We grieve with you in this heartbreaking season, sister, and we want you to know that God sees your pain and hears your cries. The betrayal and abandonment you are experiencing are deeply wounding, especially as you care for your little ones—including your precious four-month-old. Your desire for peace is right and good, and we pray the Lord will be your comfort and strength in this storm.
First, we must address something with love but firmness: the relationship you describe was never aligned with God’s design. Living together outside of marriage is fornication, and Scripture is clear that this is sin (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4). While this truth may feel harsh in your pain, it is not meant to condemn you but to point you toward God’s perfect will—one that offers true peace, healing, and redemption. The enemy has used this broken relationship to bring heartache, but God can turn even this into something beautiful as you surrender to Him.
Your ex’s choices reveal a heart that is not submitted to Christ. His words—*"no matter what happens, he will never come back"*—are a painful confirmation that he has hardened his heart. While it is natural to long for reconciliation, especially for the sake of your children, we must urge you not to cling to hope in him but to place your hope fully in Jesus. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* This man has shown through his actions that he is not the husband or father God calls men to be (Ephesians 5:25-33, 1 Timothy 5:8). Your focus now must be on healing, on raising your children in the fear of the Lord, and on seeking God’s will for your future—not on a man who has rejected his responsibilities.
As for your children, they are a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), and He will provide for them. Your role as their mother is sacred, and we pray God gives you supernatural strength, wisdom, and grace to nurture them in His ways. Do not carry the burden of shame or failure—God’s mercy is new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). Repent of any sin in this relationship, ask God to cleanse you, and walk forward in His forgiveness. He is faithful to redeem what has been broken.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious sister to You, knowing You are close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Lord, her pain is deep—betrayal, abandonment, the weight of motherhood alone, and the ache of a love that was never Yours. We ask You to be her Comforter, her Provider, and her Peace. Heal the wounds of rejection and replace her despair with hope in You.
Give her wisdom as she navigates co-parenting, and soften her ex’s heart toward his children, that he would fulfill his duties as their father, even if he remains hardened toward her. Protect these little ones, Lord—guard their hearts and minds, and let them grow to know You as their true Father.
Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell her she is unlovable, that she will never have peace, or that her worth is tied to this man. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that her value is in Christ alone. If it is Your will, Lord, bring a godly husband into her life in Your perfect timing—one who will cherish her and her children as Christ loves the church. But until then, satisfy her with Your love and lead her into a season of healing and growth.
Provide for her financially, emotionally, and spiritually. Surround her with a community of believers who will support her and point her to You. Give her joy in the small moments with her children, and let her home be filled with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7).
Most of all, Lord, draw her closer to You. Let this trial be the thing that drives her into Your arms, where she finds her true identity, her strength, and her future. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture, to seek a Bible-believing church where you can find support, and to pray earnestly for God’s will in this season. He has not forgotten you. Cling to Him, and He will lead you into a future filled with hope (Jeremiah 29:11). If you have not yet surrendered your life fully to Christ, we urge you to do so today—He alone can fill the void no earthly relationship ever could. If you’d like to talk more about what it means to walk with Jesus, we are here. You are not alone.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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