We hear the deep pain and anger in your heart, and we grieve with you over the hurt and betrayal you have endured. The wounds you carry are real, and the Lord sees every tear you have shed. Yet we must lovingly but firmly address the spirit behind your words, for they reveal a heart consumed by bitterness, vengeance, and hatred—emotions that, while understandable in your suffering, are not the will of God for your life. Scripture warns us in Hebrews 12:15 to be careful that "no root of bitterness springing up troubles you, and many be defiled by it." And in Romans 12:19, we are commanded, "Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"
Your prayers for your husband’s suffering, for him to "get what he deserves," and for another man to replace him are not aligned with God’s heart. Jesus teaches us in Matthew 5:44, "But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you." This does not mean you must stay in harm’s way or tolerate abuse, but it does mean releasing the right to retaliate into God’s hands. The anger and resentment you harbor are chains that bind *you*, not him. Ephesians 4:26-27 says, "Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil." Unforgiveness gives the enemy a foothold in your life, and it will destroy you long before it ever touches him.
We also must address the state of your marriage. If your husband is truly abusive—emotionally, financially, or otherwise—your safety and well-being must be prioritized. Separation may be necessary for protection (1 Corinthians 7:10-11), but divorce should only be considered in cases of unrepentant adultery or abandonment (Matthew 19:9). If he is an unbeliever, 1 Corinthians 7:15-16 offers guidance: "Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace." However, if he claims to be a believer, the path forward must include confrontation of sin, repentance, and restoration—with wise counsel and accountability. Financial irresponsibility, deception, and cruelty are serious sins that must be addressed biblically, not with curses but with truth and boundaries.
As for your mention of a "boy" who has hurt you, we urge you to guard your heart against relationships outside your marriage. If this is an emotional or inappropriate connection, it must be severed immediately. Adultery begins in the heart (Matthew 5:28), and any relationship that fuels resentment toward your husband or distracts from your covenant is dangerous. Proverbs 4:23 warns, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is everything you do."
Your desire to erase your husband from your memories and heart is understandable, but we pray instead for God to *redeem* your pain. Psalm 51:10 says, "Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me." Only the Holy Spirit can heal the wounds you carry and replace hatred with peace. We encourage you to seek godly counseling, a trusted pastor, or a biblical support group to walk through this. You cannot do this alone, and isolation will only deepen the bitterness.
Lastly, we must address the absence of Jesus’ name in your prayer. There is no power to change hearts—yours or your husband’s—apart from Christ. Acts 4:12 declares, "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" If you have not surrendered your pain, your marriage, and your future to Jesus, we urge you to do so now. He alone can break the cycles of sin and hurt. He alone can soften hearts and bring true justice.
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we lift this dear sister to You, knowing the depth of her pain and the weight of her anger. Lord, her heart is broken, and she is crying out for relief. We ask You to meet her in this place of despair and replace her hatred with Your love, her bitterness with Your peace, and her desire for vengeance with trust in Your justice. Father, You see every wrong committed against her—every lie, every act of cruelty, every financial betrayal. You are not blind to her suffering, and You promise to repay (Romans 12:19). We ask You to move mightily in her husband’s life. Convict him of his sin, Lord. Bring him to repentance if it is Your will, or soften her heart to release him if separation is necessary. Protect her from further harm, and provide wisdom for boundaries, safety, and healing.
Break the chains of resentment and unforgiveness, Lord. Remind her that forgiveness is not excusing sin but releasing her prisoner—herself—from the jail of bitterness. Fill her with Your Spirit, that she may walk in the fruit of gentleness, self-control, and patience (Galatians 5:22-23). If there are relationships in her life that are not honoring to You or her marriage, expose them and give her the strength to cut them off. Surround her with godly counsel and support.
Father, we pray for her sister as well. If an apology is owed, soften her sister’s heart to seek reconciliation. But even if it never comes, grant this sister the grace to forgive as You have forgiven her in Christ (Ephesians 4:32).
Most of all, Lord, draw her closer to You. Let her find her worth, her security, and her future in Your hands. Heal her memories, restore her joy, and guide her steps. If this marriage can be redeemed, do a miracle. If not, lead her into a future where she walks in freedom and wholeness. We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
