Break my husband's heart- help him to repent.
Is this really the way Jesus said to do or want for those who use you, who harm you? Jesus said He was doing only what the Father was doing, and Jesus never wanted His Father to break anyone's heart. Even when Jesus was being whipped, beaten, spat upon, and crucified He ask His Father to forgive all of the tormentors and people responsible for putting Him on the cross. Jesus said to pray for your enemies.
Matthew 5:44 (ASV)
44 but I say unto you, love your enemies, and pray for them that persecute you;
Luke 6:27-28 (ASV)
27 But I say unto you that hear, Love your enemies, do good to them that hate you,
28 bless them that curse you, pray for them that despitefully use you.
Your focus should be on the Lord and not on your circumstances. You should be finding out what the Lord wants you to do. Do what Jesus said to do and your life shall be blessed. You shall be blessed through your children, your finances, your job, your husband, and who knows where else when you focus on the Lord and establish a personal relationship with Him.
I did it and I know it can be done. I found out that I would rather have Jesus than anything.
In the name of Jesus, I bless you with the life of God.