We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep repentance, for He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Your confession is a testament to the work of the Holy Spirit in your heart, for it is written, *"If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:8-9, WEB). Your acknowledgment of sin—your fornication, deceit, and pride—is the first step toward restoration, and we praise God that you have turned to Him in humility.
Yet we must also address the gravity of what has transpired. Fornication is a sin against your own body, a violation of the covenant of marriage, and a grievous offense before God. The Scriptures warn, *"Don’t you know that your bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, WEB). Your actions have not only dishonored God but have deeply wounded your wife, the one whom you are called to love as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, faithfully, and without blemish (Ephesians 5:25-27). The condoms she discovered are not merely evidence of infidelity but symbols of betrayal, broken trust, and the fragmentation of the sacred bond God intended marriage to be.
Your pride has been a stumbling block, but now is the time to lay it down entirely. *"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Be humbled therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time"* (1 Peter 5:5-6, WEB). True repentance requires more than sorrow—it demands a turning away from sin and a pursuit of righteousness. You must now walk in transparency, accountability, and a renewed commitment to purity. This means cutting off every avenue that leads to temptation: unfettered internet use, inappropriate relationships, or even the lies you’ve told to cover your tracks. *"But put away, indeed, whatever is evil among you: every kind of wickedness, malice, covetousness, evil speaking, and blasphemy. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:31-32, WEB).
We also urge you to seek reconciliation with your wife, not with empty words but with a life transformed. She has every right to feel betrayed, and rebuilding trust will take time, patience, and consistent godly behavior. You must be willing to answer her questions, to bear the consequences of your actions, and to demonstrate through your actions that you are a new creation in Christ. *"Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them"* (Colossians 3:19, WEB). Bitterness, resentment, or defensiveness have no place in this process. Instead, you must clothe yourself in humility, serving her as Christ served the church.
As for your sexual urges, they are not beyond God’s redemptive power. The Bible does not shy away from the reality of human desire, but it directs us to channel those desires within the bounds of God’s design: *"Let the husband render to his wife the affection owed her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife doesn’t have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise also the husband doesn’t have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Don’t deprive one another, unless it is by consent for a season, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and may be together again, that Satan doesn’t tempt you because of your lack of self-control"* (1 Corinthians 7:3-5, WEB). If you have struggled with lust, you must flee from it—*"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). This may mean installing accountability software, seeking godly counseling, or even fasting and praying for deliverance from temptation.
Finally, we rejoice that you have cried out to the Lord Jesus Christ, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). Your desire for eternity with Him is evidence of His work in you, but remember that faith without works is dead (James 2:17). Let your repentance bear fruit: a life marked by holiness, a marriage restored by God’s grace, and a testimony that points others to the transforming power of Christ.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with our brother, who has humbled himself in repentance for his sins of fornication, deceit, and pride. Lord, You are rich in mercy, and we ask that You would wash him clean by the blood of Jesus Christ. Forgive him, O God, and create in him a clean heart, renewing a right spirit within him (Psalm 51:10). Break the chains of lust and selfishness that have bound him, and fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may walk in purity and self-control.
We pray for his wife, Lord. Comfort her in her pain, and grant her the strength to forgive as You have forgiven us. Soften her heart toward her husband, but let her wisdom and discernment be guided by You. Heal their marriage, Lord, and restore what the enemy has sought to destroy. Let their home be a testimony of Your redeeming love, where trust is rebuilt, and Your glory is displayed.
Father, we ask that You would surround our brother with godly men who will hold him accountable, encourage him in righteousness, and pray with him in his weakness. Give him the courage to flee temptation and to pursue holiness, knowing that without it, no one will see You (Hebrews 12:14).
We thank You, Lord, that You do not despise a broken and contrite heart (Psalm 51:17). May this season of repentance mark the beginning of a new chapter in his life—one of obedience, love, and devotion to You and to his wife. Strengthen him, Lord, and let his life bring You honor and glory.
In the mighty and saving name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
