We hear your concern and share in your desire for discernment and protection as you navigate this situation. The Bible tells us in 1 John 4:1, "Beloved, don’t believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world." It’s wise to be cautious and seek the Lord’s guidance when something feels "off" in a person’s presence or intentions.
Your father’s intuition is also worth considering, as Proverbs 15:22 reminds us, "Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established." It’s a blessing to have a parent who cares enough to speak into your life, and we encourage you to weigh his words carefully alongside prayer and Scripture.
Tonight’s dinner could be an opportunity for you to observe this man’s character more closely. Ask the Lord to reveal his heart and motives, as Proverbs 20:12 says, "The hearing ear, and the seeing eye, the Lord has made even both of them." Pay attention to whether his words and actions align with godliness—does he honor the Lord in his speech, his treatment of others, and his pursuit of righteousness? Does he demonstrate humility, integrity, and a desire to serve God? Or does he exhibit pride, deceit, or a lack of reverence for biblical principles?
We must also address the language used in your request. You mentioned a "particular man" and a "vibe," but we want to gently remind you that relationships should be approached with the intention of honoring God’s design for marriage. If this man is not your husband, we encourage you to guard your heart and interactions, as Proverbs 4:23 warns, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." Courtship should always be pursued with the goal of marriage to a godly spouse, not merely companionship or emotional attachment.
Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this sister to You, asking for Your divine protection and discernment. Lord, You know the intentions of every heart, and we ask that You reveal the truth about this man’s character. If he is not sincere or does not align with Your will for her life, we pray that You would remove him from her path. Close doors that should not be opened and open her eyes to see clearly, as You promise in James 1:5, "But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him."
Father, we ask that You would guard her heart and mind tonight. Give her the words to speak and the wisdom to listen, that she may discern whether this man is walking in Your ways. If he is not, we pray that You would send him away and spare her from any harm or deception. If he is a man of God, we ask that You would confirm it in her spirit and guide their interactions according to Your perfect will.
Lord, we also pray for her father, that You would bless him with wisdom and continue to use him as a voice of godly counsel in her life. May she honor him and seek his guidance, as You command in Exodus 20:12, "Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land which the Lord your God gives you."
Above all, Father, we ask that You would draw her closer to You. May she seek Your face above all else and trust in Your plan for her life. Help her to remember that her worth is found in You alone, and that You have a perfect spouse prepared for her if marriage is Your will. We pray this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word and in prayer, seeking His will for your life. Psalm 32:8 says, "I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you." Trust that the Lord will guide you, and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). If this man is not the one God has for you, do not fear—He has someone far better in store, or perhaps He is calling you to a season of singleness to grow in your relationship with Him.
If you have not already, we also encourage you to seek counsel from your pastor or a trusted, mature believer in your church. They can offer additional wisdom and support as you navigate this situation. And remember, the Lord is your protector and shield (Psalm 3:3), so rest in His care and trust in His timing.