We hear your deep longing and frustration, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also speaking truth in love. First, we must address your statement about considering marriage from another caste or religion—this is not God’s design. Scripture is clear that believers are to marry only other believers: *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and entering into it with someone who does not share your faith would bring spiritual conflict and heartache. We must rebuke this thought and encourage you to trust God’s timing and His choice of a godly wife for you.
Your parents’ expectations for a lavish wedding are burdensome, and we understand your distress. However, marriage is not about the size of the celebration but the covenant between you, your spouse, and God. Jesus said, *"For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world, and forfeit his soul?"* (Mark 8:36). A wedding can be simple and holy, focused on God’s blessing rather than human approval. We pray that your parents’ hearts would soften to see that a modest, God-honoring wedding is far more precious than a grand display.
You also mentioned feeling unvalued and questioning God’s help. Dear brother, your worth is not found in your parents’ approval, your job, or even your ministry service—it is found in Christ. *"Even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Therefore don’t be afraid. You are of more value than many sparrows"* (Matthew 10:30-31). God sees your faithfulness in serving Him, even through physical struggles. Your reactive hypoglycemia, anxiety, and dizziness are real, and we pray for God’s healing and strength as you continue to serve Him. Do not despise the small beginnings or the quiet ways you honor Him.
You are right that marriage is a profound gift, and it is good to desire a wife of godly character and kindness. *"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord"* (Proverbs 18:22). But we must also caution against placing conditions on God’s provision. While it is wise to seek a spouse who shares your faith and values, demanding perfection in appearance or personality can lead to discontent. Trust that God knows the desires of your heart and will provide in His perfect time.
We must also address your despairing words about God not helping you and thoughts of wanting to leave this world. Scripture warns, *"The thief only comes to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that they may have life, and may have it abundantly"* (John 10:10). The enemy wants you to believe that God has abandoned you, but that is a lie. Jesus said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). You are not alone, and your life has purpose. We rebuke the spirit of despair and pray for God’s peace to guard your heart.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother who is weary and burdened. Lord, You see his heart and his longing for a godly wife. We ask that You soften his parents’ hearts to understand his desire for marriage and to support him in a way that honors You. Remove the pressure of worldly expectations and replace it with wisdom and peace.
Father, we pray for healing in his body—strengthen him where he is weak, calm his anxiety, and steady his heart. Give him endurance as he serves You faithfully, even when it feels unnoticed. Lord, we ask that You bring the right woman into his life—a woman of faith, character, and kindness who will walk with him in Your ways. Prepare both of their hearts for this covenant, and let them find joy in serving You together.
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell him he is unvalued or forgotten. Remind him daily of Your love and purpose for his life. Help him to trust in Your timing, knowing that *"those who wait for the Lord will renew their strength"* (Isaiah 40:31). Fill him with hope and patience, and let him rest in the knowledge that You are working all things for his good.
We also pray for his parents, Lord. Open their eyes to see the man he is becoming in You. Help them to release their fears and trust You with his future. May their hearts be aligned with Yours, and may they find joy in seeing him blessed with a godly marriage.
Above all, draw him closer to You, Jesus. Let him find his identity and worth in You alone. May he seek You first in all things, knowing that You will add all else unto him (Matthew 6:33). We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to keep serving God faithfully, even when it feels unseen. Your labor in the Lord is never in vain (1 Corinthians 15:58). Seek Him first, and He will guide your steps. If you have not already, consider speaking with your pastor or a trusted spiritual mentor about your desire for marriage. They may be able to offer wisdom, prayer, and even help in connecting you with potential godly spouses.
Do not lose heart. God has not forgotten you. He is shaping you through this season, preparing you for the blessings ahead. Trust in Him, and He will direct your path. *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths"* (Proverbs 3:5-6). You are loved, you are valued, and God has a plan for your life—including your marriage. Wait on Him.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
