We hear the deep ache in your heart for your mother, and we join you in lifting her before the Lord, for He alone is the source of true joy, peace, and restoration. Your love for her is a beautiful reflection of Christ’s love, and we commend you for seeking God’s intervention in her life. The sorrow and weariness your mother carries are not His design for her—He desires to give her "beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness" (Isaiah 61:3, WEB). Yet we must also address the spiritual and relational brokenness at the root of her pain, for God’s Word holds the truth that sets us free.
First, we gently but firmly rebuke the enemy’s lies that have taken hold in your mother’s heart—the lie that God does not see her, that her prayers are in vain, or that her life has no purpose. These are deceptions meant to steal her hope, and they contradict the very character of our Heavenly Father. Jesus said, *"Ask, and it will be given you. Seek, and you will find. Knock, and it will be opened for you. For everyone who asks receives. He who seeks finds. To him who knocks it will be opened"* (Matthew 7:7-8, WEB). If she has not seen answers, it is not because God is withholding His goodness, but because His timing and ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). He may be refining her faith, calling her to trust Him more deeply, or preparing a breakthrough that is yet to come. We must remind her—and you—that *"the Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Her suffering is not unseen.
Yet we must also speak truth into the sin that has contributed to her pain. Your father’s behavior—his rudeness, selfishness, and refusal to love your mother as Christ loves the Church—is a grievous violation of God’s design for marriage. The Bible commands husbands to *"love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). A man who neglects or mistreats his wife is in rebellion against God, and this sin has consequences not just for him but for your entire family. We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict your father’s heart, that he would repent and turn to Christ, and that he would begin to fulfill his God-given role as a protector, provider, and cherisher of your mother. If he is a believer, we plead with him in the name of Jesus to *"submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you"* (James 4:7, WEB). If he is not, we pray that he would encounter the saving grace of Jesus Christ, for only a heart transformed by God can truly love as it ought.
To your mother, we say this: Your life is not in vain. Every sacrifice, every tear, every prayer has been seen by God, and He will reward you (Hebrews 6:10). But we must also urge you, dear sister, to examine whether her fasting and prayers are aligned with God’s Word. Fasting without faith in Christ’s finished work is empty ritual. Prayer without surrender to His will is mere words. True joy and peace come not from circumstances but from abiding in Jesus (John 15:11). If your mother has not yet surrendered her life fully to Christ—or if she has but has lost sight of His promises—we plead with her to cry out to Him anew. *"Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). Her hope must be in Him alone, not in her husband’s change, not in her own strength, but in the One who died to give her abundant life (John 10:10).
We also address the dangerous words she has spoken—about refusing treatment if she falls ill. This is not the voice of faith but of despair, and it is a lie from the pit of hell. God forbids us from entertaining thoughts of giving up, for our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and our lives are His to number (Psalm 139:16). We rebuke this spirit of hopelessness in Jesus’ name and declare that God has a purpose for her life, even in suffering. *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11, WEB).
Now, let us pray together for your mother, your father, and you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this precious mother who has borne so much in silence. Lord, You see her tears, You hear her cries, and You know the depth of her weariness. We ask You to break through the darkness that has surrounded her for so long. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may know the joy of Your presence, the peace that surpasses understanding, and the hope that does not disappoint (Romans 5:5). Renew her strength, O God, that she may mount up with wings like eagles, that she may run and not be weary, that she may walk and not faint (Isaiah 40:31).
Lord, we bind the spirit of despair that has whispered lies to her heart. We declare that her life is precious to You, that her sacrifices are not in vain, and that You are preparing a table for her in the presence of her enemies (Psalm 23:5). Restore to her the years the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25), and let her laughter return like the sound of many waters.
Father, we also lift up her husband. If he is not saved, convict him deeply of his sin and draw him to repentance. If he is a believer, shake him from his complacency and rebellion. Soften his heart, Lord, that he may see the damage his actions have caused. Turn his heart toward his wife, that he may love her as Christ loves the Church—sacrificially, patiently, and faithfully. Break the chains of selfishness and pride in his life, and let him become the husband You have called him to be.
Lord, we pray for this child who loves their mother so deeply. Comfort them, strengthen them, and give them wisdom to speak Your truth in love. Let them be a light in their home, pointing both their parents to You. Guard their heart from bitterness or resentment, and fill them with Your peace as they trust You to work in their family.
Finally, Father, we ask for a miracle. Where there has been brokenness, bring healing. Where there has been sorrow, bring joy. Where there has been rebellion, bring repentance. Let this home be transformed by Your power, that it may become a place of refuge, love, and worship. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, who alone can restore what is broken. Amen.
To you, dear one, we say: Do not lose heart. Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep pointing your mother to Jesus. Play worship music in your home, share Scripture with her, and remind her of God’s promises. And if she is open, encourage her to seek godly counseling or a Bible-believing church where she can find support. The battle is not yours to fight alone—God is with you, and He will bring victory. *"The Lord your God is among you, a mighty one who will save. He will rejoice over you with joy. He will calm you in his love. He will rejoice over you with singing"* (Zephaniah 3:17, WEB). Hold fast to this truth.