We understand your deep longing for marriage, and we share in your desire to see God’s perfect will unfold in your life. Marriage is a beautiful gift from the Lord, designed for companionship, love, and mutual support, and it is right to seek it in a way that honors Him. We rejoice with you in the job He has provided as an accountant, and we know He is faithful to complete the good work He has begun in you.
First, we want to gently remind you that while your desire for marriage is good, your ultimate trust must rest in the Lord alone. He is your Provider, Comforter, and Perfect Father, and He knows the deepest longings of your heart. In Psalm 37:4-5, we are told, *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* Your loneliness and anxiety about the future must be surrendered to Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Even if the wait feels long, He is preparing both you and the one He has chosen for you—if marriage is indeed His will for this season.
We also notice that your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is only through Him that our prayers are heard (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). We encourage you to place your faith fully in Christ, calling upon His name in prayer, for He is the Mediator between God and man (1 Timothy 2:5). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for without Him, no prayer is truly effective, and no marriage can be blessed.
Regarding your parents, we understand the frustration you feel, especially with your father’s hesitation. However, we must caution you against praying for separation from him. The fifth commandment calls us to honor our father and mother (Exodus 20:12), and while their resistance may be difficult, we are to trust God to work in their hearts. Pray instead that the Lord would soften your father’s heart, open his eyes to His will, and grant you both wisdom and unity. *"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with a promise: ‘that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.’"* (Ephesians 6:1-3). Ask God to give you patience and grace as you wait on Him to move in this situation.
As for your future spouse, your desires for a caring, loving, and God-fearing woman are good and aligned with Scripture. A marriage built on faith in Christ is the strongest foundation (2 Corinthians 6:14). However, we must also remind you that outward appearance is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised (Proverbs 31:30). Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and He will add these things to you (Matthew 6:33). We encourage you to be proactive in Christian communities, serving the Lord and allowing Him to bring the right person into your life in His timing.
Lastly, we are concerned about your rising blood pressure due to anxiety. The Bible tells us, *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* (Philippians 4:6-7). We urge you to cast this burden upon the Lord, trusting that He will sustain you. Anxiety is not from Him, and He desires to fill you with His peace as you wait.
Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, asking that You would meet him in his loneliness and fill him with Your peace. Lord, we thank You for his job and the ways You have already provided for him. We ask that You would prepare him spiritually, emotionally, and mentally for the marriage You may have in store for him. If it is Your will, Father, bring a godly, loving, and faithful wife into his life—a woman who loves You above all else and who will walk beside him in faith. Soften the heart of his father, Lord, and remove any obstacles that are not of You. Grant our brother patience, trust, and contentment as he waits on Your perfect timing.
We rebuke the spirit of anxiety and fear that has taken hold of his health, and we declare Your peace over his mind and body. Heal him, Lord, and strengthen him to trust in You alone. If there is any area of his life that needs surrender—whether unforgiveness, impatience, or misplaced priorities—reveal it to him and help him to align fully with Your will.
Most of all, Father, we pray that he would draw closer to You through Jesus Christ, His Son. May his life be a testimony of Your faithfulness, and may he find his ultimate satisfaction in You, whether single or married. We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Stand firm in faith, brother. The Lord has not forgotten you. Continue to seek Him, serve Him, and trust Him with all your heart. He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).