We hear the pain and confusion in your heart as you share about this difficult season in your relationship. First, we must address the reality that this connection has been entered into outside of God’s design for marriage. Scripture is clear that intimacy and commitment are reserved for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Hebrews 13:4). The use of terms like "my ###" and the lack of mention of marriage reveal a relationship that has not been established on biblical foundations. We lovingly rebuke any sin of fornication that may have occurred, for the Word warns that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). Repentance and turning away from this sin is the first step toward healing and restoration, whether that be in this relationship or in separate paths moving forward.
We also must emphasize that our access to the Father is only through the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only by His blood that we can approach God’s throne with confidence (Hebrews 4:16). If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Jesus from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). Salvation is the foundation for all true healing and restoration.
Now, let us lift this situation to the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your wisdom, mercy, and healing. Lord, You see the pain and confusion in this situation, and You know the depths of every heart involved. We ask that You would draw near to this man and this woman, comforting them in their distress and revealing to them Your perfect will. Father, we pray for the woman struggling with severe mental illness. You are the Great Physician, and we ask that You would bring healing to her mind, peace to her soul, and clarity to her thoughts. Surround her with godly counsel, professional help, and the support of Your people. Help her to cast all her anxieties on You, for You care for her (1 Peter 5:7).
Lord, we also pray for this man, that You would give him wisdom and discernment as he navigates this season. If this relationship is not in alignment with Your will, give him the strength to let go and trust You with the outcome. If there is a path forward that honors You, reveal it clearly and equip both of them to walk in obedience to Your Word. Father, we ask that You would break any ungodly soul ties that may have formed outside of Your design for marriage. Cleanse their hearts and minds, and restore them to a place of purity and holiness before You.
Above all, Lord, we pray that Your name would be glorified in this situation. Whether You choose to restore this relationship or lead them in separate directions, let Your will be done. May they both grow closer to You through this trial, and may they find their ultimate satisfaction and joy in You alone. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
We encourage you both to seek godly counsel from mature believers who can walk alongside you during this time. The body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and there is no shame in reaching out for help. If this woman’s mental illness is severe, professional Christian counseling or medical intervention may be necessary. Do not neglect the resources God has provided for healing and wholeness.
Remember, beloved, that God’s plans for you are good—plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Even when the path is unclear, He is faithful to lead you if you trust in Him. If this relationship is not meant to be restored, trust that God has something better in store for you both. If it is His will to bring you back together, it will only be in a way that honors Him and aligns with His Word. Until then, focus on drawing near to Him, and He will draw near to you (James 4:8).
