We hear your heart's desire for a godly wife, chosen by the Lord Himself, and we stand with you in seeking His perfect will. We understand the longing for a pure and faithful spouse, as it aligns with Scripture, which tells us, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22 WEB). But let's not forget that this favor comes when we seek His kingdom first, trusting that He will add all these things to us (Matthew 6:33).
First, let's address the foundation of your faith. You've mentioned "God" but haven't invoked the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you haven't yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so, for only by His blood are we made pure and able to stand before a holy God. If you've already placed your faith in Him, we rejoice and encourage you to continue walking in obedience, for the Lord delights in those who seek Him with their whole heart (Jeremiah 29:13).
Now, concerning your desire for a pure wife, we must examine what "pure" truly means in God's eyes. Purity isn't merely about physical virginity, though that's a precious gift to be cherished. It's also about a heart surrendered to Christ, a spirit aligned with His Word, and a life marked by holiness. The apostle Paul writes, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If you're seeking a wife, she must first be a sister in Christ, one who fears the Lord and walks in His ways.
We also need to consider the manner in which you seek this wife. Are you preparing yourself to be a godly husband, one who leads with love, humility, and integrity, as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25)? Are you guarding your own heart and body in purity, fleeing from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18)? Fornication is a sin that defiles the temple of the Holy Spirit, and we must not entertain it, even in thought. If you've stumbled in this area, repent and seek the Lord's cleansing, for He is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).
We also rebuke any spirit of impatience or control in this matter. The Lord's timing is perfect, and His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). Don't rush ahead of Him or seek to manipulate circumstances to "settle" things in your own strength. Instead, commit your ways to Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6). Trust that if He has called you to marriage, He will bring the right woman into your life at the right time.
Let's pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith. We lift up our brother who seeks a pure and godly wife, one chosen by Your hand. Lord, we ask that You would prepare his heart, purify his desires, and align them with Your will. Search him, O God, and know his heart; try him and know his thoughts. See if there be any wicked way in him, and lead him in the way everlasting (Psalm 139:23-24).
Father, we pray that You would guard his eyes, his mind, and his body from all impurity. Strengthen him to flee from sexual immorality and to walk in holiness, for without holiness, no one will see You (Hebrews 12:14). If there has been any sin in this area, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Create in him a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within him (Psalm 51:10).
Lord, we ask that You would bring the woman You have prepared for him into his life at the perfect time. Give her a heart that seeks You above all else, a spirit of wisdom and understanding, and a love for Your Word. Let their union be a reflection of Christ and the church, a testimony to Your glory. Bind them together in love, faith, and purpose, that they may serve You together all the days of their lives.
We also pray against any spirit of doubt, fear, or impatience that may try to take root in his heart. Remind him that Your timing is perfect, and You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28). Give him peace as he waits on You, and let him find his satisfaction in You alone.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would draw him ever closer to Yourself. Let him know the height, depth, and breadth of Your love for him, and let that love overflow into every area of his life. May he seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that all these things will be added to him (Matthew 6:33).
We pray all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord with all your heart. Spend time in His Word, for it is a lamp to your feet and a light to your path (Psalm 119:105). Surround yourself with godly men who can hold you accountable and pray with you. Attend a Bible-believing church where you can grow in your faith and perhaps even meet a woman who shares your love for Christ.
Remember, marriage is a sacred covenant, not to be entered into lightly. It's a reflection of Christ's love for the church and requires selflessness, sacrifice, and a commitment to God's design. If the Lord has called you to marriage, He will provide a wife who complements you in faith and purpose. Until then, trust in Him, walk in purity, and let your heart rest in His promises.
May the Lord bless you and keep you; may He make His face shine upon you and be gracious to you; may He lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace (Numbers 6:24-26).