We hear the deep longing in your heart for restoration—not just of your hair, but of the confidence, acceptance, and sense of worth that you feel has been tied to it. Your pain is real, and we grieve with you over the mockery, discrimination, and hypocrisy you’ve endured, especially as someone navigating the challenges of autism. It is never just about hair—it is about the way the world has treated you unfairly, the way you’ve been made to feel less than, and the longing to be seen and valued as you were created to be. We want you to know that your worth is not found in your appearance, your hair, or the approval of others. It is found in Christ alone, who fearfully and wonderfully made you (Psalm 139:14). You are *precious* to Him, and He sees every tear you’ve shed over this (Psalm 56:8).
That said, we also recognize that your request is not sinful—it is a cry for healing and restoration, and we join you in bringing this before the Lord. Hair, while not the source of your identity, is a part of how God designed you, and it is okay to ask Him for its renewal. After all, we see in Scripture that God cares about even the smallest details of our lives, including the hairs on our heads (Matthew 10:30). However, we must also surrender this desire to His will, trusting that His plans for you are good, even if they don’t align with our exact timeline or expectations. He may choose to restore your hair in the way you’ve asked, or He may work in your heart to bring a deeper healing—one that transcends physical appearance and roots you in the unshakable love of Christ.
We notice that you’ve mentioned wanting hair to help you "win a beautiful woman." Brother, we must gently but firmly address this. The desire for marriage is good and godly (Genesis 2:18), but we must pursue it in a way that honors the Lord. A woman of God is not "won" by outward appearances—she is drawn to a man who fears the Lord, walks in integrity, and loves sacrificially (Proverbs 31:30, 1 Peter 3:3-4). If you are seeking a spouse, we encourage you to focus first on becoming the kind of man who reflects Christ in character, faith, and love. Pursue godliness, not just physical attractiveness, for "charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised" (Proverbs 31:30). And remember, a godly marriage is built on mutual faith in Christ—so seek a *spouse*, not just a "beautiful woman," and trust God to provide in His timing.
We also want to speak to the pain of comparison and hypocrisy you’ve experienced. It is deeply unjust when others are celebrated for the very things you’ve been mocked for, and we acknowledge how that must sting. But listen to what Jesus says: *"Blessed are you when people reproach you, persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven"* (Matthew 5:11-12). Your suffering is not unseen by God. He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He will vindicate you in His time. Do not let bitterness take root—instead, release this pain to Him and ask Him to fill you with His peace.
As for the mention of finasteride and blood donation, we encourage you to seek wisdom and discernment in medical decisions, praying for guidance and consulting trusted believers or professionals. Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and stewardship of your health—physical and emotional—matters to God.
Now, let us pray over you together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother to You, knowing that You see his heart and the depths of his longing. Lord, You formed him in his mother’s womb, and every detail of his being is known and loved by You. We ask that You would touch his hair follicles, Lord—restore what can be restored, strengthen what is weak, and bring life where there has been loss. If it is Your will, grant him the opportunity to be part of the medical advancements he desires, but above all, grant him *peace* in surrendering this to You. Remove any idolatry of appearance or comparison, and root him deeply in the truth that his worth is found in Christ alone.
Father, we rebuke the spirits of mockery, rejection, and hypocrisy that have wounded him. Break the power of those words and lies over his life, and replace them with Your truth: that he is fearfully and wonderfully made, chosen, and beloved. Heal the pain of autism and the loneliness he feels. Surround him with brothers and sisters in Christ who will love him well and reflect Your acceptance.
For his desire for marriage, Lord, we ask that You would prepare him to be a godly husband—patient, kind, and full of Your love. Lead him to a woman who fears You, and let their union be built on Christ, not superficial things. Until then, satisfy him with Your presence and purpose.
We pray for his heart toward those who have hurt him. Soften any bitterness, and fill him with Your grace. Let him forgive as You have forgiven him. And for his desire to give blood again, Lord, provide a way if it is Your will, and let his body be strong and healthy for Your glory.
Most of all, Father, draw him closer to You. Let him find his joy in You above all else, knowing that even if his outward circumstances don’t change as he hopes, *You* are enough. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, comfort him with Your love, and let him walk in the confidence of being Your son.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray—*the name above all names*, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.
Brother, we leave you with this encouragement: *"Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God"* (1 Peter 3:3-4, NLT). Your value is eternal, not temporal. Keep seeking Jesus, and trust Him with every detail—even the hairs on your head. He is faithful.