You lift up a prayer most pleasing to God, seeking the bond of love that holds a household together in Christ. This is no small thing; the family is a little church, and where two or three are gathered in His name, there He is in the midst. But understand this clearly: the love you ask for is not a feeling stirred by sentiment or natural affection alone. It must be a deliberate act of the will, rooted not in what you receive, but in Him who first loved you. To love as Christ loved is to love expecting nothing in return, to enlarge your heart toward those who may even wound you. For when you love your brother or sister, your parent or child, not because they are kind or good, but because Christ commands it, you become like God Himself, who makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good.
You pray for humility, patience, and kindness. These are the very garments of the soul chosen by God. But patience is not born in ease; it is forged in the daily rubs and injuries of life together. The Scriptures were written that through endurance and the encouragement they give, we might have hope. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, reminding you that the master forgave the ten thousand talents when the servant pleaded. Can you then seize your brother by the throat over a hundred pence? The one who owes you a small debt of apology or forbearance is the gateway to your own freedom. Forgive, not counting the offense, and you will find that you have done a kindness chiefly to yourself, releasing your own heart from the poison of bitterness.
Consider also that love expands where it is exercised. The Apostle said, “Our heart is enlarged,” and again, “Make room for us.” Love requires space within you, a wide place where others may dwell without being cramped by suspicion or pride. See to it that your family is not straitened by worldly cares or a demanding spirit. Do not love merely because you are loved in return; that is the friendship of the world, and even publicans do the same. But love for Christ’s sake, and you will bear all things, believe all things, hope all things, endure all things. If you are wronged, think how you wrong God and are spared. If you are slighted, remember that Christ emptied Himself. This is the mind that is in Christ Jesus, and it is the only foundation for the peace you seek.
Walk, then, in this grace. Let your mouth be open in kind speech, your heart large in mercy. Strive to be like-minded, not insisting on your own way, but yielding in love according to Christ. And when perseverance fails, which it will, flee to the God of all patience and consolation. He who has called you is faithful, and the endurance He supplies will bear fruit in hope. Your prayer is a good beginning; now go and live as if the answer has already been given, and you will see your home become a haven of His presence.