We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up your requests in prayer and seeking His divine wisdom and intervention. First, we pray for your upcoming CA inter exams. Father, we ask that You grant wisdom, clarity, and focus to this dear sister as she prepares. Strengthen her mind, calm her nerves, and help her recall all that she has studied. Let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). May she write her exams with confidence, knowing that You are her strength and her portion. We declare that she will clear these exams with excellence, for You are the God who opens doors no one can shut (Revelation 3:8).
Now, we turn to the matter of your heart, which is deeply entwined with this young man. We hear the longing in your words, the ache of missing him, and the hope that he might still be the one You have for you. But we must pause here, dear sister, and examine this situation through the lens of Scripture, for our hearts can deceive us if we are not careful (Jeremiah 17:9). The pattern you describe—a cycle of breaking up and reconciling—is not one that reflects the stability, commitment, or godly love that the Lord intends for His children. Proverbs 24:27 warns us, *"Prepare your work outside, and get your fields ready. Afterwards, build your house."* In other words, we must establish ourselves in purpose and stability before pursuing a marriage covenant.
This young man’s instability is a red flag that cannot be ignored. A godly marriage is built on trust, maturity, and a shared commitment to Christ. Ephesians 5:25 tells us that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, faithfully, and without wavering. If this young man has not demonstrated the ability to remain steadfast in his commitment to you, how can he be trusted to lead a marriage in a way that honors God? We must also ask: Is he a believer? Is he pursuing the Lord with his whole heart? 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns us, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* If he is not walking with the Lord, your union would be built on shaky ground, and your faith could be compromised.
We must also address the fact that your longing for him has become an idol in your heart. You say that everything would seem "normal" if he returned, but true peace and wholeness are found only in Christ. When we place our hope in a person rather than in God, we set ourselves up for disappointment and heartache. Jesus Himself said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). He is the only One who can satisfy the deepest longings of your heart. We urge you to surrender this relationship to the Lord and ask Him to break any unhealthy attachments. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* But this promise is contingent on our delight being in *Him* first—not in a person, a relationship, or our own plans.
We must also rebuke the spirit of impatience and control that seeks to dictate the outcome of this situation. You say you do not know if God is testing your patience, but we declare that He *is*—and He is also testing your trust in Him. Will you wait on His timing, or will you try to force a reconciliation that may not be His will for you? Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* This young man may not be the one God has for you, and clinging to him could prevent you from seeing the blessing the Lord has prepared.
We pray now, lifting you up before the throne of grace. Father, we ask that You break the chains of longing and attachment that have bound this sister’s heart. Release her from the grip of this relationship and help her to see it through Your eyes. If this young man is not the one You have for her, we ask that You remove him from her heart and mind completely. If he is to be her husband, we ask that You first work in *his* heart—bringing repentance, maturity, and a deep commitment to You. But Lord, we also ask that You give her the strength to let go if this is not Your will. Fill the void in her heart with Your love, Your peace, and Your purpose. Help her to find her identity and worth in You alone.
We pray for clarity, Lord. Remove the fog of emotion and help her to see this situation with wisdom and discernment. If this relationship is not of You, we ask that You close the door permanently and give her the grace to walk away. If it is of You, we ask that You restore it in a way that honors You—with repentance, commitment, and a shared devotion to Christ. But above all, we ask that You be her first love. May she seek You with her whole heart, and may You satisfy her in ways no human relationship ever could.
We also pray for her emotional healing. The pain of this breakup is fresh, and the memories still linger. Lord, we ask that You heal every wound, dry every tear, and replace the sorrow with Your joy. Psalm 147:3 says, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* We claim that promise over her life today. Help her to release this young man into Your hands and to trust You with her future. Give her the strength to move forward, even when it hurts, knowing that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).
Finally, we pray for her future spouse—whether it is this young man or another. Lord, prepare him now. Draw him closer to You, teach him to love You above all else, and mold him into the husband this sister needs. Give her the patience to wait for Your best, and the wisdom to recognize it when it comes. May her marriage be a reflection of Christ and the church—a union built on love, sacrifice, and mutual submission to You.
We encourage you, dear sister, to immerse yourself in God’s Word. Meditate on passages that speak of His love for you, His plans for your future, and the beauty of waiting on Him. Spend time in prayer, not just asking for this young man to return, but seeking the Lord’s face and His will for your life. Surround yourself with godly counsel—women who will speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. And most importantly, fix your eyes on Jesus. He is the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and He will never leave you nor forsake you.
We stand with you in faith, believing that God is at work even in this pain. Trust Him. Wait on Him. And watch as He does exceedingly, abundantly above all that you could ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
