We hear the deep ache in your heart, and we are lifting you up in prayer, knowing that our Heavenly Father sees your pain and longs to bring you peace, clarity, and healing. Your struggle is real, and we want to walk with you through this, speaking truth and praying for God’s perfect will in your life. First, we must address something foundational: your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. Scripture is clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through Jesus that our prayers are heard. *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me'* (John 14:6, WEB). *"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to rule over every area of your life. Only then can you experience the fullness of His peace and guidance.
Now, let us speak to the heart of your request. Your pain reveals how deeply you care, but it also exposes areas where your heart may be clinging to something—or someone—more than it is clinging to Christ. You mentioned that you "let him go for his own joy and for myself to heal," and that is a step in the right direction. However, your feelings for this man still linger, and the enemy is using that to tempt you toward uncertainty, fear, and even idolatry. The Bible warns us not to let our hearts be mastered by anything other than Christ. *"Don’t love the world or the things that are in the world. If anyone loves the world, the Father’s love isn’t in him. For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—isn’t the Father’s, but is the world’s"* (1 John 2:15-16, WEB). Your desire to reach out to him, despite the pain it may bring, suggests that your heart is still entangled. This is dangerous territory, beloved. If this man is not a believer, or if this relationship does not align with God’s design for marriage between a man and a woman in Christ, then pursuing him further would be outside of God’s will. Even if he is a believer, if he is not the man God has ordained for you as a husband, then clinging to him will only bring more heartache.
You asked why God brought this man into your life. While we cannot know God’s specific purposes in every circumstance, we do know that He uses all things—even painful ones—to conform us to the image of Christ. *"We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, for those who are called according to his purpose"* (Romans 8:28, WEB). This season may be teaching you about surrender, trust, and the sufficiency of Christ’s love. It may be exposing areas where you have placed your hope in man rather than in God. Or it may be preparing you for a godly marriage in the future by refining your heart now. Whatever the reason, we can trust that God is sovereign, and His plans for you are good, even when they are painful.
Your fear of humiliation and pain is understandable, but we must remind you that God has not given us a spirit of fear. *"For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7, WEB). If you reach out to this man again, you risk reopening wounds and stepping outside of God’s protection. Two months of healing is progress, but it can be undone in a moment of weakness. Instead, we encourage you to surrender this desire completely to the Lord. Ask Him to remove these feelings if they are not from Him. Ask Him to guard your heart and to redirect your affections toward Him alone. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). This does not mean God will give you this man, but it means He will align your desires with His will as you seek Him first.
We also notice your hesitation about returning to Facebook. If social media is a stumbling block for you—a place where you are tempted to revisit this relationship or compare yourself to others—then it may be wise to fast from it for a season. *"If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one of your members should perish than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna"* (Matthew 5:29, WEB). This is a principle of radical obedience: if something is hindering your walk with Christ, remove it. Your mental and emotional safety are important, but they are best protected when you are abiding in Christ, not when you are relying on your own strength to avoid pain.
Lastly, you said, *"Ultimately, the heart wants what the heart wants."* But as followers of Christ, we must remember that our hearts are deceitful and desperately wicked apart from Him. *"The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt. Who can know it?"* (Jeremiah 17:9, WEB). We cannot trust our hearts to lead us; we must trust the Word of God and the Holy Spirit to guide us. If your heart is pulling you toward this man, but the Word of God and the peace of Christ are not confirming it, then you must crucify that desire and surrender it to the Lord.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up your daughter to You, knowing that You see her pain and her longing. Lord, we ask that You would guard her heart and her mind in Christ Jesus. Remove from her any lingering feelings for this man that are not from You. If this relationship is not Your will, we pray that You would sever every emotional tie and bring complete healing and closure. Fill the void in her heart with more of Yourself, Lord. Let her find her satisfaction in You alone.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear that is tormenting her—the fear of humiliation, the fear of loss, the fear of the unknown. Replace it with Your perfect love, which casts out all fear. Give her the strength to walk away permanently if that is Your will, and the grace to trust You even when it hurts.
We pray for wisdom and discernment. If there is any open door in her life that is allowing the enemy to tempt her—whether through social media, memories, or ungodly soul ties—we ask that You would reveal it and give her the courage to shut it completely. Help her to delight herself in You, Lord, and to commit her ways to You, trusting that You will align her desires with Your perfect plan.
If this man is not the spouse You have for her, we pray that You would make that abundantly clear. Bring godly men into her life who will point her to You, and prepare her heart for a marriage that honors You, if that is Your will. But above all, let her find her identity and security in You, not in any man.
We also pray for her mental and emotional health. Heal the wounds from past rejection or confusion. Restore her mind and give her peace that surpasses all understanding. Let her not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let her present her requests to You (Philippians 4:6-7).
Finally, Lord, we pray that You would draw her closer to Yourself through this trial. Let her emerge from this season with a deeper dependence on You, a stronger faith, and a heart that is fully surrendered. May she testify of Your faithfulness and goodness, even in the waiting.
We ask all of this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Beloved, we urge you to immerse yourself in Scripture, especially passages that speak of God’s love, sovereignty, and faithfulness. Psalm 139, Romans 8, and 1 Peter 5:7 (*"casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you"*) are good places to start. Surround yourself with godly community—believers who will speak truth to you and pray with you. And if you have not already, we strongly encourage you to seek biblical counseling to walk through this season with wisdom and accountability.
You are not alone in this. God is with you, and He is for you. Trust Him, even when it feels impossible. He will never leave you nor forsake you. *"The Lord is my portion," says my soul, "therefore I will hope in him"* (Lamentations 3:24, WEB). Let that be your declaration today.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
