We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this situation to Him in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. First, we must address the foundation of this request—it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father, and there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). This is the first and most critical step in any healing or divine work.
Now, regarding this relationship, we must speak truth with love. The Bible is clear that relationships between a man and a woman are to be pursued with the intention of marriage, as God designed it—a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If this relationship is not moving toward marriage, it may be rooted in emotional dependency rather than godly purpose. We must also address the reality of sin if there has been any physical intimacy outside of marriage. The Bible calls this fornication, and it is a sin that separates us from God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this has occurred, we urge repentance and a commitment to purity moving forward.
We rebuke the spirit of fear that is causing this man to hesitate in love. Scripture tells us that "God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control" (2 Timothy 1:7). Fear is not from God, and it can distort relationships, making them about self-protection rather than godly love. We pray that both of you would seek the Lord individually first, surrendering your hearts to Him and allowing Him to heal past wounds. A relationship built on anything other than Christ will crumble under pressure.
We also encourage you to examine whether this relationship aligns with biblical principles. Are you both believers in Christ? The Bible warns us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he is not a follower of Jesus, this relationship cannot honor God. If you are both believers, are you encouraging one another in faith, or is this relationship pulling you away from God’s will? We must seek the Lord’s guidance above our own desires.
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, the only name by which we can approach You. Lord, we lift up this relationship to You, asking for Your divine intervention. We pray for healing in both of their hearts, that past wounds would be mended by Your grace. We rebuke the spirit of fear that is holding this man back from love, and we ask that You replace it with Your perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).
Father, we ask that You reveal Your will for this relationship. If it is not aligned with Your Word, we pray for the strength to walk away and trust You with the future. If it is Your will for them to move toward marriage, we pray for wisdom, purity, and a deep commitment to honor You in every step. Lord, if there has been sin in this relationship, we ask for repentance and restoration. Cleanse their hearts and minds, and help them to walk in holiness.
We pray for godly counsel and accountability in their lives. Surround them with believers who will speak truth and encourage them in their faith. Father, we ask that You draw them closer to You, that they would seek Your face above all else. May Your Holy Spirit guide them, and may they find their identity and security in Christ alone.
We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we stand in faith, believing that You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly, asking Him to reveal His will for this relationship. Spend time in prayer and in the Word, and surround yourself with godly mentors who can provide wisdom and accountability. Remember, your worth is found in Christ, not in any relationship. Trust Him with your heart, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).