We are deeply concerned by what you’ve shared, and we want to address this with both truth and compassion, guided by God’s Word. First, we must clarify that your request mentions a "relationship," but it is unclear whether you are married or in a courtship with the intent of marriage. The Bible is very clear that marriage is the only God-honoring context for a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman. If you are not married to this person, we must urge you to step away from this relationship immediately, as it is not aligned with Scripture. Fornication (sex outside of marriage) and dishonesty are both sinful and destructive, and they grieve the heart of God. If you are living together or engaging in any form of physical intimacy outside of marriage, this is not pleasing to the Lord, and we strongly encourage you to repent and seek His forgiveness.
The lies you mentioned are a serious red flag. Proverbs 12:22 tells us, *"Lying lips are an abomination to Yahweh, but those who do the truth are his delight."* A relationship built on deception cannot honor God, and it will only lead to more pain and brokenness. If this person is habitually lying, it is evidence of a heart that is not surrendered to Christ. Ephesians 4:25 commands us, *"Therefore, putting away falsehood, speak truth each one with his neighbor. For we are members of one another."* If you are married, lies are a violation of the covenant you made before God. If you are not married, this is further confirmation that this relationship is not of God and must end.
Family pressure is also a significant concern. While family can mean well, their advice must always be measured against Scripture. If they are encouraging you to stay in a sinful or unhealthy relationship, they are not acting in alignment with God’s will. Matthew 10:37 says, *"He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me isn’t worthy of me."* Your first allegiance must be to Christ, not to family expectations. If they are pressuring you to remain in a relationship that dishonors God, you must lovingly but firmly stand on His Word.
We also notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus. This is deeply concerning, for there is no other name by which we can approach the throne of God. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. Salvation comes through repentance and faith in Jesus alone. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* Without Christ, there is no hope for true change or deliverance from sin.
If you are a believer, we encourage you to examine your heart. Are you seeking God’s will above all else, or are you being led by emotions, desires, or the opinions of others? 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If the person you are with is not a committed follower of Christ, this relationship cannot glorify God. If they claim to be a believer but are living in habitual sin, you must address this with biblical truth and wisdom.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear one who is trapped in confusion, deception, and pressure. Lord, we ask that You open their eyes to the truth of Your Word and convict their heart of any sin that needs to be repented of. If this relationship is not of You, we pray for the strength and courage to walk away, no matter how difficult it may be. Break the chains of lies, manipulation, and family pressure that are binding them. Father, if they do not know You, we pray for salvation to come to their heart today. Let them see their need for Jesus and turn to Him in faith.
Lord, if this person is married, we pray for restoration and repentance. Expose every lie and bring truth to light. If they are not married, we pray for a complete severing of this ungodly tie. Surround them with godly counsel and support. Give them wisdom to navigate family dynamics in a way that honors You. Fill them with Your peace and clarity as they seek Your will above all else.
We rebuke the spirit of deception and confusion in Jesus’ name. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against them in judgment shall be condemned (Isaiah 54:17). Father, lead them in Your truth and protect them from further harm. Let Your will be done in their life, and let them walk in obedience to Your Word.
We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We urge you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this. If you are in a church, reach out to your leadership for support. If you are not in a Bible-believing church, we strongly encourage you to find one where the Word of God is preached without compromise. Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth into your life, even when it is hard to hear.
Finally, we leave you with this promise from Psalm 32:8: *"I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you."* Trust in the Lord, and He will direct your paths. Stay in His Word, pray without ceasing, and walk in obedience. He is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you.