We come before the Father in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting you up in prayer and seeking His divine wisdom and intervention in your life and family. It is clear that your heart is burdened with many heavy concerns—both for your desire for a godly marriage and for the deep struggles within your family, particularly regarding financial stewardship and the spiritual battles you face. Let us address these matters with truth, prayer, and biblical guidance, for we know that God is faithful to hear and answer when we call upon Him in righteousness.
First, we must address the way you refer to the man in your life as "###." It is unclear whether this person is your husband, someone you are in a relationship with, or another family member. If this is someone you are romantically involved with outside of marriage, we must lovingly but firmly rebuke this, for Scripture is clear that we are to flee from relationships that are not centered on Christ and His design for marriage. The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If this man is not your husband, you must not be in a romantic or intimate relationship with him, for that would be fornication, which is a sin against God (1 Corinthians 6:18). If he is your husband, then you must address these issues as his wife, submitting to Scripture’s teachings on marriage, love, and respect (Ephesians 5:22-33). If he is not your husband, we strongly urge you to separate from this relationship immediately, for it is not honoring to God. A godly marriage begins with two believers who are committed to Christ and to one another in holiness, not in financial exploitation or emotional manipulation.
You have expressed a deep desire for a "godly mate," a "life partner," and a "beautiful relationship and marriage." This is a noble and biblical desire, for God Himself said in Genesis 2:18, *"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper comparable to him."* However, we must emphasize that this desire must be pursued in a way that honors God. You must seek a *spouse*—a husband—who is a born-again believer in Jesus Christ, who walks in integrity, and who will lead you and your future family in godliness. Courtship should be intentional, pure, and directed toward marriage, not toward temporary companionship or emotional fulfillment. If you are not currently married, we pray that you would surrender this desire to the Lord, trusting in His timing and His will. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
Now, let us address the grave concerns regarding your family’s financial stewardship and the exploitation of your mother’s resources. What you have described is not only financially irresponsible but also morally and spiritually corrupt. The man you speak of—whether he is a family member or someone you are involved with—is acting out of greed, selfishness, and a lack of fear of the Lord. The Bible strongly condemns such behavior. Proverbs 28:24 says, *"Whoever robs his father or his mother and says, ‘It’s not wrong’ is a partner with a destroyer."* Exploiting your mother’s finances, especially when she is vulnerable due to dementia, is a grievous sin. It is stealing, and it is an abuse of the trust placed in you and this man. You must take a stand against this, not only for your mother’s sake but for the sake of your own conscience before God.
You mentioned that this man has narcissistic traits, a history of financial irresponsibility, and even criminal behavior. This is not the behavior of someone who is walking in repentance or godliness. The fact that he has been in jail and involved with drugs is further evidence of a life that has not been surrendered to Christ. You cannot change him, but you *can* set boundaries. You must protect your mother’s finances, even if it means restricting his access to her accounts. If you have legal authority over her finances, you have a *moral obligation* before God to steward them wisely and justly. This may require difficult conversations, legal action, or even separating yourself from his influence entirely. Ephesians 5:11 commands, *"Have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather even reprove them."*
We also see that you are suffering emotionally because of these family dynamics. This is understandable, but we encourage you not to remain in despair. Instead, bring these burdens to the Lord in prayer and trust that He will act on your behalf. Psalm 55:22 says, *"Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved."* You are not powerless—you have the authority in Christ to resist the devil’s schemes in your family. James 4:7 says, *"Be subject therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."* This is a spiritual battle, and you must fight it with prayer, Scripture, and righteous action.
You have asked for the protection of the blood of Jesus over you, your family, and your finances. This is a powerful and biblical prayer, for the blood of Jesus is our ultimate protection against the enemy. Exodus 12:13 reminds us that when the blood was applied to the doorposts, the destroyer had to pass over. Similarly, when we apply the blood of Jesus over our lives through faith, the enemy has no authority over us. We declare this protection over you now, pleading the blood of Jesus over your mind, body, soul, finances, and every area of your life. No weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and every scheme of the enemy to bring destruction through financial exploitation or emotional manipulation is broken in Jesus’ name.
However, we must also remind you that protection is not passive. You must *act* in obedience to God’s Word. If you continue to allow this man to have access to your mother’s finances, you are enabling sin. If you remain in an ungodly relationship with him, you are opening the door to further destruction. You must repent of any complacency or fear that has kept you from setting godly boundaries. Proverbs 1:10 says, *"My son, if sinners entice you, don’t consent."* This is a command from the Lord—do not consent to sin, even if it comes from family.
Now, let us pray over these matters with authority and faith:
*Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up Your daughter who is burdened by the weight of family strife, financial exploitation, and the desire for a godly marriage. Lord, we ask that You would open her eyes to any area where she has tolerated sin or failed to set boundaries that honor You. Convict her heart if she is in an ungodly relationship, and give her the strength to walk away from anything that is not of You. Father, if this man is not her husband, we rebuke any emotional or physical tie that is not sanctified by You. Break every soul tie that is not of God, and set her free from any ungodly attachment. If he is her husband, Lord, convict his heart of his sin and bring him to repentance. Soften his heart and turn him from his greedy and destructive ways.*
*Lord, we plead the blood of Jesus over every financial account, over every decision made regarding her mother’s care, and over every word spoken in these matters. Bind the spirit of greed, manipulation, and deception that has operated in this family. Expose every hidden motive and bring truth to light. Give Your daughter wisdom to know how to protect her mother’s resources and the courage to take righteous action, even if it means confronting this man or seeking legal protection. Father, we ask that You would provide for her mother’s needs abundantly, that no lack would come upon her because of another’s sin.*
*We also lift up her desire for a godly marriage. Lord, if it is Your will, prepare a husband for her who loves You with all his heart, who will lead her spiritually, and who will cherish her as Christ loves the Church. But Father, we ask that You would first purify her heart and align her desires with Your Word. If there is any ungodly relationship in her life, Lord, sever it completely. Let her not be unequally yoked, but let her wait upon You for a spouse who will honor You in all things.*
*Father, we rebuke the spirits of despair, anxiety, and hopelessness that have sought to overwhelm her. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Let her trust in You completely, knowing that You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Deliverer. Break every generational curse of financial mismanagement, addiction, and emotional abuse in her family line. Let Your healing power flow through her life and bring restoration where the enemy has brought destruction.*
*We thank You, Lord, that You are a God of justice and mercy. We trust You to act on her behalf, to vindicate her, and to bring glory to Your name through this situation. Let Your will be done in her life, in her family, and in her future marriage, for Your glory alone. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.*
Finally, we urge you to take practical steps in addition to prayer:
1. **Set Boundaries Immediately**: If you have access to your mother’s finances, restrict this man’s ability to spend her money recklessly. If necessary, consult a lawyer to ensure her assets are protected.
2. **Seek Godly Counsel**: Speak with a pastor or a trusted, mature believer who can help you navigate these family dynamics biblically.
3. **Separate from Ungodly Relationships**: If this man is not your husband, you must end any romantic or emotional ties with him. If he is your husband, seek biblical counseling to address his behavior and your marriage.
4. **Trust God’s Timing for Marriage**: Do not rush into another relationship out of loneliness or desperation. Wait on the Lord, and He will guide you to a godly spouse if that is His will.
5. **Forgive, but Do Not Enable**: Forgive those who have wronged you, but do not continue to allow sinful behavior to harm you or your family.
Stand firm in the Lord, dear sister. He is with you, and He will fight for you. *"The Lord is my light and my salvation. Whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life. Of whom shall I be afraid?"* (Psalm 27:1). Walk in obedience, and He will lead you into victory.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
