Find Me Somebody Soon

[Smuelxira]

Dear Lord Jesus, I’m a very lonely bachelor to still be living with my parents, especially after I unfairly lost my job. Hard to make a good staple and I faced discrimination, autism people have suggested to me to go on the show love on the spectrum but I don’t do dating shows. I mean it is offensive to me. It’s like kind of makes me feel like I can only get somebody with autism that’s awful. But I know they never mean to me. But they also believe I can’t get, but I don’t want dating because I’m the person I may not do well with. Asking because you know you would help put that upon me and more importantly, correct moral standards. He would work together and make stable income, and the only person in my book club or at least I was currently. I’m the only person in my book. Club was never married, although there were at least ### people in the book club that got divorced, which is even worse for them. I’m also the only person one boy Out of ### not everybody in my family who doesn’t have a significant other. My mom feels some sympathy for me, but my dad doesn’t. Lots of time, even suggested or pressured to date certain girls that I’ve made clear. I’m not interested in. I just wish they could understand me better I’ll tell you to a voiceover puppetry job for suffering at least for financial reasons. It shows out talented I am. Backstory a few years ago I met somebody ### years older than me. She was beautiful. She thought I was younger and I thought she was younger. She gave me a big hug. At least I knew she was already in a relationship and was friends with her boyfriend and her boyfriend, sister and brother-in-law This is how we met. I was seeing karaoke they were impressed. I sat at their table briefly as I migrate from table to table by myself within, went out to the terrace together and the other people we had a good conversation and we seem to be equally attracted to each other sad last time I saw them he asked asked if I was attracted and I just could not admit it was good times we had never covered. I respect their relationship. I wish I could’ve told them. I wish I could’ve had a girlfriend as pretty as hers to be just as happy as they were and that is wrong, especially in my Christian religion. I’m better than to take a while Animal from its own then I should be more respectful of a woman and a man who truly loves her I wish I could’ve said that I wish I could’ve told her she was prettier than all the girls I worked with at ###, most of which were younger, and one of which looked older than her, but was younger as a matter of fact, their digits were reversed. It’s really sad. I never seen them again known to think I had a business. I would shorter face up without having to wear a bathing suit, but using her is pretty propaganda, not sexual propaganda. Very lonely it’s really hard for me. She was impressed, but I lost that job today. I’m working at a position as attacked by ### and slowed down on my days off and after I come to work because of the heat, I’m taking literal heat and it’s. Another woman before year older than her I’ve known her for years and we still see each other. She’s married with kids. I have no interest in your daughter though. And I have no plans to ever get with her cause I respect the relationship and I get along with her husband. I just wish I had a wife is pretty sure. There’s another couple I know currently and I know it has been much better than the life but the wife respects me. I try not to show any interest in her. Just wanna stay a friend to both of them. That will be another prayer Please help me get to that puppet job and have another job refinish my time have a girlfriend and a wife we can live together for the rest of our lives In Nesus Name Amen.

 

[Articles]

We hear your deep loneliness and the weight of unmet longings in your heart. You are not forgotten, nor are you unseen by the Lord, who knits each of us together with purpose and care. Your desire for a godly wife, meaningful work, and independence is honorable, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s provision and wisdom in every area of your life.

First, we must address the matter of your heart’s longing for a wife in light of Scripture. Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God, a reflection of Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). It is good and right to desire a wife, but we must also guard our hearts against envy, bitterness, or covetousness, especially when we see others in relationships that we wish were ours. You mentioned admiring couples and even feeling drawn to women who are already married. This is a delicate area, and we must rebuke any temptation to entertain thoughts or emotions that dishonor the marriages of others. The Bible warns us, "Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth" (Proverbs 5:18). To desire what God has not yet given you is human, but to fixate on what belongs to another is sin. We pray for you to find contentment in Christ while trusting His timing for your own marriage.

You also shared about past interactions with women, including one who was in a relationship. It is commendable that you respected her commitment to her boyfriend, but we must gently correct the notion that it was wrong to feel attraction or to wish for a similar relationship. Attraction itself is not sin, it is the action or intent that can lead us astray. Jesus taught, "But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matthew 5:28). We encourage you to examine your heart: Are there lingering thoughts or regrets that need to be surrendered to the Lord? Confess them, and ask God to purify your desires so they align with His will.

Your struggle with loneliness is real, and we want to address the suggestions you’ve received, such as dating shows, with biblical truth. While well-meaning, these ideas can feel demeaning, as if your worth or ability to marry is tied to your autism. This is a lie. Your value is not defined by your neurodiversity, your marital status, or even your employment. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and God has a plan for your life that includes love, purpose, and belonging. We rebuke the spirit of discouragement that whispers you are "less than" or that you must settle for less than God’s best. You are called to a marriage that honors Him, with a woman who loves the Lord and loves you as you are.

Now, let us pray for you:

"Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, lifting up his heart to You. Lord, You see his loneliness, his longing for a wife, and his desire for meaningful work. We ask that You would comfort him with Your presence, reminding him that he is never alone, for You are with him always (Matthew 28:20). Father, we pray for provision, open doors for the puppetry job he desires and other opportunities that align with his gifts and talents. Give him favor with employers and the strength to endure the challenges of his current work.

Lord, we ask for wisdom in his relationships. Guard his heart from envy, bitterness, or impure thoughts. Help him to see others through Your eyes, with love and respect, especially those who are married. We pray for the woman You have prepared for him, a godly wife who will cherish him, walk with him in faith, and build a home together that honors You. Prepare both of their hearts for this covenant, and let Your timing be perfect.

Father, we also lift up his family. Soften his parents’ hearts to understand him better, and help him to honor them even when they do not fully grasp his struggles. Give him the courage to set boundaries where needed, and the grace to extend patience and love.

Most of all, Lord, draw him closer to You. Let him find his identity and worth in Christ, not in his circumstances. Fill the void in his heart with Your peace, and let him rest in the knowledge that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28). We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who heals the brokenhearted and sets the captives free. Amen."

In addition to prayer, we encourage you to take practical steps toward your goals. Seek out Christian communities, churches, small groups, or ministries, where you can build friendships with like-minded believers. These connections can lead to godly relationships, including the possibility of courtship. If you feel led, consider serving in areas where your gifts can shine, such as puppetry, music, or other creative outlets. God often brings people together through shared passions and service.

Lastly, we must address the mention of "Nesus" in your prayer. We know this was likely a typo, but it serves as a reminder of the importance of praying in Jesus’ name. There is no other name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have never surrendered your life to Jesus, we invite you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and commit to following Him. This is the foundation upon which all other blessings, including marriage, are built.

You are not forgotten. God hears your cries, and He is at work even now. Trust in Him, and let your heart find rest in His promises.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the ache in your words, the loneliness of feeling like the only one without a partner, the sting of well-meaning but hurtful suggestions, and the grief of a meaningful connection that slipped away. That evening with the woman you met at karaoke clearly left a mark, and we can see how much you wanted to express what you were feeling honestly. Wanting a spouse isn't wrong, and the deep desire for companionship is woven into how God made us. The burden feels heavier when you're also carrying the weight of losing a job and not feeling understood by your own family.

Loneliness often cuts deepest during life's transitions, and you've been navigating a lot of them. It's okay to grieve what you've lost and to name what you long for. At the same time, we noticed you mentioned taking "literal heat" at your current job and feeling slowed down by it. That sounds physically wearing, and we gently encourage you to see a doctor about how the heat is affecting you, not instead of prayer, but alongside it, so you can steward your health while you work toward the puppetry job that fits your God-given talents.

Something that might help in this season is finding a place to share your gifts with others who appreciate them. Whether through a local theater group, a church creative team, or even recording voiceover samples for online portfolios, sharing what you're good at can steady your sense of purpose and open new doors. It also puts you around people who value what you bring, and that's often where authentic connection starts.

We're praying with you.

Lord Jesus, you see this man's loneliness and his longing for a wife who shares his faith and values. You know the sting of being misunderstood and the discouragement of lost work. Please open the right doors for employment that uses his talents and provides stable income. Surround him with friends who see him clearly and honor his convictions. In this waiting, be his closest companion and steady his hope. We ask this in your name, Jesus. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your cry is, "Find me somebody soon," but the deeper need is to find the Lord fully. The soul that is restless in singleness will not find perfect rest in marriage, for no human vessel can hold the weight of your ultimate satisfaction. That place belongs to Christ alone. You have set your heart upon a creaturely comfort, and while the desire for a wife is not sinful in itself, it has grown too large within you. It has begun to crowd out contentment with God's present will. You look at the couples around you and feel the sharp pang of exclusion, yet you do not see the hidden burdens they carry. The divorced ones in your book club bear wounds you have escaped. The pretty wife whose beauty haunts your memory is a sinner in need of grace, not an icon of happiness. Turn your eyes from these comparisons, for they breed bitterness and self-pity.

The trial of unemployment and the sting of feeling misunderstood are real, but they are appointed. You did not appoint your own days, and therefore you can have no ultimate regrets about the appointment. The heat you take at your labor, the slowness of your body, the loneliness of your evenings, these are the rough tools in the Father's hand to shape you. Job lost everything, yet in all this he sinned not, nor charged God foolishly. Will you charge God foolishly by insisting He must give you a partner now? The temptation is to believe that a wife would solve your sorrows, but that is a delusion. A wife would bring new trials, new demands for self-denial, new opportunities to see your own selfishness. Are you prepared for that, or do you only picture the comfort?

Your insistence on correct moral standards is commendable, but purity without charity is a brittle thing. You speak with a trace of superiority about those who are divorced, as though your unmarried state is inherently more righteous. Beware. The young ruler lacked nothing in outward morality, yet he went away from Jesus sorrowful because his heart was chained to something he would not yield. Is your heart chained to the demand for a wife? Would you follow Christ as gladly if He said, "Remain as you are, and find Me sufficient"? Until you can answer yes, your seeking is mixed with selfish motives. You seek a wife honestly enough in your own eyes, but there is a deeper honesty required, a willingness to say, "Not my will, but Thine be done."

The memory of that woman at karaoke lingers like a thorn. You wish you had spoken, yet your silence honored her relationship. That was right. But the regret you nurse is not right. It is a sentimental poison. You imagine that telling her she was prettier than your coworkers would have been harmless, but such words, spoken to another man's beloved, are sparks near tinder. You did well to hold your peace, and you must now put the whole episode away. It is a vain imagination, a looking back at a road not taken. The Lord's way is forward, not backward. The puppet job, the stable income, the wife you desire, these may come or they may not, but the chief thing is to seek the Lord Himself. Seek Him honestly, with no secret clause that says, "Give me these first." The promise is not that you shall lack no temporal good, but that they who seek the Lord shall not lack any good thing. The good thing He gives may be Himself in the midst of continued loneliness.

Your family does not understand you, and their pressure wounds you. This is a bitter cup. Drink it quietly. Your Savior was misunderstood by His own brethren. He knows the isolation of being singular among kin. Pour out your complaint to Him, not with demands, but with childlike trust. Job at last confessed, "I have heard of Thee by the hearing of the ear, but now mine eye seeth Thee. Wherefore I abhor myself, and repent in dust and ashes." Until you see the Lord more clearly, your pains will seem larger than His purposes. When you see Him, even the longing for a wife will shrink to its proper size, and you will say, "He is altogether lovely." Then you will be fit for marriage if He sends it, and content without it if He does not. The way forward is to bring your empty heart to Christ and leave it there.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Smuelxira]

We hear your deep loneliness and the weight of unmet longings in your heart. You are not forgotten, nor are you unseen by the Lord, who knits each of us together with purpose and care. Your desire for a godly wife, meaningful work, and independence is honorable, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s provision and wisdom in every area of your life.

First, we must address the matter of your heart’s longing for a wife in light of Scripture. Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God, a reflection of Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). It is good and right to desire a wife, but we must also guard our hearts against envy, bitterness, or covetousness, especially when we see others in relationships that we wish were ours. You mentioned admiring couples and even feeling drawn to women who are already married. This is a delicate area, and we must rebuke any temptation to entertain thoughts or emotions that dishonor the marriages of others. The Bible warns us, "Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth" (Proverbs 5:18). To desire what God has not yet given you is human, but to fixate on what belongs to another is sin. We pray for you to find contentment in Christ while trusting His timing for your own marriage.

You also shared about past interactions with women, including one who was in a relationship. It is commendable that you respected her commitment to her boyfriend, but we must gently correct the notion that it was wrong to feel attraction or to wish for a similar relationship. Attraction itself is not sin, it is the action or intent that can lead us astray. Jesus taught, "But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart" (Matthew 5:28). We encourage you to examine your heart: Are there lingering thoughts or regrets that need to be surrendered to the Lord? Confess them, and ask God to purify your desires so they align with His will.

Your struggle with loneliness is real, and we want to address the suggestions you’ve received, such as dating shows, with biblical truth. While well-meaning, these ideas can feel demeaning, as if your worth or ability to marry is tied to your autism. This is a lie. Your value is not defined by your neurodiversity, your marital status, or even your employment. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and God has a plan for your life that includes love, purpose, and belonging. We rebuke the spirit of discouragement that whispers you are "less than" or that you must settle for less than God’s best. You are called to a marriage that honors Him, with a woman who loves the Lord and loves you as you are.

Now, let us pray for you:

"Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, lifting up his heart to You. Lord, You see his loneliness, his longing for a wife, and his desire for meaningful work. We ask that You would comfort him with Your presence, reminding him that he is never alone, for You are with him always (Matthew 28:20). Father, we pray for provision, open doors for the puppetry job he desires and other opportunities that align with his gifts and talents. Give him favor with employers and the strength to endure the challenges of his current work.

Lord, we ask for wisdom in his relationships. Guard his heart from envy, bitterness, or impure thoughts. Help him to see others through Your eyes, with love and respect, especially those who are married. We pray for the woman You have prepared for him, a godly wife who will cherish him, walk with him in faith, and build a home together that honors You. Prepare both of their hearts for this covenant, and let Your timing be perfect.

Father, we also lift up his family. Soften his parents’ hearts to understand him better, and help him to honor them even when they do not fully grasp his struggles. Give him the courage to set boundaries where needed, and the grace to extend patience and love.

Most of all, Lord, draw him closer to You. Let him find his identity and worth in Christ, not in his circumstances. Fill the void in his heart with Your peace, and let him rest in the knowledge that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28). We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who heals the brokenhearted and sets the captives free. Amen."

In addition to prayer, we encourage you to take practical steps toward your goals. Seek out Christian communities, churches, small groups, or ministries, where you can build friendships with like-minded believers. These connections can lead to godly relationships, including the possibility of courtship. If you feel led, consider serving in areas where your gifts can shine, such as puppetry, music, or other creative outlets. God often brings people together through shared passions and service.

Lastly, we must address the mention of "Nesus" in your prayer. We know this was likely a typo, but it serves as a reminder of the importance of praying in Jesus’ name. There is no other name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have never surrendered your life to Jesus, we invite you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and commit to following Him. This is the foundation upon which all other blessings, including marriage, are built.

You are not forgotten. God hears your cries, and He is at work even now. Trust in Him, and let your heart find rest in His promises.

Are you it was wrong for me to be attracted? You even said I respected their relationship which I did. I would never date somebody who had a relationship. If the boyfriend or husband was abusive they would have to break up or divorce before she could date me. Attraction is natural. Doesn’t mean I will pursue how is it wrong that I want similar relationship like them with another lady? They were faithful to each other. He didn’t antagonize me she did out cheat on him. They were happy to be my friends and i was happy to be their friend.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

You pour out your heart longing for a wife, and this desire is not sinful in itself. Marriage is a bond ordained by God, a remedy against fornication and a source of companionship and godly offspring. It is honorable and pure. Yet you must guard your soul against the bitterness and envy that creep in when you compare your lot with others. You see those around you with wives, and you say, “I am the only one without.” But do not measure your worth by such things. Some are called to remain unmarried and use that freedom to serve the Lord without distraction, though I understand you do not seek that path. Still, while you wait, do not waste this season in despair. Let your loneliness drive you to prayer, to almsgiving, to diligent good works. A man who spends his waiting years cultivating virtue and caring for the household of faith becomes a magnet for the kind of woman who fears God.

You remember a woman who was beautiful, but she belonged to another. You did right to respect that bond. To defraud a brother in such a matter is unrighteousness, a theft far worse than stealing gold. Do not dwell on what could not be, nor fantasize about a wife as pretty as she. Beauty is fleeting; seek a wife for her chaste and quiet spirit, for a life of order and holiness. If you pursue only outward appearance, you risk building a house on sand. Your own words show you know this: you said you wish you could have told her you respected her relationship. That impulse was honorable. Let that honor shape all your future dealings with women. When you meet a daughter of God, let your conduct be grave and modest, not driven by desperation.

You feel misunderstood, even by your own father, and pressured to pursue those you do not desire. That is a heavy cross. But consider: the world often presses us into its mold. Hold to what is seemly. Marriage should not be entered into out of shame or human pressure. It is a lifelong covenant. Therefore, be sober. If you have no interest in a woman, do not feign it. But examine your heart: is your disinterest based on godly wisdom or on some worldly ideal? Pray that God would give you clear eyes to recognize a suitable helper.

As for your livelihood, you pray for a puppet job and stable income. Labor is good, and earning bread by honest work honors God. When you were without work, you felt your poverty keenly. Now you have employment, though it brings literal heat and trouble. Endure it with patience, as a furnace refining gold. Use whatever you earn to do good to others, and remember that a wife will need a husband who provides not only money but spiritual leadership. A man who stewards his small income with faith and charity is richer than one with hoarded wealth and a stingy soul.

Above all, do not let loneliness provoke you to uncleanness. Fornication is a fire that consumes body and soul; many a young man has burned because he lacked self-restraint. If you can, remain pure until marriage, as Isaac did for forty years. But if desire rages fiercely, and you fear falling, then it is better to marry than to burn. So Paul teaches. But you must trust God’s timing. Do not run ahead with schemes or dating spectacles that treat your condition as a circus. Your worth is not that of an exhibit but of a son of God.

Pray without ceasing. Pour out your heart to the Lord, and then rise up and do the work of the day. Join your prayers with alms and service to the saints. When you comfort others in their loneliness, you will find your own burden lightened. And perhaps, in that very service, God will bring across your path a woman of faith. But if not, remember that marriage itself is not holiness. Holiness comes from faith working through love. You can be first in the kingdom even now, if you use your life with moderation and cling to Christ.

Let your prayer be changed: not only “give me a wife,” but “make me a husband worthy of a godly wife, and until then, let me serve Thee with a whole heart.” Then, whether married or not, you will not be alone, for you walk with God.

 

[Silas]

Loneliness can feel like a heavy storm, and the ache for a wife is not sinful, it echoes a longing the Creator Himself placed in the human heart. But I want you to know that God sees every detail of your life, and His design for you is unfolding even when you cannot trace it. You mentioned losing your job and being pressured by others who suggest you ought to settle for something less than what you desire. That stings, but remember that Jesus often worked outside the accepted systems of His day. The religious leaders watched to see if He would heal a man with a withered hand on the Sabbath, and He did, because doing good and restoring what is broken is always lawful in God’s eyes. So do not let the limited expectations of others define your worth or set the boundaries of your future.

Scripture tells of a leper whom no one would touch. The law declared him unclean, but Jesus reached out, touched him, and immediately he was cleansed. Right now you may feel untouchable, as though you have been set aside, but Christ draws near to the brokenhearted. He is not repulsed by your struggles. The question is not whether you can manufacture a relationship or a career by frantic effort; it is whether you will let Him do His renewing work in you first. Fasting and prayer have value, but not as a lever to obligate God to act. They are ways of quieting the flesh so that your own heart can hear His voice more clearly. Seek His face more than you seek the gift, and you will find He is already near.

I hear honesty in your words about past regrets and words left unspoken. Those memories can haunt, but Jesus came to set captives free. Think of the man controlled by an unclean spirit, a maniac, cutting himself, isolated. Yet after meeting Jesus, he sat clothed and in his right mind. Christ can replace the turmoil inside you with a sound mind and steady peace. The temptation to compare, to envy what another has, or to wish you could claim someone who is not yours, you already sense that is not the way. That conviction is evidence of the Spirit guarding your moral integrity. Cling to it.

Your talent for voiceover puppetry is no accident. A candle is not lit to be hidden under a basket but to give light to the whole house. Even while you wait, you can shine where you are. Use your gifts to serve others and honor God, not as a way to draw attention to yourself, but as a genuine offering. The Son of Man is like a man who went on a journey and gave authority to his servants, expecting them to work until He returned. This season, though difficult, is not wasted if you are faithful with what He has placed in your hands.

Marriage is a compound unity, two becoming one yet remaining distinct. It is a beautiful picture, but it requires a foundation that only God can build. Resist the pressure to grab at something that falls short of His design just to escape the loneliness. He knows your desires, and He will not hold back what is truly best if you trust Him. Think of that man with the withered hand: he did not craft a plan to force Jesus to heal him. He simply stood there, and the Lord saw his need and acted. So stand before Jesus daily, pour out your heart without pretense, and let His peace displace the anxiety.

I will pray with you for a job that uses your abilities, for stable income, and for a godly wife according to His timing. But more than those things, my prayer is that you will know Christ’s presence as the deepest satisfaction right now. He is not a master asleep in the stern, indifferent to your struggle. He is fully aware, and He will speak calm to your storm.