wish to be dead, the rage, these are not mere ailments of the body but the echoing of a spirit assailed. Yet God permits such warfare not to destroy but to drive the soul to cling to Him alone.
Your marriage bond is for life. The Lord said clearly that a wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. This is the yoke God placed upon you. In His wisdom, He has made the husband the head of the wife, and she is to be subject as the Church is subject to Christ. This submission is not mere silence but a trust in God’s ordering even when the vessel of that authority is broken. Do not seek escape from your duties by some imagined piety that neglects the sickbed. There is a grievous snare when one abandons the marriage obligation under pretense of devotion, leaving the spouse to greater falls. Attend to his body with the same care you give your own soul. See that he takes his medicine as prescribed; a remedy rejected is an invitation to despair. The implant and the physician’s art are gifts from the same God who formed our bodies, and we must not disdain them.
For the salvation of your entire house, know that the death of Jesus was the salvation of the world. Even His enemies proclaimed this beforehand. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved. Pray, therefore, with boldness, but also with a trembling heart, lest your prayers become an unlawful demand against those you perceive as adversaries. Do not pray against any person involved in your legal case, but commit the whole verdict to the just Judge. The Holy Spirit intervenes when we ask according to God’s will, not merely for the quieting of our temporal troubles. For what does it profit a man to gain a favorable judgment and lose his own soul? When the Israelites were granted their request but sent leanness into their souls, it was a terrible mercy.
Therefore, let this affliction work patiently. Comfort one another with these words: that whether we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; or whether we are comforted, it is for your consolation. The God of mercies delivers us not only by His own will but through the prayers of the faithful. Unite your entreaties with almsgiving and the confession of sins. As for your elderly father and younger brother, their health likewise rests in the hands of the Physician who heals both soul and body. Cease striving to command the outcome, and instead say with the woman of old, “Sir, I perceive that You are a prophet”, acknowledging that He sees into the depths of your need and will provide the true healing, which is forgiveness. Let your first and last petition be for the fulness of His mercy, that you all may stand among the called, not because you are worthy, but because His grace abounds even to the broken and the wrathful who turn to Him.
Your marriage bond is for life. The Lord said clearly that a wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. This is the yoke God placed upon you. In His wisdom, He has made the husband the head of the wife, and she is to be subject as the Church is subject to Christ. This submission is not mere silence but a trust in God’s ordering even when the vessel of that authority is broken. Do not seek escape from your duties by some imagined piety that neglects the sickbed. There is a grievous snare when one abandons the marriage obligation under pretense of devotion, leaving the spouse to greater falls. Attend to his body with the same care you give your own soul. See that he takes his medicine as prescribed; a remedy rejected is an invitation to despair. The implant and the physician’s art are gifts from the same God who formed our bodies, and we must not disdain them.
For the salvation of your entire house, know that the death of Jesus was the salvation of the world. Even His enemies proclaimed this beforehand. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved. Pray, therefore, with boldness, but also with a trembling heart, lest your prayers become an unlawful demand against those you perceive as adversaries. Do not pray against any person involved in your legal case, but commit the whole verdict to the just Judge. The Holy Spirit intervenes when we ask according to God’s will, not merely for the quieting of our temporal troubles. For what does it profit a man to gain a favorable judgment and lose his own soul? When the Israelites were granted their request but sent leanness into their souls, it was a terrible mercy.
Therefore, let this affliction work patiently. Comfort one another with these words: that whether we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; or whether we are comforted, it is for your consolation. The God of mercies delivers us not only by His own will but through the prayers of the faithful. Unite your entreaties with almsgiving and the confession of sins. As for your elderly father and younger brother, their health likewise rests in the hands of the Physician who heals both soul and body. Cease striving to command the outcome, and instead say with the woman of old, “Sir, I perceive that You are a prophet”, acknowledging that He sees into the depths of your need and will provide the true healing, which is forgiveness. Let your first and last petition be for the fulness of His mercy, that you all may stand among the called, not because you are worthy, but because His grace abounds even to the broken and the wrathful who turn to Him.
