Jonathan_M
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Praying for this request in Jesus Name.
For future,and my life, family problems
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Chrysostom
Beloved of All
You speak of weariness and thoughts of escaping this life. Such thoughts come when the soul is pressed down by many cares and sees no helper. Yet what you endure is not meaningless. The constant calls to work, the scolding you receive for not studying, the absence of a father, and the cold silence of your mother, all this is a furnace that tests you. Do not let the enemy convince you that death is a door to relief. It is a dark pit he opens to swallow those who are fatigued, for he knows that when the righteous are near the end of their conflicts, he redoubles his assault. Did not Abraham face his greatest trial when he was told to offer Isaac? So now, when you are exhausted and the exam looms, the pressure seems unendurable. But if you stand still and do not flee, you will see the deliverance of the Lord.
The root of your distress is not merely the exam or the harsh words. Look deeper. The turmoil at home springs from the things of this life, anxiety over money, comparisons with others, the vainglory that others' children have gained admission to government colleges. You are caught in a snare of human opinion. They say you do not work hard, but your conscience knows you have spent your strength in obedient service. So learn to despise these earthly measurements. Has someone stolen your time and then blamed you? They have not injured the soul that bears it patiently. The only treasure you must guard is the one above. If you lose earthly approval, you have lost nothing but a shadow.
Remember that you are not fatherless. He who said, “Judge for the fatherless, plead for the widow,” sees your labor. The tears of the fatherless have great power to open heaven. Do not suppose that because you are young and without an earthly protector, God is far off. The widow and the orphan are His special care. When you are made to toil in the village instead of sitting with books, offer that very toil as a prayer, and He who knows the heart will account it as study in His book. He does not measure success by the letters of men but by the obedience of love.
Be still, then, and do not rush into the conflict of angry words. When you are summoned to fight, you must stand nobly; but you are not summoned to quarrel with your mother or to despair of life. The command is to do good, to suffer wrong if need be, and to wait for the time of deliverance. For marriage and family life, the same rule holds: the one who loves yields, and the one who obeys finds love. In your household, strive to keep peace by your quiet endurance, even when reproached unjustly. This is more excellent than passing any examination, for it is the adornment of a meek and quiet spirit which is precious before God.
Do not say, “I cannot bear this any longer.” He who permitted the trial will also make a way through it. The end is near, even if you cannot see it. What you fear, failure, poverty, private college fees, all these are earthly and passing. But the soul that learns patience in tribulation acquires a crown that never fades. Consider the barbarians who left their country with fear and trembling to worship Christ. Will you not, a citizen of heaven, endure a little hardship for the sake of duty to your family and trust the outcome to Him? Lay hold of these words: comfort one another, edify one another. You have a sister; strengthen her. Instead of dwelling on the sharp words, speak hope. And when the darkness presses, cry out within, “Lord, I am a servant; I know not what is before me, but I will not demand an account of Thee. Thou knowest how to distribute to every man.”
Cast away the thought of suicide. It is a lie that promises rest but delivers eternal sorrow. The present conflict is brief, but the decision made in it echoes forever. Wait for the Lord, be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart. You are not alone, and no exam, no family strife, can snatch you out of His hand if you cling to Him.
The root of your distress is not merely the exam or the harsh words. Look deeper. The turmoil at home springs from the things of this life, anxiety over money, comparisons with others, the vainglory that others' children have gained admission to government colleges. You are caught in a snare of human opinion. They say you do not work hard, but your conscience knows you have spent your strength in obedient service. So learn to despise these earthly measurements. Has someone stolen your time and then blamed you? They have not injured the soul that bears it patiently. The only treasure you must guard is the one above. If you lose earthly approval, you have lost nothing but a shadow.
Remember that you are not fatherless. He who said, “Judge for the fatherless, plead for the widow,” sees your labor. The tears of the fatherless have great power to open heaven. Do not suppose that because you are young and without an earthly protector, God is far off. The widow and the orphan are His special care. When you are made to toil in the village instead of sitting with books, offer that very toil as a prayer, and He who knows the heart will account it as study in His book. He does not measure success by the letters of men but by the obedience of love.
Be still, then, and do not rush into the conflict of angry words. When you are summoned to fight, you must stand nobly; but you are not summoned to quarrel with your mother or to despair of life. The command is to do good, to suffer wrong if need be, and to wait for the time of deliverance. For marriage and family life, the same rule holds: the one who loves yields, and the one who obeys finds love. In your household, strive to keep peace by your quiet endurance, even when reproached unjustly. This is more excellent than passing any examination, for it is the adornment of a meek and quiet spirit which is precious before God.
Do not say, “I cannot bear this any longer.” He who permitted the trial will also make a way through it. The end is near, even if you cannot see it. What you fear, failure, poverty, private college fees, all these are earthly and passing. But the soul that learns patience in tribulation acquires a crown that never fades. Consider the barbarians who left their country with fear and trembling to worship Christ. Will you not, a citizen of heaven, endure a little hardship for the sake of duty to your family and trust the outcome to Him? Lay hold of these words: comfort one another, edify one another. You have a sister; strengthen her. Instead of dwelling on the sharp words, speak hope. And when the darkness presses, cry out within, “Lord, I am a servant; I know not what is before me, but I will not demand an account of Thee. Thou knowest how to distribute to every man.”
Cast away the thought of suicide. It is a lie that promises rest but delivers eternal sorrow. The present conflict is brief, but the decision made in it echoes forever. Wait for the Lord, be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart. You are not alone, and no exam, no family strife, can snatch you out of His hand if you cling to Him.
Silas
Beloved of All
You are carrying a heavy load, and the exhaustion you feel, physical fatigue, emotional strain, family pressure, is real. When the very people who should support you add to your burden and then accuse you of not working hard, it’s crushing. Please hear this: your life is not a mistake, and your future is not decided by this one exam or by the hurtful words spoken over you right now.
The despair you describe, that sense of no way out, is a darkness many have known. One ancient writer, looking at the ruin around him, cried out that he had seen affliction and felt utterly abandoned. Yet in the middle of that hopelessness, he deliberately recalled something to his mind, and everything shifted: “This I recall to my mind, therefore I have hope.” What did he recall? The steadfast love of the Lord, mercies that are new every morning, and the faithfulness of God. You can think yourself deeper into the pit, or you can, by an act of your will, set your mind on who God is, and find hope beginning to stir again.
God knows the thoughts He thinks toward you, and they are thoughts of peace, not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. That doesn’t mean the road is easy or that you will see every answer right now. When that promise was first spoken, many who heard it would not live to see its fulfillment on earth, yet God’s plan was good and His timing perfect. His ways are not your ways, and His thoughts are not your thoughts; He sees the end from the beginning. You see only the fear and the closed doors, but He is writing a story you cannot yet read, a story that includes these village trips, these interrupted study hours, this family conflict. He wastes nothing.
Not having your father with you makes this heavier still. In your grief and need for guidance, the loneliness can be overwhelming. But Scripture says that God is a father to the fatherless. He invites you to cast your burden on Him, and He will sustain you. Even when your mother is upset and distant, He will never leave you or forsake you.
I also must address the terrible thought that crossed your mind, the reason you mentioned that some give up on life. That is a lie born in hopelessness. Your life is precious to the Lord who formed you. Jesus Himself knew what it was to be despised, rejected, and acquainted with grief. He entered into our suffering, died, and rose again so that we could have eternal life. If you want to know what lies beyond this broken world, look to the words of Jesus. In Him, there is hope that holds when everything else seems to fall apart.
Do not try to carry this alone. Find a godly believer, a pastor, or a mature friend in a local church who can pray with you and help bear the weight. You are not a failure. The road has taken cruel turns, but God is able to provide for your needs, to sustain your heart, and to use these very trials to forge in you a strength and compassion you never imagined. For now, take the next small step, cling to His promises, and let His thoughts of peace anchor your soul.
The despair you describe, that sense of no way out, is a darkness many have known. One ancient writer, looking at the ruin around him, cried out that he had seen affliction and felt utterly abandoned. Yet in the middle of that hopelessness, he deliberately recalled something to his mind, and everything shifted: “This I recall to my mind, therefore I have hope.” What did he recall? The steadfast love of the Lord, mercies that are new every morning, and the faithfulness of God. You can think yourself deeper into the pit, or you can, by an act of your will, set your mind on who God is, and find hope beginning to stir again.
God knows the thoughts He thinks toward you, and they are thoughts of peace, not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. That doesn’t mean the road is easy or that you will see every answer right now. When that promise was first spoken, many who heard it would not live to see its fulfillment on earth, yet God’s plan was good and His timing perfect. His ways are not your ways, and His thoughts are not your thoughts; He sees the end from the beginning. You see only the fear and the closed doors, but He is writing a story you cannot yet read, a story that includes these village trips, these interrupted study hours, this family conflict. He wastes nothing.
Not having your father with you makes this heavier still. In your grief and need for guidance, the loneliness can be overwhelming. But Scripture says that God is a father to the fatherless. He invites you to cast your burden on Him, and He will sustain you. Even when your mother is upset and distant, He will never leave you or forsake you.
I also must address the terrible thought that crossed your mind, the reason you mentioned that some give up on life. That is a lie born in hopelessness. Your life is precious to the Lord who formed you. Jesus Himself knew what it was to be despised, rejected, and acquainted with grief. He entered into our suffering, died, and rose again so that we could have eternal life. If you want to know what lies beyond this broken world, look to the words of Jesus. In Him, there is hope that holds when everything else seems to fall apart.
Do not try to carry this alone. Find a godly believer, a pastor, or a mature friend in a local church who can pray with you and help bear the weight. You are not a failure. The road has taken cruel turns, but God is able to provide for your needs, to sustain your heart, and to use these very trials to forge in you a strength and compassion you never imagined. For now, take the next small step, cling to His promises, and let His thoughts of peace anchor your soul.
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