We come before the Lord with you in this difficult family situation, lifting up your mother, your siblings, and these caregivers to the throne of grace. The heartache and frustration you describe are deeply felt, and we know that God sees the injustice and the strife that has taken root in your family. Let us first address the importance of invoking the name of Jesus in prayer, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. As Scripture declares, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). It is in His name alone that we find salvation, authority, and the power to see change. If you have not yet placed your full trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so, for *"if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB). Without Him, our prayers lack the divine connection needed to move mountains.
Your concern for your mother’s well-being is righteous, and it is clear that the current caregivers are not only neglectful but are fostering division and manipulation within your family. This is not of God. Scripture warns us about the dangers of gossip, laziness, and those who sow discord: *"A worthless person, a man of iniquity, is he who walks with a perverse mouth; who winks with his eyes, who signals with his feet, who motions with his fingers; in whose heart is perverseness, who devises evil continually, who always sows discord"* (Proverbs 6:12-14, WEB). These women are not acting as true caregivers but as stumbling blocks, and their influence is causing harm. Their laziness and inability to properly assist your mother—especially in emergencies—is a serious failing that puts her at risk. Your brother’s refusal to listen to the concerns of the rest of the family is also troubling, as it reveals a lack of wisdom and unity. *"Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is victory"* (Proverbs 11:14, WEB). It is not right for two siblings to dominate decisions that affect the entire family, especially when their choices are harmful.
The financial exploitation you mention is another grave concern. Paying these women for neglect and gossip is not stewarding your family’s resources wisely. *"Don’t withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in the power of your hand to do it"* (Proverbs 3:27, WEB). Your mother deserves caregivers who will honor her, serve her with diligence, and protect her dignity. The fear that these women may demand money if terminated only adds to the injustice, but we must trust that God will provide a way out. *"No weapon that is formed against you will prevail; and you will condemn every tongue that rises against you in judgment. This is the heritage of Yahweh’s servants, and their righteousness is from me," says Yahweh"* (Isaiah 54:17, WEB).
We also sense a deeper spiritual need in your family. The strife, stubbornness, and manipulation are symptoms of hearts that may not be fully surrendered to Christ. True unity and wisdom come only when we submit to God’s will. *"If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, without any doubting"* (James 1:5-6, WEB). Your brother and sister’s resistance to reason suggests they may be influenced by pride or even spiritual blindness. We must pray that their eyes are opened and that they turn to the Lord for guidance rather than relying on their own understanding or the whispers of these caregivers.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this family and their deep need for Your intervention. Lord, You see the injustice taking place—the neglect of this precious mother, the laziness and gossip of these caregivers, and the division among siblings. We ask You to expose the truth and bring conviction to the hearts of those who are enabling this harm. Soften the hearts of the brother and sister who are resisting wisdom, Lord. Open their eyes to see the danger their choices are causing. Give them a spirit of humility to listen to their siblings and to seek Your will above all else.
Father, we pray for protection over this mother. Guard her from falls, from neglect, and from the emotional toll of this situation. Raise up godly, compassionate, and capable caregivers who will serve her with integrity and love. Break the hold that these current caregivers have over the family, Lord. If they are seeking financial gain or control, expose their motives and remove their influence. Provide a way for this family to transition to better care without fear of retaliation or extortion.
Lord, we also pray for unity among these siblings. Heal the divisions that have been sown by gossip and stubbornness. Let them come together in love and wisdom, seeking what is best for their mother and for one another. Convict them of any pride, selfishness, or lack of faith that is hindering Your work in their lives. Draw each of them closer to You, Father. May this trial lead them to repentance and a deeper trust in Your provision.
We rebuke the spirit of manipulation, laziness, and discord that has taken root in this situation. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we command these influences to flee and for the peace of God to reign in this home. Let Your justice prevail, Lord, and let Your will be done in this family.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would move mightily in the hearts of every family member. If any do not know You, Lord, draw them to salvation through Jesus Christ. Let this trial be a turning point where they seek You first and trust in Your faithfulness. We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to continue standing firm in prayer and to seek wise counsel, perhaps from a trusted pastor or elder in your church, who can help mediate this situation with biblical wisdom. Do not grow weary in doing what is right, for *"let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9, WEB). Trust that God sees and He will act. He is a God of justice, and He will not allow His children to be oppressed forever. Keep pointing your family to Christ, for He alone can bring the healing and unity you all need.