I was in a abusive in relationship for years and today I finally told me abuser. I dont fear him!. Its been years of holding things in, adapting to the abuse because it was normal. I found ways to cope with it. I haven't had a drink in years, I decided to quit for good when my brother passed. I started fasting and finding my way to my Lord. Today, I was able to tell my husband I dont fear him anymore. I only fear God. I dont know where them words came from but it felt good. God, im not perfect but my journey has been a blessing getting to know you. I always had you in me and im never letting you go. Thank you, In Jesus name we pray. AMEN!
Fear
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We rejoice with you in the courage and strength the Lord has given you to speak truth to your abuser—your husband—and to declare your freedom from fear. The journey you’ve walked has been heavy, but your words today reveal a heart turning toward God’s light, and that is cause for celebration. The Bible tells us, *"For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7). What you described is not just bravery; it is the Holy Spirit at work within you, breaking chains that have bound you for too long.
Your decision to turn away from alcohol and draw nearer to the Lord through fasting and prayer is a testament to His transforming power. The loss of your brother must have been unimaginably painful, but even in grief, you chose life—His life—over temporary escapes. We see the hand of God in that choice. *"Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you"* (James 4:8). He has been drawing you closer, and today, you took a bold step in response.
However, we must address the reality of your marriage with clarity and love. The abuse you endured is a grave violation of God’s design for marriage. Scripture is clear: *"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her"* (Ephesians 5:25). Love does not harm, control, or demean. Your husband’s actions were sinful, and they must be confronted—not just by you, but by the body of Christ. We urge you to seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian counselor who can help you navigate this with wisdom and safety. You are not called to endure abuse in the name of marriage. *"The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble"* (Psalm 9:9), and He sees your pain.
Your declaration that you only fear God is powerful, for *"the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom"* (Proverbs 9:10). But we must also remind you that fearing God means walking in His ways, which includes honoring the sanctity of marriage while also protecting the sacredness of your own life and dignity. If your husband is unwilling to repent, seek help, and change, you may need to consider what it looks like to live in a way that honors God’s call to peace and safety. This is not a decision to make alone—lean on your church family and those who can walk with you.
Your journey of faith is inspiring, and we see the Lord’s hand guiding you. But we must also gently challenge you: have you fully surrendered this marriage to God? Have you sought accountability and support from other believers? The enemy would love to isolate you, to make you feel as though you must carry this burden alone. But Scripture says, *"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ"* (Galatians 6:2). You do not have to walk this path by yourself.
Let us pray with you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts full of gratitude for the work You are doing in this sister’s life. Thank You for giving her the strength to speak truth, to break free from fear, and to draw near to You. Lord, we ask that You continue to surround her with Your peace and protection. Give her wisdom as she navigates the complexities of her marriage, and lead her to godly counsel and support. Father, we pray for her husband—that if he is truly a believer, You would convict his heart of his sin and lead him to repentance. If he is unrepentant, we ask that You would intervene in ways that bring safety and clarity to her situation.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear that has lingered in her life for too long. We declare that she is free in Christ, and we ask that You fill her with Your power, love, and self-control. Help her to stand firm in her identity as Your beloved child, and give her the courage to make decisions that honor You. Father, we also pray for healing—emotional, spiritual, and physical. Mend the wounds that abuse has left, and restore what has been broken.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, for there is no other name by which we can be saved or set free. Thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness. Amen.
You are not alone in this. The Lord sees you, He hears you, and He is fighting for you. Keep pressing into Him, and do not hesitate to reach out to those who can walk alongside you. Your story is not over—God is writing a new chapter, and it is one of freedom, healing, and hope. *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). You are seen, you are loved, and you are held by the One who will never let you go.
Your decision to turn away from alcohol and draw nearer to the Lord through fasting and prayer is a testament to His transforming power. The loss of your brother must have been unimaginably painful, but even in grief, you chose life—His life—over temporary escapes. We see the hand of God in that choice. *"Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you"* (James 4:8). He has been drawing you closer, and today, you took a bold step in response.
However, we must address the reality of your marriage with clarity and love. The abuse you endured is a grave violation of God’s design for marriage. Scripture is clear: *"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her"* (Ephesians 5:25). Love does not harm, control, or demean. Your husband’s actions were sinful, and they must be confronted—not just by you, but by the body of Christ. We urge you to seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian counselor who can help you navigate this with wisdom and safety. You are not called to endure abuse in the name of marriage. *"The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble"* (Psalm 9:9), and He sees your pain.
Your declaration that you only fear God is powerful, for *"the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom"* (Proverbs 9:10). But we must also remind you that fearing God means walking in His ways, which includes honoring the sanctity of marriage while also protecting the sacredness of your own life and dignity. If your husband is unwilling to repent, seek help, and change, you may need to consider what it looks like to live in a way that honors God’s call to peace and safety. This is not a decision to make alone—lean on your church family and those who can walk with you.
Your journey of faith is inspiring, and we see the Lord’s hand guiding you. But we must also gently challenge you: have you fully surrendered this marriage to God? Have you sought accountability and support from other believers? The enemy would love to isolate you, to make you feel as though you must carry this burden alone. But Scripture says, *"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ"* (Galatians 6:2). You do not have to walk this path by yourself.
Let us pray with you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts full of gratitude for the work You are doing in this sister’s life. Thank You for giving her the strength to speak truth, to break free from fear, and to draw near to You. Lord, we ask that You continue to surround her with Your peace and protection. Give her wisdom as she navigates the complexities of her marriage, and lead her to godly counsel and support. Father, we pray for her husband—that if he is truly a believer, You would convict his heart of his sin and lead him to repentance. If he is unrepentant, we ask that You would intervene in ways that bring safety and clarity to her situation.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear that has lingered in her life for too long. We declare that she is free in Christ, and we ask that You fill her with Your power, love, and self-control. Help her to stand firm in her identity as Your beloved child, and give her the courage to make decisions that honor You. Father, we also pray for healing—emotional, spiritual, and physical. Mend the wounds that abuse has left, and restore what has been broken.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, for there is no other name by which we can be saved or set free. Thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness. Amen.
You are not alone in this. The Lord sees you, He hears you, and He is fighting for you. Keep pressing into Him, and do not hesitate to reach out to those who can walk alongside you. Your story is not over—God is writing a new chapter, and it is one of freedom, healing, and hope. *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). You are seen, you are loved, and you are held by the One who will never let you go.
We're so proud of you for taking that big step today! It's amazing how God has been working in your life, and we're here to celebrate that with you. We love how you've found your strength in Him, turning to Him in fasting and prayer, and even quitting alcohol to draw closer to Him. That's a powerful testimony of His transforming power in your life.
We want to echo what was said earlier, but we also want to encourage you to keep leaning into God's love and grace. Remember, it's okay to ask for help and support. You don't have to carry this burden alone. In fact, God calls us to bear one another's burdens (Galatians 6:2). So, please, reach out to your church family, trusted friends, or a Christian counselor. They're there to support you, just as we're here to pray for you.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father, we thank You for this sister's courage and strength. We ask that You continue to fill her with Your power, love, and self-control. Help her to stand firm in her identity as Your beloved child and guide her in making decisions that honor You. Lord, we also pray for her husband. If he's truly a believer, convict his heart of his sin and lead him to repentance. If he's unrepentant, we ask that You would intervene for her safety and clarity. Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear and declare her free in Christ. Mend her wounds, restore what's been broken, and fill her with hope and healing. In Jesus' mighty name, we pray. Amen.
We want to echo what was said earlier, but we also want to encourage you to keep leaning into God's love and grace. Remember, it's okay to ask for help and support. You don't have to carry this burden alone. In fact, God calls us to bear one another's burdens (Galatians 6:2). So, please, reach out to your church family, trusted friends, or a Christian counselor. They're there to support you, just as we're here to pray for you.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father, we thank You for this sister's courage and strength. We ask that You continue to fill her with Your power, love, and self-control. Help her to stand firm in her identity as Your beloved child and guide her in making decisions that honor You. Lord, we also pray for her husband. If he's truly a believer, convict his heart of his sin and lead him to repentance. If he's unrepentant, we ask that You would intervene for her safety and clarity. Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear and declare her free in Christ. Mend her wounds, restore what's been broken, and fill her with hope and healing. In Jesus' mighty name, we pray. Amen.
Amen, thank you. Will do
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