We lift you up in prayer, brother, and we commend you for seeking God’s will in your life and relationships. It is clear that you desire a life that honors Him, and that is a beautiful foundation for all your petitions. We are encouraged to see that you have maintained biblical boundaries in your interactions with women, refusing to compromise even when temptation or emotional connections arose. This is a testament to your commitment to Christ, and we praise God for your faithfulness in this area.
You have mentioned your struggles with high-functioning autism, and we want you to know that your worth is not defined by any diagnosis or the opinions of others. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God, who has a perfect plan for your life. Psalm 139:13-14 reminds us, *"For you formed my inwards parts. You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. My soul knows that very well."* Your uniqueness is not a barrier to God’s blessings but rather a part of His design for your life. He will bring the right woman into your life—a woman who will appreciate you for who you are in Christ, not despite your differences, but as part of the beautiful person God has created you to be.
We also hear your longing for independence, a meaningful career, and a godly marriage. These are good desires, and we encourage you to continue seeking God first in all things. Matthew 6:33 says, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* Trust that He will provide the right opportunities in His timing. Your skills in puppetry are a gift from God, and He can open doors for you to use them in ways that bring both fulfillment and provision. Proverbs 16:3 encourages us, *"Commit your deeds to Yahweh, and your plans shall succeed."*
Now, let us address some important matters. You mentioned interactions with women who were already in relationships, and we commend you for maintaining purity and respecting their commitments. However, we must caution you about the emotional attachments you described. While friendship is good, it is wise to guard your heart and avoid situations where emotional intimacy could lead to temptation or ungodly longing. Proverbs 4:23 warns, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is every issue of life."* Even if your intentions are pure, lingering emotional connections with women who are unavailable can create unnecessary struggles. We encourage you to focus on building friendships with brothers and sisters in Christ who can support you in your walk and potentially introduce you to godly women who are *single* and seeking marriage.
You also expressed concerns about your pickiness when it comes to finding a wife. While it is good to have standards, especially biblical ones, we must be careful not to let unrealistic expectations hinder God’s work in our lives. A godly wife is one who fears the Lord (Proverbs 31:30), and while physical attraction and compatibility are important, they should not overshadow the priority of spiritual unity. 1 Peter 3:3-4 reminds us, *"Let your beauty be not just the outward adorning of braiding the hair, and of wearing jewels of gold, or of putting on fine clothing; but in the hidden person of the heart, in the incorruptible adornment of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God."* Seek a woman who loves Jesus above all else, and trust that God will align your hearts in all other areas.
Regarding your past experiences with women—whether brief connections or deeper friendships—we encourage you to release any lingering attachments or "what ifs" to the Lord. He is the one who orchestrates our steps, and if those relationships were not meant to be, it is because He has something better in store. Trust in His sovereignty, as Proverbs 19:21 tells us, *"There are many plans in a man’s heart, but Yahweh’s counsel will prevail."*
We also notice your mention of an agnostic friend with "Christianity in them." We urge you to pray earnestly for this person’s salvation. Friendship with unbelievers is an opportunity to share the love of Christ, but it is vital to remember that believers are called to marry only those who are in Christ. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* While you can love and pray for this friend, do not entertain the idea of a romantic relationship with someone who does not share your faith. A marriage built on anything other than Christ will face immense struggles.
Finally, we want to address your fear of loss, particularly regarding pets. It is understandable to grieve deeply, but we encourage you to cast your anxieties on the Lord. 1 Peter 5:7 says, *"Casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you."* God is your protector and provider, and He will walk with you through every season of life, including the painful ones. Your past trauma does not have to dictate your future. Trust in His promise from Isaiah 41:10: *"Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness."*
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, lifting his heart’s desires and struggles to Your throne of grace. Lord, You know the deep longings of his heart—for love, for independence, for purpose—and we ask that You meet him in each of these areas according to Your perfect will.
Father, we thank You that he is fearfully and wonderfully made. Remove any lie of the enemy that tells him he is unworthy or unlovable because of his autism. Instead, fill him with the truth of Your Word, that he is Your masterpiece, created for good works (Ephesians 2:10). Give him confidence in who You have made him to be, and let him see himself through Your eyes.
Lord, we pray for provision in his career. Open doors for him to use his gifts in puppetry in ways that bring glory to Your name and provide for his needs. Give him favor with employers and opportunities that align with his abilities and Your calling on his life. Help him to trust in Your timing, knowing that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28).
Father, we lift up his desire for a godly wife. Prepare him to be the husband You have called him to be—a man of integrity, love, and leadership. Prepare the heart of the woman You have for him, a woman who loves You above all else and will walk beside him in faith. Guard his heart from emotional entanglements that are not of You, and give him discernment in his relationships. Let him seek first Your Kingdom, trusting that You will add all these things to him (Matthew 6:33).
We pray for healing from past hurts and traumas, especially the loss of his pet and the cruelty he has faced. Comfort him with Your presence, Lord, and remind him that You are his protector and provider. Replace his fear with faith, knowing that You hold his future in Your hands.
We also lift up his agnostic friend and others who do not yet know You. Soften their hearts to the truth of the Gospel, and give our brother boldness and wisdom to share Your love with them. Raise up godly friends around him who will encourage him in his faith and walk with him toward marriage.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of loneliness, discouragement, or fear in his life. Fill him with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Help him to find his identity and satisfaction in You alone, knowing that You are enough.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord daily through prayer, Scripture, and fellowship with other believers. Surround yourself with a community that will support you, challenge you, and point you to Christ. Keep your heart open to God’s leading, and trust that He is preparing both you and your future spouse for a marriage that glorifies Him.
Stay steadfast in your faith, and remember that God’s timing is perfect. He has not forgotten you, and He will fulfill the desires of your heart as you delight yourself in Him (Psalm 37:4). Keep pressing on, and may the Lord bless you abundantly as you walk with Him.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
