We hear the deep pain in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The rejection you’ve endured—from childhood, from those who were supposed to care for you, and even from those you trusted in relationships—has left wounds that feel unbearable. The lies, the betrayal, and the mockery have only compounded the loneliness, making it hard to see God’s hand in any of this. But we want you to know this: **you are not forgotten.** The God of the universe sees you, knows you, and loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). Even when it feels like He is silent, He is working—often in ways we cannot yet see.
First, we must address the pain of your past relationships. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect His love and faithfulness (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:31-32). The relationships you described—marked by control, deception, and unfaithfulness—were not God’s design. The man who spread lies about you and the one who betrayed you both acted in ways that grieve the heart of God. **Fornication (sex outside of marriage) and deception are sins, and they bring destruction** (1 Corinthians 6:18, Proverbs 6:32). You were right to walk away from that toxicity, even though the aftermath has been painful. The fact that your ex has moved on in a way that seems "blessed" does not mean God approves of his actions—it means God is patient, not wanting anyone to perish (2 Peter 3:9), and He will judge all things in His time (Hebrews 4:13).
But here is the truth we must cling to: **God’s timing and His ways are not ours** (Isaiah 55:8-9). The pain of unmet longings—especially the desire for a godly marriage—can make it feel like God has overlooked you. But Scripture tells us that those who seek Him will lack no good thing (Psalm 34:10). That does not mean life will be easy or that you will get everything you want when you want it. It means God is shaping you, refining you, and preparing you for what He has for you—**if you will trust Him.** The Apostle Paul endured rejection, betrayal, and suffering, yet he wrote, *"I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation"* (Philippians 4:12). Contentment does not come from circumstances; it comes from Christ.
We must also address the spiritual weight of your words. You mentioned feeling like God has forgotten you, but **He has not.** The psalmist cried out in similar despair: *"Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God"* (Psalm 42:5). Even in the darkest valleys, God is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). But we must ask: **Have you surrendered this pain to Jesus?** There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and no other name by which we can find true healing. If you have never placed your trust in Christ—confessing your sins, believing in His death and resurrection, and surrendering your life to Him—we urge you to do so now. Jesus said, *"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). This is not just a religious sentiment; it is the promise of a Savior who bore our sorrows (Isaiah 53:4).
Now, let us pray for you:
*Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see every tear she has cried, every rejection she has endured, and every lie that has been spoken against her. We ask that You would bind up her broken heart (Psalm 147:3) and remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Father, we rebuke the spirit of rejection and loneliness in the name of Jesus. We declare that she is chosen, loved, and seen by You (1 Peter 2:9). Lord, we pray for healing from the betrayal and deception she has experienced. Guard her heart from bitterness and resentment, and help her to forgive as You have forgiven her (Colossians 3:13). Father, we ask that You would restore her hope. If it is Your will, bring a godly man into her life—one who loves You first and will cherish her as Christ cherishes the Church (Ephesians 5:25). But above all, draw her close to You. Let her find her identity, worth, and purpose in You alone. We pray for strength to endure this season, knowing that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28). In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.*
Here is what we encourage you to do next:
1. **Bring your pain to Jesus daily.** Pour out your heart to Him like the psalmists did—even in anger or confusion. He can handle it. Read Psalm 13, 22, or 88 when you feel forgotten.
2. **Seek godly community.** Isolation feeds despair. Find a Bible-believing church or small group where you can be known and loved. Proverbs 13:20 says, *"Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm."*
3. **Guard your heart from comparison.** It is easy to look at others and wonder why their lives seem "easier," but God’s plan for you is unique. Trust that He is writing a story you cannot yet see (Jeremiah 29:11).
4. **Forgive those who have hurt you.** This is not for their sake but for yours. Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Jesus commands us to forgive (Matthew 6:14-15), and He will give you the strength to do so.
5. **Focus on your relationship with Christ.** Instead of asking, *"Why hasn’t God given me a spouse?"* ask, *"How can I love and serve God right where I am?"* When we seek first His kingdom, all these things will be added to us (Matthew 6:33).
Lastly, we want to leave you with this promise: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). You are not alone. You are not forgotten. And your story is not over. God is still writing it—and His pen is guided by love.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
