Family Protection

[Cralmilan]

Lord I pray that my older daughter will have a blessed day. Lord, I pray that she will see how her action is very hurtful. I pray that she will be grateful and thankfuly for har jobs and her supportive family. Lord remove the overreach of this young man’s mother swiftly who has no biblical authority to speak into my older daughter’s life or speaking word curse upon me and my family. Lord You see her instigation to cause chaos and satisfaction she gets from dividing, judging and corrupting my family. Her counsel for my daughter to live together, have children outside of marriage, having her son exploiting my daughter income for his use, look down upon our family, the way we worship, demanding my daughter treat this living arrangement as a marriage, puting their family before her own family God has blessed her with, cause division, isolation on her suppotive network and making my daughter feel worthless then have her confide in her only when her son mistreat her. She does not care for my daughter she just selfishly want to take on a responsiblity that is not her. This young man's mother instigate chaos then want to act as a hero to solve the chaos she created. She always looks out for her own son. These people have isolate my daughter from her supportive network in order to control, brainwash her and keep their family life together. Deliberately keep my daughter away for her supportive network. This young man is controling, manipulative, laziness, dishonest, corrupted and rebellious. He speak to my daughter with authority and she obeys him. Lord I ask for mercy upon my daughter today and rescue and guide her out of this ungodly situation. This young man's mother instigate the manipulation, she has placed undue responsiblities on my daughter to take care of her son. He is not getting better just more demanding and controlling towards my daughter and disrespectful toward our family. This woman’s ungodly, pride, destruction, selfish, jealousy and manipulation are rooted in darkness, and I pray the Lord exposes her motives and frustrates every plan she has to control, divide and isolate my daughter from me, her siblings, family and church friends. Lord I pray that You will bring my daughter out of this darkness and into Your light. This stronghold has been held on too long, Lord. I declare that my daughter is not homeless, nor does she need this woman’s approval, or be a part of her family or guidance. My daughter has a loving, supportive family who has raised her in the ways of the Lord, and I pray the Holy Spirit breaks the hold of this toxic influence over her heart. This woman is jealous and looks down upon my daugther and our family but she insist on my daughter to go to her for guidance on how to stay in this toxic relationship with her son. Lord I pray this mother will see she is enabling her son to be disrespectful and corrupted towards others. I pray my daughter will remember she is the Child of the Most High God, she does not belong to this man's family and for her to release herself for this toxic lifestyle swiftly with no regrets. Let her stop using her family as a financial resource to help her sustain this man's needs. Give her the wisdom to protect her finances from him. He should not be allow to use the ungodly living relationship as a marriage. Help and guide my daughter to not imitate this young man stubbishness, gossiping and mocking behaviors toward her family and restore her grateful, gracious, loving, respectful and considerate manner. Fill her with the Holy Spirit. Block and frustrate every word curses, break every chains, every scheme and every plots from this woman and her son. This young man is not ready for a relationship. He is not a shepherd. Open my daughter's eyes to see this and put herself and her family before him. I pray his father will have him move back home alone and have his wife focus on her own children. Father, I ask that You to open my older daughter’s eyes to the truth. Let her see this man for who he is, not a husband, not a provider, not a spiritual leader, but a stumbling block in her walk with You. I pray she would no longer defend, admire or commit this relationship and living arrangement, or take on responsibilities that are not hers to bear. Lord let her see the exhaustion and financial hardship she Is experiences is due to living with this young man outside of marriage. Guide her Lord to not take out anymore credit card to support this man and this toxic lifestyle. He is lazy, manipulative, dishonest, exploit her finances for his own benefit and isolate her from supportive people who care for her. Jesus I ask that You guidance my older daughter to stop imitating this young man's behaviors toward me. She has been cold, ungrateful, degrading and rude toward me. I am not sure how much more I can take of this behavior. Lord soften my daughter's heart to receive Your conviction, and grant her the courage to walk away from this bondage with no regrets. Guide back to follow the biblical teachings and stop taking her family for grant and put this young man and his family before her faith and her family. Jesus I ask You to intervene supernaturally, removing every obstacle and every voice that contradicts Your Word. Let my daughter hunger for righteousness be reignited, and let her return to the safety and wisdom of her family and church community. Lord thank you for show me the message from this woman says it makes her heart happy that my daughter is following her lead and not a part of her church community anymore. Now she is intervening in my daughter job trying to work there. Lord help my daughter to stop confiding in this woman and helping her. She does not respect my daughter. Lord I pray that she will put her faith and trust in You again so she can regain her self worth. I pray Lord that she will see her worth in You and not allow these people that make her feel worthless and familialess anymore. This woman need to focus and fix her own family. Her son is not ready for a relationship. Lord grant my daughter the wisdom, self worth and courage to leave this unhealthy ungodly relationship swiftly. This has been going on for too many years and these people division, bullying, manipulation, dishonesty and isolation continues to manifest. This young man has taken an authoritative role in her life and she obeys his order. She avoid standing up for herself so he is alway in control with his mother supports, encouranges and enables his behaviors. Lord remove this stubborn hold they have upon her and set her free. He is not a shephard and he is not her significant other. I pray that she will see that, stop ignoring the red flagee. My daughter is a child of the Most High God, she belong to You and she does not belong to this manipulating young man and his family. My daughter is alway exhausted, forgetful and lives in chaos with this young man but blame this on her jobs, friends or family members. Give her the wisdom, knowledge and courage to not put up with his bullying, dishonesty, controlling and exploitation. This young man's mother is now interfering in my daughter new promoted job in a negative way. She controls, manipulates and undermines my daughter but then she acts as if she has her best interests at heart. My daughter is such an inspiring young lady, admired and loved by everyone but everyone is witnessing her exhaustion and withdrawal. I thank You Lord for the job promotion you have blessed her with last month. Her jobs serves such a beautiful purpose for others. It is sad to see my daughter blinded and suffering this way. Lord guide my daughter to not put the young man and his family before her faith, supportive family, friends and jobs. I plead the precious blood over me and my children. No weapon formed against us shall prosper. Jesus restore the peace, fellowship, happiness, respect, unity and freedom. Lord, I pray that Your supernatural love, favor, protection will overflow in me and my family and You will heal all the brokenness. I pray when my older daughter come to visit that she will not be influence by this young man hatred and manipulation toward me and her siblings. Lord I know nothing is impossible for You. Jesus I ask for a Godly spouse for her. Bless her with Your peace, complete restoration and protect my daughter from going down the disruptive path. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen.

 

[Articles]

We join you in lifting up your older daughter and your family before the throne of grace, and we thank you for sharing this heavy burden with such honesty and discernment. We hear your pain as a parent who has raised your daughter in the ways of the Lord and now watches her entangled in a relationship that is draining her joy, her finances, her fellowship and her witness. We agree with you that this is not a small matter but a spiritual battle for her heart, her future and her family.

We must speak plainly about what Scripture calls this living arrangement. To live together as if married without being married is fornication, and God calls His children to flee from it. Hebrews 13:4 says Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. And 1 Corinthians 6:18 says Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. This young man is not her husband, he is not her spiritual leader or provider, and this arrangement must not be treated as a marriage because it is not one in the eyes of God. Marriage is a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, and any courtship should be entered with the clear goal of godly marriage to another believer in Christ. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? The counsel this young man's mother is giving, to live together, to have children outside of marriage, to exploit your daughter's income, to put his family before her own family and before her faith, is ungodly counsel. Psalm 1:1 says Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stand on the path of sinners, nor sit in the seat of scoffers. And 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns Do not be deceived. Evil companionships corrupt good morals. We rebuke that counsel and we agree with you that this mother has no biblical authority to speak into your daughter's life, to place undue responsibilities upon her, or to speak word curses over you and your family.

We also see the pattern you describe of control, manipulation, isolation, financial exploitation and disrespect. This is not love, and it is not the shepherding leadership God requires of a man who would pursue marriage. A godly man protects, provides, leads with humility and honors the family God gave to his beloved. This young man as you describe him is demanding and controlling while also being lazy and dishonest, and he is being enabled rather than corrected. We pray that his father would step in with godly authority and that this mother would turn her attention to her own household rather than seeking to control your daughter. We also lovingly rebuke the cold, ungrateful and mocking behavior your daughter has shown toward you. Ephesians 6:2 says Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise. Even as an adult, she is called to honor you and not to imitate gossip, stubbornness and contempt.

We encourage you to continue to stand firm in love without enabling the sin. Do not provide financial resources that sustain this fornication and exploitation. Loving boundaries are biblical. Continue to keep the door open for repentance and restoration, speak the truth in love, and surround yourself with your church family for wisdom and accountability. We thank God with you for the promotion He has given your daughter and for the beautiful purpose in her work, and we pray she will see that her exhaustion and financial hardship are not from her job or her supportive family but from the weight of this yoking outside of God's will. We pray she will stop taking on credit card debt to support this man and will learn to protect what God has entrusted to her.

We pray together now for her deliverance and for your family.

Father in heaven, in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord we come before You together for this precious daughter. You see her, You know her by name, and You see the confusion, exhaustion and chains that have bound her. We ask You to open her eyes to see this relationship as You see it, not as a marriage but as a stumbling block to her walk with You. Remove the veil from her eyes, soften her heart to receive Your conviction, and grant her godly sorrow that leads to repentance. Forgive her for fornication and for dishonoring You and her family, and wash her clean through the blood of Jesus. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit and restore to her a hunger for righteousness, for Your Word and for the fellowship of her family and church community.

Lord, we ask You to expose and frustrate every manipulative scheme, every word curse and every plan to divide, isolate and control her. Isaiah 54:17 says No weapon that is formed against you will prevail; and you will condemn every tongue that rises against you in judgment. We plead that promise over this mother and her children. Break every chain, block every scheme, and let no weapon formed against them prosper. We pray You would frustrate the overreach of this young man's mother, reveal her motives, and cause her influence to lose its hold. Let our sister no longer confide in one who looks down on her and makes her feel worthless, but let her remember she is a child of the Most High God, fearfully and wonderfully made, and that her worth is found in You alone.

Father, give this daughter wisdom, self-control and holy courage to walk away swiftly from this ungodly and unhealthy living arrangement with no regrets. Give her strength to protect her finances, to refuse to be exploited, and to put You and her family before this man and his family. We pray 2 Timothy 1:7 over her, For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control. Teach her to resist the devil and his lies, for James 4:7 says Be subject therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Lead her out of darkness into Your marvelous light, and let her no longer defend or admire what is harming her.

We also lift up this young man and his mother to You, Lord. We pray You would bring them to repentance, that the young man would learn diligence, honesty and respect, and that his mother would cease enabling and controlling and would steward her own household well.

Lord, restore peace, unity, respect and joy to this family. Pour out Your supernatural love, favor and protection over this mother, her daughter and all her children. Heal the brokenness, guard their hearts when they are together so that hatred and manipulation have no place, and guide this daughter back to the safety and wisdom of her supportive network. In Your perfect time, we ask You to bless her with a godly spouse, a man who will love her as Christ loves the church, who will honor marriage and lead her closer to You.

We thank You that nothing is impossible for You and that You are able to do exceedingly more than we ask. We trust You to complete the work You began in this daughter whom You have raised for Your glory. In the mighty and only name by which we are saved, Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.

 

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We hear how heavy this has been for you, carrying love for your older daughter while watching her grow exhausted, isolated and pulled away from the family and church community that has always supported her. It is painful to see her finances strained, her work affected, and your relationship with her feel cold and distant, and we are so sorry you are walking through this.

One thing that may help as you continue to love her is thinking about boundaries as a kind of property line for what each person is responsible for, our values, choices, time, energy and finances. When those lines get blurred, it becomes hard to say a clear yes or no without guilt or fear. You cannot make choices for your daughter or for this young man and his mother, but you can keep your own lines steady with love, staying connected without taking on responsibilities that are not yours to carry.

A gentle next step we have seen help other parents in a similar place is to keep a low pressure door open with your daughter, listening more than correcting so she does not feel she has to defend the relationship to stay in contact with you. It can also help to talk with a trusted pastor or counselor yourself for wisdom and for a safety plan, and to protect your own peace and finances while you pray. If her exhaustion and forgetfulness continue, encourage her alongside prayer to see a medical professional for care.

Father, we lift this mother and her daughter to You in Jesus' name. Cover them with Your protection, quiet the chaos, and break the hold of control and isolation. Give this daughter clarity, courage and a renewed sense of her worth in You, and give her mother wisdom, rest and steady hope as she loves her. Lead them both back to safe, supportive community. Amen.

 

[Windwold]

Praying with you for your daughter and all family in Jesus'name, Amen

 

[Alisha Kirshman]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your prayer as a mother has been heard, and we have brought your burden before the Lord with you. We have grieved with you over the heaviness you carry for your older daughter, and we have given thanks with you for the good gifts God has already shown her, especially in her work and in the promotion He has lately granted her.

We join you in asking the Lord for deliverance and restoration, and we do so upon the ground of His own Word. Scripture teaches that salvation is through Jesus Christ alone, and that marriage is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and that living together and the union of the body belong within that covenant alone. For this reason we cannot affirm or ask God to bless a living arrangement outside of marriage as if it were marriage, for it is not. We pray instead that God will grant repentance, clarity and courage to turn from what is contrary to His design, and to walk again in the light.

We have prayed that the Lord will open your daughter's eyes to see this relationship as it truly is, not as a husband and provider and spiritual shepherd, but as a stumbling block to her walk with Christ. We have asked that He will break the hold of controlling and manipulative influences over her, frustrate every scheme that would divide and isolate her from her family and from her church, and expose what is done in darkness. We have prayed that He will give her wisdom to protect what He has entrusted to her, to steward her finances with prudence, to incur no further debt to sustain what is ungodly and exhausting, and to remember that she is not without home or hope, for she has a family that loves her and a Saviour who has bought her with His blood.

We have prayed also for you, that the Lord will guard your heart when you are met with coldness and harsh words, and that He will keep you from growing weary in love and prayer. It is the lot of God's people sometimes to bear reproach, yet God has not forsaken you. Deliverance is solely by the power of God. He found a ransom, and that ransom is Christ Himself. As He brought Israel forth when the lamb was slain, so He is able to bring your daughter forth out of confusion and bondage, and to attend that deliverance with enrichment. He who restored Peter with a look, and with the crowing of a cock brought him to tears and then to usefulness again, is able to restore one who has wandered, and to make her afterwards a stronger witness of His grace.

Therefore we pray in this way. Father, we plead the blood of Jesus over this mother and her children. Thou hast been our dwelling place in all generations, and Thou changest not. Look in mercy upon this daughter. Soften her heart to receive Thy conviction, break every chain that binds her, and block every voice that contradicts Thy Word. Grant her to hunger again for righteousness, to love Thy people, to delight in the breaking of bread and the fellowship of Thy house, and to find her worth not in the approval of others but in being a child of the Most High God. Give her wisdom, self worth and holy courage to walk away from bondage with no regrets, and to return to the safety and wisdom of family and church community. Protect her daily work, let her serve with joy and not with exhaustion, and guard her from those who would interfere with the calling Thou hast given her. Restore to this family peace, fellowship, respect and unity. Let the mother and her children declare the works of the Lord after this affliction, and say, He brought us forth. We ask that in Thy time Thou wouldst provide a godly spouse according to Thy will, a man who will shepherd as Christ shepherds His church, but above all we ask that Thou wouldst be her portion now. Turn even those who have done harm toward repentance, and let Thy justice and Thy mercy both be seen. This we ask in the name of Jesus Christ our only hope, Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.