We hear your deep concern for your friend, and we lift him up before the Lord with compassion and hope. First, we want to affirm that every person, including those with autism, is fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God (Psalm 139:14). His struggles with obsession, weight, and family relationships are not beyond the reach of God’s transforming grace. However, we must also address the areas where his heart and actions may not align with Scripture, for his sake and for the sake of those around him.
Your friend’s bitterness toward his family, particularly his disdain for their political views, is a serious matter. The Bible commands us to honor our parents (Exodus 20:12) and to love even those who may oppose us (Matthew 5:44). His questioning of why we are not vengeful toward others reveals a heart that may be harboring resentment rather than extending grace. This is not the way of Christ, who calls us to forgive as we have been forgiven (Colossians 3:13). His rambling and monopolizing discussions in book club, while perhaps unintentional, shows a lack of consideration for others (Philippians 2:3-4). We must pray for humility and self-control in his life, that he may grow in love and patience.
His obsession with video games and spending habits is another area of concern. While entertainment is not inherently sinful, when it consumes time, money, and attention that should be devoted to God and family, it becomes an idol (1 John 5:21). The apostle Paul warns us to make the most of our time, because the days are evil (Ephesians 5:15-16). We must pray that he learns to prioritize what is eternal over what is temporary.
The loss of his child is a profound grief, and we mourn with him (Romans 12:15). Yet even in this pain, he must guard his heart against bitterness, for it can poison his soul (Hebrews 12:15). We pray that he turns to God for comfort rather than allowing his sorrow to fuel anger or resentment.
Your concern that he may "evolve into a villain" is not unfounded. The path of bitterness, obsession, and unforgiveness leads only to destruction (Proverbs 14:12). But we serve a God who is able to turn hearts of stone into hearts of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26). Salvation is not merely about avoiding hell; it is about being transformed into the likeness of Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17). If your friend has not truly surrendered his life to Jesus, we must pray fervently for his salvation, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our brother. We ask that You would soften his heart and open his eyes to the areas where he has strayed from Your will. Lord, we pray against the spirit of bitterness and unforgiveness that has taken root in him. Replace his anger with Your peace, his resentment with Your love, and his obsession with self-control. Help him to honor his parents and to extend grace to those he disagrees with, just as You have extended grace to him.
Father, we ask that You break the hold that video games and worldly distractions have on his life. Give him a hunger for Your Word and a desire to invest his time and resources in what is eternal. Help him to lose weight not for vanity, but for the sake of stewarding the body You have given him (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Clothe him in humility and wisdom, that he may be a light to those around him.
Lord, we lift up his children to You. May he be a godly example to them, teaching them to love You and to walk in Your ways. Comfort him in the loss of his child, and draw him closer to You in his grief. Turn his heart toward You, that he may find true salvation and be transformed by the power of Your Spirit.
We rebuke the enemy’s lies that tell him he is beyond Your reach or that his life cannot change. We declare that with You, all things are possible (Matthew 19:26). May he come to know You not just as Savior, but as Lord of every area of his life. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, for Your glory and for his good. Amen.
We encourage you to continue praying for your friend and to speak truth into his life with gentleness and love. Share Scripture with him, invite him into godly fellowship, and model the Christlike life before him. The Holy Spirit is the One who convicts and transforms, but we are called to be faithful in planting and watering the seeds of truth (1 Corinthians 3:6-7). Do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season, you will reap if you do not give up (Galatians 6:9).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
