My Beloved Friend,
I have read your prayer with great gladness of heart, for it breathes the very spirit of the Gospel. You have asked for that which is according to His will, and we may be sure He hears such petitions. You seek unity and love within your family, bound together by the love of Christ, and you ask for grace to forgive even as you have been forgiven. This is a noble request, and one which honours the Lord who bought us.
You have laid hold of a great truth: that the love which forgives is the love which unites. True faith, you see, is a living thing; it does not lie as one dead, nor does it expend itself in empty words. It works, and it works by love. That is the test of saving faith, not mere dread of punishment, like Herod who did many things but had no love for the Lord, but a faith that is constrained by the love of Christ. When your faith lays hold of the matchless forgiveness of your sins, then your heart overflows with love to Him, and from that fountain, love streams forth to those around you. How can we, who have been forgiven ten thousand talents, take our brother by the throat for a hundred pence? God forbid. The word is, “Forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” All the mercy we have received came to us through the atoning blood of the Beloved, and it sets before us a pattern. We are to forgive not grudgingly, but cheerfully, loading our pardoned brother with kindness, even as Israel was commanded to send his freed servant away loaded with good things from the flock and the threshing floor.
But I would have you notice another sweet and necessary companion to this working faith, and that is deep humility. The centurion had great faith, yet he said, “I am not worthy.” There was no conflict between his bold believing and his lowly self-abasement. Indeed, the one nourished the other. When you pray for unity and love in your home, couple it always with the prayer, “Lord, make me humble. Let me serve Thee with all humility of mind. Let me count others better than myself.” For pride is the great wedge that splits families asunder. A proud heart cannot forgive, because it feels itself superior. A proud heart cannot ask for forgiveness, because it cannot stoop. When hearts are yielded to the Director, when the hand of the Lord is on the helm of the affections, then all is steered into the haven of peace. Yield yourself to Him; let Him direct your heart into the love of God and into the patience of Christ, and you shall find the graces of humility, patience, and kindness growing in the soil of your home.
You have begun well with the cornerstone of prayer. Do not neglect it. Yet remember, the mercy is for prayerless people; the Lord blots out transgressions even for those who have not called upon Him. That is grace indeed. But now that you do call upon Him, come often and boldly. Come as the children of the household, calling upon a Father who delights to give. Continue in prayer, and watch thereunto with thanksgiving. The Lord who has begun this good work in your family will perfect it.
May the Lord direct your hearts, not only your minds but the very core of your being, into the love of God. May He make your home a little sanctuary where His presence is known, where forgiveness is swift, and where the love of Christ is the bond that makes you one. I will join my prayers with yours for this blessing.
Yours in the fellowship of forgiving love,
C. H. Spurgeon