Healing and forgiveness.

Friathur

Disciple of Prayer
Hello brothers and sisters! Can you please pray for me? I have requested prayer on this many times but my prayers still remain unanswered. I don't know what I should be praying for, but just that God will be in control of the situation and for His will to be done. I was a really good friend to someone. I treated him like a brother. I would have done anything for him. I gave him food, I let him wear my clothes and gave him so much brotherly love and support only for him to turn against me and he refuses to resolve things with me or even talk about it with me. Our friendship is over and there's nothing I can do about it. I just have to accept it. He even threatened me with a knife when he was drunk. He's not in his right mind at the moment. What am I asking for? I'm not really sure. I don't know if I should ask that God reconciles us, or if I just pray for healing and closure. I don't know if it's part of God's higher purpose or plan that we're in each other's lives or not. I still love him despite what he did. I ask God for healing, because I'm still very hurt and angry at what he did to me. And I pray that God will help me to forgive him. Because in honesty, I don't forgive him. But I know that's not God's plan for me. God would like me to forgive him. And forgiving him will set me free also. And I need God's help to forgive him. I also pray that the Holy Spirit will convict his heart and speak to him so he will realise how wrong he was and that God would soften his heart and give him accountability. I just need God to be in control of the situation. I ask for all of this in Jesus name. Amen.
 
We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we stand with you in this season of hurt, anger, and confusion, lifting you before the Lord with fervent prayer. Your desire to surrender this situation to God’s will is commendable, and we are encouraged that you recognize the need for forgiveness—not just for the sake of your former friend, but for your own freedom in Christ. The betrayal you’ve experienced is grievous, especially from someone you loved as a brother. The threat of violence only deepens the wound, and it is right to acknowledge the anger and hurt you feel. Yet, as children of God, we are called to a higher path, one that reflects the heart of our Savior, who forgave even those who crucified Him.

The Scripture reminds us in **Colossians 3:13**, *"bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."* Forgiveness is not a feeling—it is an act of obedience and trust in God’s justice and mercy. It does not excuse the wrong done to you, nor does it require reconciliation if the other person remains unrepentant or dangerous. But it releases the bitterness that can take root in your heart and hinder your walk with the Lord. **Hebrews 12:15** warns us, *"looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* Your honesty about struggling to forgive is a sign of your desire to align with God’s will, and that is a place where the Holy Spirit can work mightily in you.

As for your former friend, we pray that the Lord would indeed convict his heart. **2 Timothy 2:25-26** tells us that God may grant repentance, *"in gentleness correcting those who oppose him: perhaps God may give them repentance leading to a full knowledge of the truth, and they may recover themselves out of the devil’s snare, having been taken captive by him to his will."* His actions, especially under the influence of alcohol, reveal a heart in bondage. While you cannot control his choices, you can trust that God is sovereign over his life. Your role now is to release him into God’s hands, praying for his salvation and transformation while guarding your own heart from further harm.

It is also wise to consider whether this relationship should be restored. Proverbs warns us about the danger of associating with those who are given to anger and violence. **Proverbs 22:24-25** says, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* While we pray for reconciliation if it is God’s will, we also pray for discernment. If this man remains unrepentant and continues in destructive behavior, it may be that God is protecting you by removing him from your life. Closure may come not through restored friendship, but through the peace of knowing you have done all you could, and the rest is in God’s hands.

Let us pray together for you now:

Heavenly Father, we lift our brother before You, asking for Your healing touch upon his wounded heart. Lord, the betrayal and violence he has endured have left deep scars, and we ask that You would bind up his brokenness with Your love and truth. Father, he desires to forgive, but the pain is still raw. We ask that You would pour out Your grace upon him, enabling him to release this hurt into Your hands. Remind him, Lord, that forgiveness is not about the other person’s worthiness, but about his own obedience and freedom in You. Break the chains of bitterness and anger, and fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.

We also lift up his former friend to You, Lord. You see the depths of his heart—the anger, the bondage, the brokenness. Father, we ask that You would convict him of his sin and draw him to repentance. Softening his heart, Lord, and bring him to a place of true sorrow for the harm he has caused. If it is Your will, restore what has been broken, but only in a way that honors You and protects Your child. Give our brother wisdom to know how to move forward, whether in reconciliation or in closure, and grant him the strength to walk in obedience to Your Word.

Lord, we thank You that You are sovereign over every detail of this situation. Nothing has taken You by surprise, and You are working all things together for good for those who love You. We ask that You would make Your will clear to our brother, and that he would find his comfort and identity in You alone. Surround him with godly community that can support and encourage him in this season. And Father, we pray that through this trial, Your name would be glorified, and that our brother would emerge with a deeper trust in You.

We ask all of this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.

Brother, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in this. Spend time in His Word, particularly meditating on passages about forgiveness, trust, and God’s sovereignty. **Romans 8:28** reminds us, *"We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose."* Even in this pain, God is at work. Lean on Him, and allow this season to draw you closer to His heart. If this former friend reaches out in genuine repentance, you will know how to respond in wisdom and grace. But if he does not, trust that God’s plan for your life does not depend on this relationship being restored. Your obedience is to forgive, to trust, and to walk forward in the freedom Christ has purchased for you.

Stay steadfast in prayer, and do not lose heart. We are standing with you, believing that God will bring beauty from these ashes.
 
I'm really sorry to hear about what you're going through. It's never easy when someone we care about hurts us, especially when they were once so close to us. I want you to know that you're not alone in this. We're here for you, praying with you and for you.

I understand that you're feeling hurt, angry, and confused. It's okay to feel that way. Jesus felt all those emotions too when He was on the cross. But He chose to forgive, and that's what sets us free. We can't change what happened, but we can choose how we respond.

I want to encourage you to keep praying for healing and forgiveness. It's not about the other person deserving it, but about you finding freedom in Christ. Remember, forgiveness doesn't mean what happened was okay. It means letting go of the bitterness and trusting that God is just and will make all things right in His time.

We also need to pray for your friend. Only God knows his heart and can change it. Let's ask God to soften his heart, to help him see the wrong he's done, and to bring him to repentance. And let's ask God to give you wisdom on how to move forward, whether that's in reconciliation or in closure.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Lord, we come to You today with heavy hearts. We lift up our brother/sister to You, Lord. We ask for Your healing touch on their wounds. Help them to forgive as You forgave us, not because the other person deserves it, but because it's the path to freedom. Help them to trust in Your justice and Your love.

We also lift up their friend to You, Lord. We ask that You would convict their heart, that You would help them to see the wrong they've done and bring them to repentance. Help them to make things right, Lord, and to change their ways.

Lord, we trust that You are in control. We trust that You are working all things together for good, even this. Help us to find our comfort and our identity in You, Lord. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

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