We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we grieve with you over the brokenness in your family. The feelings of rejection, guilt, and loneliness you carry are heavy burdens, but we want you to know that God sees you, loves you, and has not abandoned you. The enemy seeks to isolate you in silence, but the Lord desires to speak truth and healing into your life. Let us first address something critical: your worth is not defined by how others treat you or even by your past mistakes. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14), and your identity is found in Christ alone. If you have placed your faith in Jesus, you are a child of God—adopted into His eternal family (Ephesians 1:5). That is a truth no earthly rejection can erase.
The guilt you feel over your children’s hatred toward you is real, but we must ask: have you confessed your failures to God and sought His forgiveness? Scripture tells us, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). If you haven’t already, we urge you to bring your guilt before the Lord in repentance. He is ready to forgive and restore you. If there are specific sins you’ve committed against your children, have you sought their forgiveness as well? While their response is not in your control, humbly acknowledging your wrongdoing—without excuses—can be a step toward healing, even if reconciliation doesn’t come immediately. Remember, *"So far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all men"* (Romans 12:18).
That said, we must also speak truth into the pain of their rejection. Jesus Himself was betrayed, rejected, and despised (Isaiah 53:3), so He understands the depth of your sorrow. In moments like these, it’s vital to cling to God’s promise: *"I will never leave you nor forsake you"* (Hebrews 13:5). Even if your children have turned away, God has not. Your heavenly Father loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3), and He can redeem even the most broken relationships. We encourage you to pray for your children daily, asking God to soften their hearts and bring conviction where needed. Pray that they would come to know the Lord’s love and forgiveness, for only He can heal the wounds between you.
You’ve asked for help to "forgive and forget" your children, and we understand the desire to release the pain. However, forgiveness is not about erasing memories or pretending the hurt didn’t happen. True forgiveness is a choice to release bitterness and trust God’s justice and mercy. Jesus commands us to forgive *"seventy times seven"* (Matthew 18:22), not because our offenders deserve it, but because we’ve been forgiven infinitely more by God. Forgiveness is a process, and it often requires supernatural strength. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you (Philippians 4:13). As for "forgetting," that is God’s domain (Hebrews 8:12). Your role is to surrender the pain to Him daily and refuse to let resentment take root.
Your request for a "new family" is one we bring before the Lord with caution and hope. While God can indeed bring new, godly relationships into your life—whether through a church family, friends, or even a restored relationship with your children—we must be careful not to demand of God what only He can decide. His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:9), and His timing is perfect. Instead of asking Him to replace your family, ask Him to fill the loneliness with His presence and to surround you with brothers and sisters in Christ who can walk alongside you (Psalm 68:6). The church is called to be a family to the fatherless and the brokenhearted (Psalm 68:5-6). Have you connected with a local Bible-believing church? If not, we strongly encourage you to do so. Fellowship with believers is not optional—it’s how God designed us to endure hardship (Hebrews 10:24-25).
Lastly, we notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus. This is not a small matter. Scripture is clear: *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5). There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved or approach the Father (Acts 4:12). If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so now. Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). It is only through Christ that we have access to the Father’s throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16). If you *have* trusted in Jesus but simply omitted His name in your request, we gently remind you that prayer is most powerful when we come boldly in His name (John 14:13-14).
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious child of Yours who is carrying the weight of rejection, guilt, and loneliness. Lord, You see the tears they’ve cried in silence, and You know the depth of their pain. We ask that You would meet them in this place of brokenness and remind them that they are not abandoned—You are their ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). Father, if there is unconfessed sin, bring conviction and lead them to repentance. Wash them clean with the blood of Jesus and restore their joy in Your salvation (Psalm 51:12).
Lord, we pray for their children. Soften their hearts, Lord, and break the chains of bitterness or unforgiveness that may bind them. Draw them to Yourself, Father, and let them experience Your love in a way that compels them to seek reconciliation. If there are wounds in this family that only You can heal, we ask for Your miraculous intervention. Let forgiveness flow like a river, and let Your peace guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Father, we ask that You would surround this dear one with a community of believers who will love them as family. Lead them to a church where they can be discipled, encouraged, and sent out in Your name. Fill the loneliness with Your presence, Lord, and let them know the comfort of the Holy Spirit (John 14:26).
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that say they are worthless or beyond redemption. Lord, let them see themselves as You see them—redeemed, loved, and chosen. Give them the strength to forgive, even when it feels impossible, and the grace to trust You with the outcome.
Finally, Father, we pray all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Let Your will be done in their life, and let Your kingdom come in their family. We trust You, Lord, and we thank You for hearing our prayers. Amen.
We encourage you to meditate on these scriptures in the coming days:
- *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit."* (Psalm 34:18)
- *"Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you."* (1 Peter 5:7)
- *"For I know the plans that I have for you,’ says the Lord, ‘plans for peace and not for evil, to give you hope and a future."* (Jeremiah 29:11)
You are not alone in this. Keep seeking the Lord, and He will restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Stay in His Word, stay in prayer, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it. We are standing with you in prayer.
