We hear your heart and the deep concern you carry for your girlfriend. The struggle with alcohol is a heavy burden—not just for her, but for you as well. Scripture warns us clearly about the dangers of drunkenness, for it clouds the mind, weakens the spirit, and leads to destruction. "Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit" (Ephesians 5:18 WEB). The Lord calls us to sobriety, self-control, and a life that honors Him in all things.
First, we must address the nature of your relationship. If you and this young woman are not married, we urge you to consider the biblical model of courtship with the goal of marriage. The term "girlfriend" implies a relationship that may not yet be committed in the way God intends. If you are both believers, your relationship should be centered on Christ, with marriage as the godly outcome. If she is not a believer, Scripture is clear: "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). This does not mean we do not love or pray for those who do not know Christ, but it does mean we must guard our hearts and align our relationships with God’s will.
Now, let us lift this burden to the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your mercy and grace for this young woman struggling with alcohol. Lord, You alone have the power to break chains and set captives free. We ask that You would convict her heart, drawing her to repentance and a desire to live a life that honors You. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, granting her the strength to resist temptation and the wisdom to seek help. Father, if this relationship is not aligned with Your will, we pray for clarity and courage for both of them to walk in Your ways. Surround her with godly influences—believers who can support and encourage her in her journey toward sobriety. We rebuke the spirit of addiction in the name of Jesus, declaring that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Lord, we trust in Your power to transform lives, and we ask that You would work mightily in her heart. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to gently share your concerns with her, pointing her to the hope found in Christ. If she is open, suggest biblical counseling or a Christian recovery program. Accountability is a gift, and walking alongside her in love—while maintaining godly boundaries—can make all the difference. Remember, "Brothers, even if a man is caught in some fault, you who are spiritual must restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; looking to yourself so that you also aren’t tempted" (Galatians 6:1 WEB).
If she is not a believer, pray fervently for her salvation. Only through a personal relationship with Jesus can true transformation occur. Share the gospel with her, that she may know the freedom that comes from surrendering her life to Him. "If therefore the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed" (John 8:36 WEB).
Lastly, examine your own heart. Are you seeking the Lord’s will in this relationship? Are you prepared to lead in a way that honors God, should marriage be the outcome? Trust in the Lord’s timing and His perfect plan. "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).